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Vaginal lips

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To be wholly accurate, the vaginal lips should be called ‘vulval lips’. The outer lips are usually fleshy, and the inner lips are usually thin but, like every other part of the body, they come in all shapes and sizes. In some women, the inner lips are completely enclosed by the outer lips. In other women, the inner lips (labia minora) are larger than the outside lips. This is not unusual. It is perfectly natural and normal, but many women worry about it. It is a shame that pictures in men’s top-shelf magazines, TV programmes about ‘designer vaginas’, and advertising by profit-making clinics are making women feel abnormal when they are not. Images of female genitals have often been digitally altered and do not represent the normal, average woman. But, if the inner lips are so large that they are really upsetting you, it is possible to have them trimmed by a surgical operation.
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See a doctor

During the last few years, private clinics have started very aggressive marketing of cosmetic operations on the vaginal lips. Mainstream doctors think this is a worrying trend (see Useful contacts for an article to read), because the advertising aims to persuade women that they are abnormal when actually their vaginal lips are perfectly average. If you think your vaginal lips are abnormal, don’t go straight to a private clinic. Start by visiting a genitourinary medicine clinic. These clinics mainly test for genital infections, but deal with other problems as well. Explain to the doctor that you have not come for tests, but because you have another worry. You can then ask the doctor to examine your vaginal lips, and tell you whether or not they are abnormally large. The advantage of going to the sexual health clinic is that the doctors in these clinics examine dozens of women every day, so the doctor you see will be able to give you an accurate opinion. If the clinic doctor says that you are unusual, you can then ask your family doctor to arrange for an operation if you wish.


The operation to reduce the labia minora is simple. It can be done by a gynaecologist or a plastic surgeon. There are two ways of doing it.
  • The surgeon may simply trim the edges of the labia, in which case you may be left with a scar running along the edges of the labia.
  • The other method is to remove a fan-shaped portion of each lip, and then stitch the cut edges together. This reduces the size of the lip without much scarring, but problems with healing are more likely.

Both these operations may have problems such as bleeding and infection. Also, the vaginal lips contain many very sensitive nerve fibres, so these operations remove sexually-sensitive tissue and could lessen your sexual pleasure [MIMS Womens Health 2007;2(4):28–9]. They are cosmetic operations, so you would probably not be able to have it done under the National Health Service in the UK. You would have to have it done privately. Try to pluck up courage to ask your doctor to refer you to a suitable private gynaecologist or surgeon. Explain how troubled you are feeling. This is a better course of action than trying to find a good one yourself, which can be difficult.

Written by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Edited by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Last updated: Monday, January 23rd 2017


"Perfectly normal vulvas come in all shapes and sizes," says GP and comedian Dr Phil Hammond, "each different and beautiful in their own way." We receive lots of comments from women anxious about what their vulval lips should look like. Click on the video below for Dr Phil's reassuring commonsense on the subject.

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Posted by Ross on 19/01/2017 at 10:37

I have a problem with my inner lips they hanging down and im embarrassed about them and i don't know where to start please help??

Posted by Nikki on 27/11/2016 at 10:08

Thank you so much I have struggled my entire adult life thinking there was something seriously wrong with me, thinking that the reason my labia minora was so big is because I was supposed to be a boy..... thank you so much

Posted by Optional on 23/11/2016 at 02:03

One of these days I was masturbating and rubbed my clit vigorously. My left vaginal lip kind of swelled the next morning. It was there for a few days before the swelling went but now my left lip is sagging. It sometimes hurts when it touches my undies even though its almost been 3 months now. Is this normal?

Posted by Kaye on 12/10/2015 at 06:08

Why my vulva lips are color black? My clit is pink and the others but what happen to my vulva lips? Did I do something wrong? I never had a sex and do I masturbation. Just rub.

Posted by Optional on 19/08/2015 at 04:45

I have puffy volva. it looks odd when I wear jeans or even any trouser ..what is the solution for that?

Posted by bobbi on 28/07/2015 at 02:35

I felt soooo much better about my huge hanging lips. I had always felt ashamed and never wanted a man to see them touch them or perform oral even when i was young and had an amazing body it held me back i have not had a serious relationship for many years and i do want to meet a man and be i intimate but i am petrified about how he might react but after reading all of the other womens comments i dont feel like a freak any more and if and when i do find a partner he will have to love me for me not my vagina lips

Posted by syddd on 15/06/2015 at 11:37

Okay well I am 16 years old and i have noticed since i was younger that the color of my vagina lips are purple. The top part of my vagina is normal color but when you go more down its a purplish color and so is my clit. On my clit there are bumbs at the very end. I shower and clean my lady parts really good. Never had sex. I dont have any stds i havent had any infections. Just wondering if this is normal? Pls help i need to know and to scared/embarrassed to go to the doctors. Is it the way i sit or my pants or what? I have done but of research but still worried about my lady parts.

Posted by Optional on 13/06/2015 at 01:29

one of my inner vagina lips keeps getting caught in my vagina everytime i stand or try to sit of bend over or even walk. It hurts and its uncomfortable. What do I do?

Posted by Rita on 24/05/2015 at 10:35

Please help! So last night my one vulval lip slightly itched (I have no stds or yeast infection- it was just a small itch from my underwear being positioned weird) and now it's larger than the other and it looks folded outward. Please help!! I don't know what it is or what to do! I'm a 16 year old virgin if that helps

Posted by Optional on 08/04/2015 at 05:02

My girlfriend have a problem related to labia minor, her labia lips are different in Shape, left is big n right is small. Is it normal!!!

Posted by #concerned on 02/04/2015 at 10:38

I've had sex with my boyfriend today and during sex I just started bleeding asif I was urinating. ..few hours later I see black spots inside my viginal lips and it scares me a lot.what could this be

Posted by Optional on 25/01/2015 at 11:55

only one of my inner lips of my vagina is bigger than the other. Im not really sure if its normal but I am very self-conscious of it and I think its very un flattering. Is this something that will ever go away in the future or will it just get larger over time?

Posted by Optional on 24/01/2015 at 03:21

I have a problem with my vaginal lips I wake up this morning it was itching it was last day of menstration when I go to use toilet I notice the ithcness I go check it on the mirrow it was redish but no blistars but I was uncomfortable was can I use for this n I would like to know the cause of it am worry

Posted by SOS please on 08/01/2015 at 08:24

My vagina started hurting yesterday and I didn't think much of it at the time ... But now .. I'm can barely handle the pain and it is swollen alot .....I'm scared to tell anyone BC I'm 14 and they would think I had sex .. I promise in a virgin... Closing my legs hurts soooo bad is redish pink , burning sensation, and is throbbing!!! HELP PLEASE. IM SCARED !!!!!!!!

Posted by Optional on 19/11/2014 at 10:12

I have one inner lip ALOT bigger than the other inner lip. Is this okay and if so will it even out soon or should I see a doctor??? Help??!!

Posted by Optional on 31/10/2014 at 07:04

Ok so I have one labita lip that is way bigger than the other because it got caught and pulled and for the past two days, it's been driving me CRAZY!!please help I really don't want surgery

Posted by Optional on 26/08/2014 at 08:59

Hi I have inner lips bigger than my outta lips I have hated them my hole teenage life am now 22 and pregnant so am worried about giving birth with these lips my partner and nurses all looking am really embarrassed of them I do not let my patter stare at me in underwear I don't like him rubbing the lips or go down on me because am so embarrassed of them he don't seemed bothered in them and has never said anything about my lips but its me who has the problem I never go swimming or to the beach with swimwear on i have sex in the dark because don't won't to show my partner its to embarrassing I don't talk to anyone about this not my friends not any boyfriend not my mum or sisters or doctor no one I have slept with 8 lads and not 1 has said anything about it I don't no why I thought the lads would go tell there friends and everyone will no about it and make fun of me but no one has said anything they might like them i don't no lol they always come back for more if you understand me lol I thought I was the only one with this problem but am not witch is good thing but I still feel horrible about these enlarge lips and ill do anything to get rid of them I have to give birth in 7 months witch I can't wait to have a baby but am so embarrassed about these lips there taking over my life as am also got bad anxiety and have no conference ill do anything to get these lips off please please help :-(

Posted by Optional on 03/08/2014 at 02:45

I have big vagina inner lips like there not hanging and fat but when I stand up naked you can see it and idk if it's normal I look at other normal vaginas and they look so flat

Posted by Optional on 19/08/2013 at 06:54

I have a spot on the inner lips of my vaginia it's small but it's the same colour as my skin what is it? Is it something serious or. Something that will go away

Posted by tamz on 17/06/2013 at 06:02

First off, women come in a million shapes and sizes. If you are under the age of 18 and feel embarrassed by your vagina do not have sex. You are too young. I an 25 yrs old, my first time I was 18 yrs old. I held off being intimate until I was confident in myself. On my body my areola are huge, my nipples tiny and inverted and my left inner labia is muuuuuuuuch longer than the right. My boyfriend of 5 years loves it and sex is phenomenal. Again if you are embarrassed and ashamed you aren't ready to share your body with anyone. Work on yourself before you give up your individuality to look like the chick on tv.

Posted by Optional on 03/05/2013 at 03:51

I started noticing all this when I was 12... Even at a 12 year old it embarrassed me so much because of changing in front of friends and I was always just thinking about what was gonna happen if I ever had sex and if they would except it. I'm still a virgin and I don't know if I should get surgery or not I don't know how to tell my mom either. Can anyone could help me please? I've been reading all these comments and people saying its beautiful but I don't think it is I think it's embarrassing to me and I don't want it there but I'm to young for surgery I think so can someone PLEASE tell me how to tell my mom about it?:(

Posted by Optional on 26/02/2013 at 04:26

thank you so much .. i was so worried about my daughter as her vulva looks so much different from mine. You put my heart at rest. Sher had surgery inguinal hernia as an infant and i thought it had affected her. Now i know all is well . That just her body . thanks again. mother

Posted by depressing on 20/11/2012 at 12:35

Ohh, im not only one, But i like other girls feel embarrassing with this lips, cant go to beach. And, actually when i have sex its pain when ITs comming in, becoz, the that ugly skin first need to open and after just can go nice in. And i cant enjoy the sex. :( Can some girls pleas can write address for the clinic where i can do the treatment. If its possible Wakefield area. Thanks x

Posted by Optional on 16/05/2012 at 10:00

Don't change a thing. Your Vee-Jay is just fine. There are thousands of nerve endings in the inner or vulva minora that will be lost should they be "cut off" Stay away from these butchers

Posted by Optional on 21/04/2012 at 06:24

hi i am 14 and i hate my parts they are horrid and i know people say it is normal but they are stopping me from going to the beach with my friends and even considering having a partner i have recently been diagnosed with depression and this is not helping me. i can't have surgery as i am not old enough what is the age of consent to have the surgery ? please can someone help.

Posted by Optional on 10/01/2012 at 11:30

My vagina lips are swollen

Posted by Optional on 09/01/2012 at 04:53

I want to extend my vigina lips and make them thick is that possible

Posted by Optional on 03/01/2012 at 05:06

I am 41 year old married female and for the past 4 days I have been having itching in my clitoris and yesterday I found out that my right labia minora is swollen and is painful .I washed with warm water but the pain still persists with swelling

Posted by Anonymous on 03/01/2012 at 04:44

ok ... ive read alot of these comments .. and have realized its normal for my inner lips to be bigger than my outer ones ... but it really hasnt helped me feel any bettr about my own :/! is there not a NATURAL way to fix it without a doctor snippin down there !??! is there no certain things u can eat or things to put on it ? also i have constant discharge .. it doesnt stink .. but it doesnt smell like roses either .. :/ ,, idk what to do !! im still a virgin ,, but my bfs coming back to town this spring and hes going to want to go all the way ! i dont want him to b grossed out ! i need a quick fix . is there one ?!?!?!

Posted by Optional on 28/12/2011 at 12:56

what can i d to stop my vagina from itching?

Posted by sarah on 28/12/2011 at 04:57

I have one long inner lip that sticks out and looks really wierd. My boyfriend ias coming over tommorow night and I'm really scared that he is going to want to see my vagina and think it looks messed up.

Posted by Optional on 27/12/2011 at 07:49

One of my vulval lips is gray and larger than the other. My vagina is always itching and I thought I had a yeast infection but I don't have all of the symptoms. I really have no idea what is wrong with it. I haven't had my period yet. What is wrong with it?

Posted by kelly on 12/12/2011 at 10:59

ok so the inside of my vag is swollen but i have no pain no itch just a fishy smell and i feel bloated and gassy.. what do you think it is?!?!

Posted by Optional on 11/12/2011 at 01:22

Thank you so much for the information. It really helps people like me that think that having larger inner lips is not normal but IT IS :).

Posted by I had surgery on 28/11/2011 at 05:49

Well..mine were very long and so I went in the phone book and called gynos asking if they did labia minora surgery(wow..wasn't fun). I found a doctor and went to see him and it was sooo embarressing - after that got surgery and it was AMAZING!!!! But 7 years later I can say they are not as perfect as after surgery (sex does make it worse for people with worse elasticity) - it is kinda like skin on your face, it will always sag eventually. I do rec. calling a doctor if it was as bad as mine, I almost went to another city to a plastic surgeon but no way in heck could I have ever afforded that and thank god because I got it for free thanks to health care.

Posted by bridgette on 22/11/2011 at 07:15

im a french canadian girl.. and he is lucky to even get inside mine.. if he doesn't like them.. he can go play with his sint liek they are really that big..maybe three fingers long.

Posted by LionKing on 16/11/2011 at 09:11

Well,,,Look here all girls,,,,,I’ve had sex with few girls but saw many girls things,,,,it is totally normal for girls having large or small lips,,,,,I love larger cus they are more sexier to feel and play with and one side smaller and one side bigger is also normal,,, I don’t care about the color or looks, all I care about is that she has something for me and which I will treat her the best as I can cus she trusted me and sheared her private life with me,,,,,so pls, if any jerks complain just give him the finger or else he’s just using you…….I just love the bigger the better.

Posted by Worried on 14/11/2011 at 06:21

Hi guys I'm 22 I have the same problem my inner lips are longer I was soo worried but most of the guys I've been with love em so just try it without surgery trust me u will enjoy it : )

Posted by Optional on 26/10/2011 at 02:02

I dated a woman who also had inner lips hanging really its nothing to be ashamed of its actually a beautiful thing natural loved it so ladies don't get trimmed or cut stay as you are:)

Posted by Anxious_Girl on 23/10/2011 at 10:03

How about if your inner lips are in a little bit of pain?, because mine is. :(

Posted by Optional on 10/10/2011 at 09:15

On one of my inner lips theres a black spot? Would that be a birth mark? Or what? I don't know if to be worried or not? Please Help!

Posted by malleshwary on 08/10/2011 at 04:40

really iam very much impressed with your vulval inner lips are very big and i thought it to be abnormal i don't have any problem during sexual intercourse

Posted by Anonymous on 04/10/2011 at 06:34

So Im really thinking bout getting my lips cut becuz my inner lips are alot bigger than my outter ones and I dont like it my husband says hes seen worse but then hes says one of his exs had no lips and her vagina looked untouched. All i want is to have a good looking vagina for him. Im pregnant right now and i cant even see my lips but when i look in the mirror it gross's me out so much. I just want to know if i shuld get the surgery. So many ppl say different things. Im going to the doctor to see if i can get the surgery or will it cause problems.

Posted by pssstt! on 29/09/2011 at 12:43

Hey, so I've got 1 inner lip a lot longer than the other, so much longer that it actually hangs lower than my outer lips. It did bother me when I first started having sex but I realised if the guy likes u for who u are then ur beautiful to him no matter what. When I look at myself I'm not happy with the appearance of my vagina but my concern is not that my lip is to long, its that I have not had an orgasm yet, no matter what. I think it may be because there's so much excess skin down ther that it completely burys my clit... What I am worried about is am I going to go through life without ever having an orgasm because of my long lip? ?

Posted by Still ashamed on 21/09/2011 at 03:55

I'm 23 married and I'm still embarrassed to be naked in front of my husband with the lights on.. or even undress infront of my best friend. my inner lips hang much lower than the outer ones and I feel so deformed. Its nice to know I'm not alone. How did y'all get confidence because I worry daily about this :(

Posted by Izzy on 16/09/2011 at 11:06

Ladies - I'd just like to say that what Josh has said is quite correct. There's honestly no need to worry about your inner vulva lips protruding beyond the outer lips, because at least 50% of women's lips are like that. Why would you expect it to be otherwise? People's noses come in all shapes and sizes, as do their ears and their fingers and toes - why would you expect everyone to have uniform labia? If you ask a nurse or doctor they'll tell you that longer inner lips are common, that it's a total fallacy that most women's inner lips are smaller than the outer ones. It upsets me to think how many of you who are young are already so worried about this aspect of your body when you don't need to be, simply because somehow or other - I've no idea how - the notion has got into everybody's head that long inner lips are somehow 'not nice'. So please believe me when I tell you they are normal and natural and you certainly don't need surgery on them. Yes, there is an operation that can be done to shorten them, but that operation was originally developed because a very few women's lips were rubbing against their underwear in a way that was causing pain, and so the trimming was for medical reasons. This is not something that usually happens; most women never have the slightest bit of trouble with their labia, but for the few who do, the operation can cure the problem. All operations carry a risk, of course, so please don't consider this operation except on medical grounds. If your boyfriend is naive enough to think all women should have tiny inner lips completely hidden by bigger outer lips, just explain to him that he's wrong and that yours are perfectly normal. If he doesn't like them, well then, why would you want anything to do with such a shallow person? But Josh is right - everyone is unique, we're not all cut with a cookie cutter, but we're all perfectly normal. Don't get hung up on this issue and don't go mutilating yourself for no reason, just enjoy your body as it is. You're healthy ... and that in the end is all that matters.

Posted by josh on 08/09/2011 at 08:54

ATTENTION INSECURE YOUNG GIRLS. ive read allot of comments of young girls worried about the apperance of their vagina. firstly big pussylips are hot and there is nothing wronq with assymetrical flaps. vaginas come in all different shapes, colours and sizes and are nothing to be ashamed of, as goes the same with penises.we are all unique. no matter what you think never consider surgery on your genitals their beatiful the way they are

Posted by Optional on 20/08/2011 at 10:01

Hi, I'm actuallly surprised to see that I am not the only female who has this insecurity. I am 17 and my inner right labia is alot larger than my left. I've been self consious about this for some time now, and I'm glad too see that there are several women who have the same problem as me. I am sexually active and I've always been reluctant in allowing my boyfriend to go near my vagina. We've been together for about 2 years now and he's never complained or said anything negative about it. And I am delighted and very pleased to see that it is something normal and not unusual.

Posted by Optional on 12/08/2011 at 06:41

Ok so I'm realli scared I ready to loose mi virginity n my boyfriend been ready but I'm scared that wen he see me naked he be turned off not on I don't realli tell people about this because it's emmbarsseing and I jus feel all depreesed in the inside need help

Posted by Optional on 08/08/2011 at 11:47

Helpp! I'm so self concious of my vulva and I wont let anyone see it because I think its deformed! My left side is completely different from my right side. My right side is awful! My inner labia(or at least thats what I think it it, but Im not sure) hang wayyyy out! Like its probably an inch long and its darker than the rest of my vagina! I want surgery on it more than anything but I'm only 14! I don't know what to do, I'm soo ashamed of my vagina:(

Posted by Optional on 07/08/2011 at 02:19

My inner lip srunk when i was 12 and now my outer ones have really come out they etick out so bad that i wonder wether its normal and wether to get it checked out :/ im so embarrased. They have also turned browny purple on the end so i dont know if thats normal. Help!!

Posted by Optional on 06/08/2011 at 04:30

hey, im 16 and am just starting to do oral with guys but am verrry insecure about my vagina because the inner lips are almost the same size as the outside lips. tht makes me hesatant before letting anyone see "down my pants". ive tried looking it up but teenage guy dont give any responses. and theyre opion would be different i think :s please help someone under 20

Posted by We ARE "normal" on 27/07/2011 at 05:21

I have worried forever about the color/shape of my vagina. I feel SOOO self-conscious about it. I wish it was little and pink and what I think would be "normal." But my fiance has told me that they are ALL different. Different colors, different sizes, different shapes. That's normal. And out of the blue last night he was touching it and telling me over and over how "cute" it is. He loves it. I know he truly meant it. Guys love them because of what they are - no matter WHAT they look like. And they are ALL normal.

Posted by Optional on 25/07/2011 at 09:41

Hey , im a virgin and im only 13 but my left inner vagina lip hangs out kinda . I used to freak out over it and stuff until i learned that its completely normal . Guys dont care , as long as its clean with no diseases or anything . All vaginas look different . Dont worry yourself about it , your waisting time . I have 3 sisters and 2 of them have the same thing . And so does my mom . It runs in dna . Be happy (:

Posted by 5ami on 18/07/2011 at 10:15

Hi I am 16 and one of lips are bigger than the other one and I won't let my boyfriend touch me and he is starting to drift away from me (if you get what I mean) i don't know what to do. Am I old enough to surgery to make it smaller?

Posted by Optional on 16/07/2011 at 05:45

I've noticed that my inner vaginal lips have shrunken. They used to be bigger, thicker. They've also started itching inside the folds, perhaps I have a yeast infection. Is the lip shrinking normal, or should I see a Dr?

Posted by Concerned Teenager on 12/07/2011 at 01:10

Hello ! Im 17 and I have this problem , I have a scratch on the left side of the lips of my vagina. I don't know when I got the scratch but, it starts itching all the time and today I was cleaning myself and i went over it and it hurt SO bad it felt like putting alcohol on a open sore. I want to know what this is before I go to the doctor or anything ! Please help me !!! :) Thank You

Posted by Girls, READ THIS on 07/07/2011 at 04:20

I have a friend who is in the same boat as a lot of you women. She's actually sitting right next to me. I'm a guy, I'm in my mid 20s. I have had sex with many many partners, and I have never seen a vagina that is the same. They're like snowflakes. I actually prefer a girl who has a larger labia, as to one that doesn't. It gives your vagina a presence. All these "problems" and "deformaties" you all think you have are just who you are. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I have been with more girls with larger labias than i have with small, so looks like they're the minority.

Posted by Optional on 24/06/2011 at 07:46

Okay so i have only seen 1 or 2 comments about the same 'problem' i have. my right labia is noticeably larger than the other, in fact my left one is rather small and looks 'neat' to me, but the other one annoys me. id much rather have two larger lips then just the one. but is it right? or will the smaller one grow out maybe? the sizes differ two much, i hate it. feedback please?

Posted by Optional on 15/06/2011 at 11:54

I have a problem Im thirteen and feel like I have a fat vagina not the inside but like the outside around my clit I guess but I see on tv and comercials girls who lay down and theres are perfectly flat but mine sticks up and looks big I dont feel like sexy. I feel strange saying this but I have no were else to turn oh and my clit looks swollen on one side and the labia on that side looks swollen too and covers the other one. I just want relief and help plz.

Posted by Optional on 15/06/2011 at 03:22

hey i have a bad habit of masturbation from 8 years due to which my vaginal lips became loose.what to do to make them normal looking? Is masturbation is abnormal and bad for females?

Posted by Awkward Girl on 22/05/2011 at 03:20

I'm really worried because I have a vaginal 'tongue'.. like one of the inner lips is a lot longer than the others and it sticks out of my labia and literally looks like a tongue. Is this weird or unnattractive? It's soo embarrassing that I've told two of my boyfriends no to sex just because I didn't want them to see it. Help! Are there shrinking creams or something I can get?

Posted by Girl power on 16/05/2011 at 02:22

Hey everyone, I too have long inner lips and pudgy outer ones! Don't worry! Take a look at ALL the comments about hundreds of us women that have the exact same "problem" and u willrealize it's actually EXTREMELY normal! I was so ashamed of my vagina that I Wouldnt even wear swimsuits without shorts til my 20's..I worried and cried about it DAILY .. but I feel so free now knowing it's completely normal and accepting my body the way it is... U should too! U will feel much better if u accept yourself and don't worry... Guys sure don't worry about it at all!!!! Hope this helps at least 1 girl who suffered as much as I did to realize it's not worth ruining ur life worrying over, LOVE YOURSELF!! :)

Posted by LUkanako on 03/05/2011 at 02:07

you people might think im young but think about it most of you probably had this happen to you at 13 or 12. When my boyfriend tried to finger me i was scared because i thought it was a birth defect and he would not like it and think it was gross and weird. when i finally let him he didnt seemed shocked but who knows right? After reading this im not embarrassed to do that anymore or change in the girls changing room with other girls

Posted by Optional on 20/04/2011 at 01:30

i know alot of people say 'oh its nothing to worry about, you'll be fine' but i am so embrassed about my lips because to me they look massive, but ready through this has made me think im not the only one, but deep down its still there, i really am considering surgery, but im really not sure, but i can't carry on feeling like this, about my silly vagina lol, but when i see it, i just feel like crying, it actually really upsets me, i mean i bet all you girls vagina's are normal compared to mine! but ohwel, ay thats life at the end of the day.

Posted by Optional on 17/04/2011 at 11:05

i have really long inner lips, i no alot of people say, were all differnt, and i agree, but honestly, do men really think its normal?!

Posted by Optional on 13/03/2011 at 09:37

hey i'm 14 yr old but i'm scared because i've got purple/black vaginal flaps and don't know what to do is this normal?

Posted by Optional on 09/03/2011 at 07:32

Hi I'm 15 years old I don't no whether to be worried or not:/ my inner lips are large and are a greyish colour? I've turned down lads who want sex because I don't what them to see I'm really ashamed should I be worried?I'm awair its normal for them to be large but they don't look a normal colour:/ could I please have some advice I'm not really sure what to do:/ I'm to embarressed to tell my mum or see a doctor so I'm hoping you could help me? :)

Posted by bob. on 01/03/2011 at 05:10

hi, i'm 16 and kinda worried cause one side of mine is quite a lot bigger than the other, is that normal ?

Posted by Optional on 27/02/2011 at 12:22

i'm 15 and i was always worried about my vagina (i have big inner lips that always poke out of my outer ones) so much that i wouldnt wear only my underwear around my friends in case they saw the lump and i was really worried about having sex in case it was abnormal (im still a virgin and plan to be until after high school). after reading all this though, im completely happy about it, knowing that loads of people are the same as me anyway and that porn is a misrepresentation, like all the women have huge breasts and tiny vaginas and that most of the images in playboy or whatever are airbrushed. i mean, i knew they had probably been photoshopped (hello? what real woman looks like that?) but i never knew that they specifically chose women with small vaginas or made it look so. this makes me feel way more confident. i'd never DREAM of having a boob job (if some stupid boy complained about my Tiny Tits when we were gonna have sex or something then i would make sure to complain about about the size of his penis) so why should i have surgury on my vagina? and apparently, big inner lips mean BIGGER PLEASURE. i never knew about this before reading these comments, but now im looking forward to it! so girls, if your boyfriend is a teenager and DOES complain about the size/shape/colour of your vagina, tell him its completely normal and that he should stop watching so much porn. ^_^

Posted by 18 year old virgin from sa on 23/02/2011 at 01:04

im just so ashamed of my inner labia.. i hav never allowed a guy to touch my vagina.. if i gain weight will my outer lips mayb enclose my inner ones? i look at my vagina often nd jus cry... i thought its due to me being thin and all.. help?

Posted by Miranda on 21/02/2011 at 11:17

I am seventeen and considering Laviaplasty to reduce the size of my inner lips, however my mother says she'd rather I wait till i'm eighteen to get the procedure done so that my body will be more developed but I am so eager to get this done! Should I wait till i'm eighteen or does it really matter?

Posted by A.R on 16/02/2011 at 04:57

i have purple and gray on the outsides of the vagina,they are also larger and have expanded more from what they used to be when i was little. is this a serious infection i should be worried about?

Posted by Optional on 07/02/2011 at 04:14

I have this vulva lip its stickick out ugly it worries me a lot am a teen (crying) i need help a.s.a.p help

Posted by Optional on 02/02/2011 at 08:25

i have large inner vaginal lips and my husband loves 'em! but i have an unusual swelling (in between my outer and inner vuvla/vagina) just in my right side. it's been there for a year or so. the swelling gets larger when i'm sexually aroused but doesnt hurt/irritate me at all. it just worries me. whats wrong? i am planning 2 see a doc.

Posted by Optional on 02/02/2011 at 07:42

i used to have small inner vagina lips, but they like came out of no where and im only 14 it happend like 3 years ago, im still a virgin and like im really scared to do it, i dont want surgery i think its B.S and like i read all these comments they make me feel ok about it but then im still scared idk what to do

Posted by Optional on 25/01/2011 at 02:27

bumpy inside my vaginal opening. kind of like flower petals/ skin tags, thought i don't think thats what they are. 3 of them. not sexually active. SO SCARED.

Posted by Optional on 24/01/2011 at 09:22

Sadsarah, its completely normal. I use to be embarrassed because my lips are really fat and I have no inner lips. But every guy I have ever slept with loves my fat cat. Believe me every man will love yours no matter how it looks because men just love vaginas.

Posted by Optional on 24/01/2011 at 05:10

I have developed a protrusion on my inner vulva lip that sticks out of the outer lips. it can be painful in tight pants but does not bother me alot. i am a widow and have yet to think strongly about anothe man in my life, and this disfigurement makes me feel inadequate.

Posted by Sadsarah on 21/01/2011 at 03:40

I only have 1 vulva lip. There isn't even one on my right side, nothing hangs out or anything. is this normal? Usually the other ones small, but there isn't one at all. It worries me

Posted by SelfConciousMe on 13/01/2011 at 06:10

I take it nobodys found any images of large vaginal lips then, oh well i guess ill just have to wait till i have sex to know if its weird or not :(

Posted by Optional on 12/01/2011 at 02:32

I can't believe I am reading all this concern. Let me reassure all those concerned women that larger lips are extremely attractive and turn a lot of guys on....

Posted by Optional on 10/01/2011 at 11:09

Im 15. ive worried a lot about this problem for a while. when i was younger, i just decided to ignore how i looked because i didnt really care what people thought, but ive recently got a boyfriend and iv started to worry about how i look more. its something im really starting to worry about. iv got this idea in my head that he wont like me if i have larger vaginal lips than other girls. he hasnt had sex with anyone before and neither have i, but i still think that im different to other people and this worries me. i wondered if anybody else had started to become more selfaware as they got beyfriends?

Posted by stephlaroy on 10/01/2011 at 06:41

My husbands friend claims that vaginal lip color is directly affected by age. I think that's B.S., as I do a lot of the things his friend says are. Am I right? What, besides age, could cause the change in vaginal color? Steph

Posted by Optional on 30/12/2010 at 07:46

Well From What Ive Heard There Are A Lot Of People With Problems Dealing With Many Areas...I Dont Think You Guys Should Be So Isicure About Things Like This.. I Came To this Website Thinking I Had A Sierous Problem..But Now Tht I Know Its All Normal And Everybody Has Diffrent Physical Problems With Thereself Im Not Worred About Aneything. And Nither Should Aney Of You Guys...Im Only 13 Years Old And Probably Dont Even Know What Half Of Yu Guys Are Going Through. But Everything I Read From Your Guyses Comments Sound Normal.. And I Bet Many More People That Dont Know About This Website Have Those Same problems.. So Dont Worry..Because I Know I Wont Aneymore..!

Posted by SelfConciousMe on 29/12/2010 at 05:28

I really don't want to sound like a pervert but does anybody know where I can find a picture of large vaginal lips?, just because I want to see if mine are like it. Because i'm 14 and REALLY self concious about my vagina.

Posted by self on 27/12/2010 at 11:07

I was always self conscious but after reading the stuff online there are other pple with said* issue and theyre sex lives have actually been improved, and i love the fact that most people promote being comfortable in your own skin i hope to get better as i grow older =) confidence is def sexy

Posted by Optional on 23/12/2010 at 03:10

I am 14 and i too have large vagina lips. They are really embarrassing and i am afraid that men will think it is gross and un apealing.Also i have to where shorts over my bikini because i am afraid people will notice. I dont no what to do!

Posted by OK girls... Enough! on 20/12/2010 at 03:42

I am 24 and I have large inner lips. When I stand up they hang down and look like a little penis. They are dark. Sometimes they're kinda bumpy. I used to be embarrassed about them and not want guys to see them and worry about what would happen when I became sexually active, etc etc. Since then, I've been with about 20 guys. Nobody has every complained. I was shocked about that actually... I was SURE that some guy was going to get grossed out or something. But nobody was. Actually, several of them have complimented me. It might not look as attractive, and the porn stars these days have smaller lips, but it IS true that the larger ones add to sexual pleasure (for both the girl and guy) and I'm sure that that's one of the reasons why guys have never complained about it. So, I used to hate them but now I like them. If you get surgery now you will regret it later. Just my opinion, because I know I would have. It's not worth the money and it's completely unnecessary. The guys in high school might react strangely, because they are inexperienced and have only seen girls in porn. But hold out for a few years (high school is the WORST! You girls have to put up with so much crap that just really doesn't exist in the real world) and you'll see that their opinion will change. Getting surgery now is only going to make teenage guys happy... but after a few years their opinion will change anyways, so it'll be all for nothing. Also, if you are discharging, itchy, or experiencing any other symptoms that sound like an infection or something, you need to see a doctor. If you do see a doctor, that will give you an opportunity to talk to him about your lip concerns too. Don't be shy to talk to the doctor about it... the doctors have heard everything weird about bodies (that's their job!) and it's your only chance to really talk to someone about your problems who is a professional and can give you correct answers. Ask away!! (even if you're embarrassed). Tell your mom that you have some questions about your period and you want to talk to the doctor about it so that you know you are getting correct information. If you mom tries to talk to you about it instead, just insist that it's embarrassing and that you want to talk to a doctor. Because it's about your "period", you mom shouldn't have a problem getting you an appointment. Because it's about your "period", you might also be able to get an appointment with the gyno (women doctor specifically dealing with the vagina and other women organs) instead of just a normal doctor. These doctors have seen thousands of vaginas, so they can give you a good opinion on what is normal and not. The first time I went to this type of doctor was because I was skipping periods even though I wasn't having sex (therefore, obviously not pregnant) and I was worried that something was wrong with me. Turns out that I just have irregular periods.. but if you want to use that as an excuse to get you an appointment, it's a safe excuse. But honestly girls, I know that life seems horrible and unfair at the moment... but that's because it's true. High school is cruel and not at all a true representation of what life is really like once you leave. So just stick through it, learn to love yourself the way you are, and stop giving yourself mental breakdowns about things that plastic surgeons are trying to convince you that you need.

Posted by Optional on 16/12/2010 at 11:09

my vaginal lips are extremely large. it annoys me ad i want to get surgery for it. how much will it cost and where should i ge it done?

Posted by LoveYourLips on 12/12/2010 at 02:52

dear moderators- if need be please edit my comment if it is simply "innapropriate" to post it with the porn site included. i am not by any means trying to promote porography or that particular site other than that it has images of REAL vaginas that REAL girls can relate to, and take comfort in the fact that THEY ARE NORMAL and VERY BEAUTIFUL AS WELL!!! so long as they chose to see it. i am so sick and tired of hearing about teenage or under experienced boys making rude and hurtful comments about female genitalia to the point that it would make a woman feel ugly or that there was something abnormal about her body. it needs to stop. and they need to know and see and accpet and realize that THEY ARE THE NORM!!!!!

Posted by Optional on 08/12/2010 at 04:01

Does the prolapse aggravate it? I dont want this done for cosmetic reasons,I would like some pain relief.At times they become swollen and stick together and need prising apart.When the vagina is dry they rub togetter causing extra pain.I also have pain in the clitorus and inside the vagina where it feels like there is an abrasion, always in the same part.Pelvic floor exercises are hard to do because of the use or fibromyalgia muscle pain. Should I just carry on as I have been doing. I cannot afford to go privately. WE both live on mt small state pension. My husband is self employed so not entitled to benefits and has had no gainful employment for over 3 years so money is a big worry. He spends his time doing highpowerer voluntary work which he enjoys and constantly looks for work. I would welcome any realistic advice.Many thanks

Posted by relax girls! on 05/12/2010 at 07:22

I read a lot of these post and it's so sad to see you girls fretting over the looks of your vagina or being embarrassed or ashamed because you look different from other girls down there! I'm a guy and I think vaginal lips are sexy in any shape, size or color. Long, short, pink, brown, red, one lip longer than the other, inner longer than outer ... who cares?!! They're all very sexy in my book!! And I think most guys would agree with me. So relax ladies and don't alter your bodies! Keep them the way God made you. The world would be a pretty boring place if everyone looked the same!

Posted by Happier Man on 27/11/2010 at 04:54

Ladies, change the way you look if you want to. Do not be put off if you are being told you fit withina normal range. This may not be good enough for you. Of course some men prefer larger labia, some do not care, and some will prefer neater, smaller labia. You choose.

Posted by Happy man on 21/11/2010 at 04:39

Ladies, Do not change your body in anyway. Especially if you are still a young woman. Your body is not what it will eventually become and there are more wonderful physical changes to come. Large pouting lips are sensual, attractive and alluring. Who wants to be "like everybody else"? Mature men (not boys)look for women with something special or unique about them. Who wants a barbie doll that is like a million other barbie dolls? You have something special so keep it. It will be worth it, you will see. If you are ever with a man who does not love your body, yes your entire body then say goodbye as quickly as you can and move on. Do not change for someone else or to be "normal"!

Posted by on 17/11/2010 at 12:45

Next month (December), Dr Phil's video guide is on cosmetic genital surgery in women - straight-talking practical advice on vulval trimming and other cosmetic procedures.

Posted by Optional on 16/11/2010 at 02:37

Hi i'm 15 too & i really want surgery. I know some people think it's wrong to change who you are, but honestly i know it is horrible to feel like you are different to other people. It's still not a good thing that more & more people are turning to surgery, but i understand that some people do feel uncomfortable with their bodies. I also understand the people who are afraid of what boyfriends will think, it's hard to think that they will be totally okay about it, especially when you're not okay with it. Other girls don't know what it's like to feel so down about yourself & i'm definately getting surgery when i'm older.

Posted by Optional on 16/11/2010 at 04:18

hi i am only 16 years old i am still a vigrin but i want to have sex with my boyfriend but im scared. my vigina is always letting out white stuff and i want to make it stop but i dont no how. also my inner lips are longer then my outer lips, they are a dark red/ brown colour and smooth. is there anyway to make them shorter. also i feel uncomfetable asking my mom if this is normal and i wouldnt no what docter to ask or how to get there. PLEASE HELP!!! :(

Posted by Optional on 15/11/2010 at 03:41

When I was younger i was so ashamed of how big my vaginal lips were. But I've realized the bigger the better. the men i have been with in my life haven't complained onced about how i look down there. There are times where i still get ashamed but ive been "seeing" this one man for about a year now and he makes me feel absoultely beautiful when he goes down on me. My ex's haven't complained either, they have all said everything about me has been beautiful and to not change a thing. Yes the adult industry have made it so hard for us women who have these issues, but we can't sit here and let that bring us down. what we see online in mags or on tv is just that, in real life with a partner or bf or husband they love you for you, if they didn't they would not be with you. so those who haven't had sex or foreplay don't be worried about the first time a guy will see you down there, trust me he will be happy. and from what i have been told, girls with big lips make sex that much better then girls with little lips. ;)

Posted by Optional on 10/11/2010 at 04:43

Hello I'm 15 years of age. My inner "lips" are 4 cm. and the bottem have little bumps and are Slightly red/brown tent tword the bottem. I'm affraid of boys telling other kids in school how gross they are if they see them, I know that sounds very adolecent, but it is a fear. Is that discustingly long? and would boys my age tend to find it gross? Also, I have white discharge all the that abnormal as well? Please reply..thank you for reading and I hope you have answers. P.S this is a little awkward so sorry about that. :)

Posted by Optional on 02/11/2010 at 06:52

Women with big vaginal lips are a wonderful exception. Enjoy the beautiful uniqueness you have. There are many of us men who truly appreciate those beautiful big protruding lips!!

Posted by pinkiey on 14/10/2010 at 04:16

well my boyfriend said what would yu do if we where kissig and it juss happend. i said idk. he said really would yu stop me? i said i really dont know but wanted too sayy yeah i would stop him. becouse i dont fill like my Vjayjay. cos its too big like my lips are veary big and i still got my V's. soo idk what too do too make them smaller. please help me. please i juss wanna give it too him but i cant. please help me get some thing too minumize my lips. its like saggiey.

Posted by Maryam 24 on 12/10/2010 at 10:34

I started feeling this cramping pain when I used the bathroom one day so I decided to do another one of my self examinations after my shower one day; and noticed a red spot one the lower left lip of my vagina

Posted by Sad on 02/10/2010 at 05:13

I am 15 and i dont have sex at all but i am involved in sports and other activities and i dont ferl comfy knowing that my body looks different than others. I want to remove them but i dont know where to turn.

Posted by Optional on 29/09/2010 at 07:26

Hey, i couldnt have children so i was told to insert herbal medicine in my vagina. It left me sole with rough vagina walls. Its been two years now, its not painful but still rough like a tongue. Will it heal completely? Please help!

Posted by Optional on 20/09/2010 at 06:13

i have just had an abortion and my "lips" are split, im extreamly worried about this and now i have looked down there im now worried and just how huge mine are, its gross and very embarassing. can you get anything done on the nhs about this?

Posted by Optional on 17/09/2010 at 01:04

to be honest i really thought i was thje only one to have this, thats why me and my bf havent ha sex. i hate them so much grrrrrrrrrrr why cant all vag's be the same it would make things alot easyer!!

Posted by Optional on 11/09/2010 at 08:54

Hi ladies, I too have felt the pain and shame thinking I am abnormal with larger inner lips. I have been with boyfriends who say they love them and that immature boys will make stupid comments. We all just have to try really hard to accept ourselves. COMPLETELY! we were born that way and should be grateful for what we have :) love yourself and please dont be ashamed anymore! we are beautiful! I am 30 now, and have accepted the truth.....we are all different, and we sometimes think the grass is greener on the other side. Thank you to the great MEN who love our big juicy lips!

Posted by Optional on 11/09/2010 at 04:44

im 17 and i think my labia are longer than normal and im really embarrassed by them and kinda ashamed. ive talked to my boyfriend about it, but wont show him. he is now scared of my vagina, and is like freaked out that im really deformed and that makes me want to cut them shorter myself with scissors or become a nun something..just looking down there makes me want to cry and my anxiety disorder doesnt help at all

Posted by labiaplasty on 07/09/2010 at 12:13

All I can suggest if you dont feelcomfortable have the procedure done. Im in my 30s and am going to thailand to get it done I have always been self concious and didnt feel comfy in my bathers. I do suggest to go to your doctor I did even though she said I was perfectly normal I still feel i have to have it done, just think 15min of embarrassment in the long run you are going to feel more comfortable. by the way do alot of research to find the right gyno or plastic surgeon. good luck

Posted by katy on 23/08/2010 at 03:11

i dont like the way my vagina lips look

Posted by Optional on 17/08/2010 at 12:13

I'm a guy, some guys find the big lips attractive girls. Trust me, we talk about this stuff. But yes, with the continued popularity of porn some guys look for perfect little vaginas. But more attractive than anything is a woman who is comfortable in her own skin. So find a way to feel sexy for YOU, not for us and in turn you will become way more sexier to men.

Posted by Optional on 17/08/2010 at 01:17

i am 24 old girl i am still virgin but my vagina lips so long i am so upset so what i do it plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Posted by Optional on 06/08/2010 at 11:41

im really worried .my outer vagina lips are fine but one of my inner vagina lips is saggy. And alot of the time sticks out of my outer vagina lip making it look like i have a small tiny penis. it makes me feel ashamed and embarrased, and even though im saving myself for after highschool, im afraid for what guys may think . is their anything i can do about them that doesnt involve surgery?

Posted by Optional on 29/07/2010 at 08:37

My inner rite lip is bigger than the left Is that normal? Btw it itches smtimes

Posted by Stacey on 29/07/2010 at 08:32

My rite outer lip is bigger than the left alotta girls down here seem to have the same prob Is it normal???!!??

Posted by karen on 26/07/2010 at 05:39

to optional who posted on the 25 7 2010.hello,this posting is also for other girls who worry about their vaginal not worry about your vaginal lips every girl is different from the next,vaginal lips come in all shapes and sizes and colours this is normal this is nature.well optional you are only sixteen,boys will not think of you being distusting at all.just look at boys foreskins,some of them dont look nice.but this does not worry boys.boys do not think yuk look at my foreskin girls will find it disgusting i will have to have it cut off.If boys thought the same way as you all boys would be circumcised.only you find your vaginal unatractive you will find out that boys will not comment about them in most cases your pubic hair will hide dont worry about them,they are unique to you.all the best karen.xxxx

Posted by Optional on 25/07/2010 at 08:32

i really hate my vagina. one of my inner lips is very large and hangs out of my outer lips making it look really unatractive. im only 16 and i really cant talk to anyone about it because its so embarrasing. also as this operation cant be done under the nhs, i wouldnt be able to afford getting it done. im really worried about having sex because boys might find me disgusting and so it looks like im going to have to live with this forever

Posted by Optional on 13/07/2010 at 08:05

Why have my vulva turned grey in color? It use to be pink on the inside of the vulva but now it is gray why?

Posted by Optional on 10/07/2010 at 09:29

Why would any woman be dumb enough to destroy how you were made. Each woman is unique.

Posted by Jenny on 10/07/2010 at 11:58

One Of My Vaginal Lips Is Turning Grey I Havent Told Mt Mum Because Its Embarrassing Its Numb And Feels Like The Chicken Fat You Get On Cooked Chicken I Know Its Personal But Its A Relief To Get Out x

Posted by lorraine morrisonOptional on 07/07/2010 at 03:00

i cant find what to use or how to treat vaninal itchihg and rednessi

Posted by Bigger on 03/07/2010 at 12:39

One of my outer vulval lips is bigger than the other one. I don't know what i should do. Do men care about what it looks like down there ?

Posted by Optional on 02/07/2010 at 08:59

i have only attemped to shave my pubic hair about 3 times before. But one day, i discovered that my outer lips, or vulval lips are bigger than most girls. why is that? is it normal?

Posted by Optional on 30/06/2010 at 08:07

im only twelve and ive started my period and i really odnt know if this is normal but the inside of my vagina lips are swelled and there really itchy and then when i itch them they really hurt ??? what is it ??

Posted by Optional on 28/06/2010 at 12:40

I am only 15 and i dont think i have any vagina lips! I mean me and my friend looked at mine and hers to see if they were the same but they are not.. I dont know what's wrong with mine. It looks like a doctor sewed them together but the thing is i dont remember having surgery on them! I don't know.. Helppp! like i dont have the lips that cover the clit it's so weird i dont know if that is normal for them to be like that or not. because my friend has the outer lips that go over the clit. but i do not have that like her. it looks like some doctor cut mine off and stitched them back together. i dont know. im freaking out!! HELP ME!

Posted by Sad on 16/06/2010 at 06:01

Does no one else find this incredibly sad?! All of these young girls contemplating surgery because they feel abnormal? After all of the posts on this website alone on it, how could you possibly feel that way? There's a reason modern doctors are appalled by this- you're basically considering female circumsicion, or it's general equivalent, like it's the solution to your problems. When you read about stuff like that happening in other cultures you call them "monsters". The solution to your problems isn't surgery. It's finding the comfort in your own body, the way it is. This isn't gaining or losing a few pounds, this is life changing- and not necessarily in a good way. It's not healthy to obsess over these types of things, you'll never be happy that way. I will admit, I am a female with larger inner labia and I am not happy with myself yet. Someways I am, and in someways I'm not. I know that surgery wouldn't make it all go away though. Don't maim yourself to appeal to boys. I hope you wouldn't do it with your personality, so don't do it with your body. You are beautiful just the way you are.

Posted by Optional on 08/06/2010 at 09:29

if you have big pussy lips dont worry about it, its a great attribute and many men enjoy and admire them. Its not any sort of problem, to get surgery to reduce them in my opinion is crazy. Enjoy what nature gave you!

Posted by bothering me on 31/05/2010 at 08:47

i have big outer vaginal lips , and im only 13.. it is very annoying , and i always think guys will think i have a small penis if they ever do see it , at sometimes it can be unconfortable , im not planning on becoming sexualy active anytime soon , but still it would raise my self consion if they werent there, is there anything i can do that doesnt involve surgery... please help thanks you<3

Posted by Stressed out on 26/05/2010 at 06:27

Hi I have small tiny bumps on the inside of my vagina lipsand my husband has them on his penis. My doctor said it was just from shaving but how come we both have them on our lips after oral sex and i have thenm on my nipples? Too tiny to be hpv and no discharge but they can burn . Please help, we are worried that it may cause a long term health problem.

Posted by Optional on 23/05/2010 at 08:32

my outer vaginal lips are very large, but I'm only 13 so this really is weird and i don't like it. When I'm just wearing my underwear, it looks like I have a small penis and it is really embarrassing. I don't know why; I've never had sex, never masturbated or anything.

Posted by Optional on 17/05/2010 at 02:10

i have no inner lips is that normal? it looks regular from the outside then if you spread my outer lips its just smooth with my clit and hood going down to my vaginal hole but no inner lips just smoothness

Posted by Optional on 28/04/2010 at 04:33

i have a small cut with a white patch around it and also a lil white bump abit itchy and its on the inside of my left vigina lip what could this be???

Posted by Optional on 28/04/2010 at 12:15

Big labia lips, little lips, small lips, purplish lips, one lip larger than the other; Guess what? they're all perfectly normal. I have been with close to 100 women and no two are the same - they're all beautiful. In my humble opinion, there's absolutely NO REASON TO UNDERGO LABIAPLASTY solely for aesthetic reasons. I personally prefer larger (protruding) inner labia. If a guy doesn't like you for who you are -> dump him cuz he's not worth your time. But trust me, it just won't come to that.

Posted by FREAKED OUT!!! on 20/04/2010 at 12:35

I have huge vaginal lips and they have a kinda blue tint. im completely freaked about my boyfriend feeling me in that place and im scared to have sex because he might think its gross. i need help!! how much does the cosmetic surgery coast?

Posted by Optional on 14/04/2010 at 11:37

i have small hole as per my boy friend experience.and it becomes dry

Posted by Optional on 14/04/2010 at 09:22

one of my inner lips is larger than the other one.. is that normal..?

Posted by hmmmm on 06/04/2010 at 02:24

Ma inner lips are bigger than ma outer lips and im 15. i dun't want my mum to knoe itz much would the surgery be?

Posted by Optional on 06/04/2010 at 04:24

what is vulva

Posted by Alice on 06/04/2010 at 12:15

the lips of my vagina are very big compared to other girls on t.v and in magazines. im scared that this is abnormal.

Posted by Jennie on 13/03/2010 at 07:14

About 15 years ago, because my then partner insisted that I was deformed and I wanted to please him, I had my inner labia surgically removed. I wasn't living in the UK at the time, and possibly because of a language misunderstanding (or, I have sometimes suspected, because my partner asked him to), the doctor excised them completely, along with the clitoral hood. Healing took a long time, and whilst my partner professed himself delighted with my new vagina, I was never really convinced. Moreover, my exposed clitoris is too sensitive for orgasm and frequently causes me considerable pain during intercourse. I have enquired about reconstruction, but been told that it would not be viable. In retrospect, I do not think my labia were ever excessively long (although they were quite dark coloured) and I deeply regret allowing myself to be bullied into having myself disfigured in this way. If anyone else is thinking about having surgery in this area, I advise her to think long and hard about it, and to be sure that she's doing it for herself and not just to please another person.

Posted by Optional on 09/03/2010 at 03:55

I have large inner vaginal lips, for a while it really bothered me - mainly when I guy commented they are the largest he'd seen. But I have had an active sex life and he is the only guy to have commented. Most secure men love them, and I have amazing orgasms. I had a full sexual health check the other day, including an examination, and she didn’t bat an eyelid! All these add are and surgery ideas are buy people preying on women – the likes of OK and Hello make us feel we should conform to a certain way - just money making nutters out to make women feel abnormal and it is wrong. How many kiss and tell stories have you read where the bitter ex is quoted in the paper saying ‘she had big vagina lips’?!? NONE! I thought about surgery fleetingly and now, well... never. I am me, if a guy is NORMAL is will never come up in conversation as you are normal! Save your money for shoes and handbags girls…

Posted by Anonymous on 02/02/2010 at 11:28

this problem starts by itching on the lip of my vagina (outer skin) then a pimple follow and later becomes like an ulcer.I t takes +-4 days to heal. It comes like once in 3-4 months. I dont know what this is , please help.

Posted by Anonymous on 31/01/2010 at 08:39

how much would the surgery be? i have real problems with my inner labia, i was considering going to the isle of man where under 18 surgery is aperently legal as long as you have parental consent but now my mother wont give it to and its a real problem.

Posted by Anonymous on 31/12/2009 at 12:07

I have always had fairly large inner labia. There never seemed to be a problem when I became sexually active. However one of my boyfriends said they never seen lips that big before. And at that point I started to feel abnormal about my genital. Personally I thought they were sexy but I guess these days peopl are looking for something smaller. Its stupid for all women to be the same. Our vagnas are all unique as well as our breast. Men should grow up. We shouldn't be getting cosmetic surgery down there just because its the new hip cosmetic surgery next to implants and tummy tucks.

Posted by Tony Pearce on 26/12/2009 at 11:09

Vaginas and labia come in all different shapes and sizes. As a hetrosexual male i find them all arousing and beautiful. I have had my fair share in this area and have had experience with ladies with very small labia to ladies with extremly large labia, particuly inner lips. To me and all of the male friends i have discussed this with it is really not a problem, honestly.I think only the young inexperienced boys would find this area a problem because they ...... well their fools and dont know when their well off. Ladies if this is worring you please, please dont let it. Hope this helps :)

Posted by Snorky on 17/12/2009 at 05:14

Should vaginal discharge smell like amonia

Posted by Anonymous on 12/12/2009 at 06:57

Lips are awesome on women. Consider your boyfriends lucky!

Posted by shhhhhh on 28/11/2009 at 11:22

i really want this hoping maybe you wouldnt have to wait until your 18.but i also DONT want my mom to awkward.also like how much would it cost?????

Posted by ian on 21/11/2009 at 02:43

when my mum was ill in bed i had to attend to her personal care including helping her have a pee which involved lifting back the duvet lifting her nightie and opening her legs then opening her vagina to find her pee hole her vagina was completely bald even though she hadnt shaved it what caused her to lose her pubic hair? she was 84 and had pneumonia anemia and constipation a cat scan also revealed liver problems but the hospital didnt elaborate on what the liver problem was any help would be appreciated

Posted by Anonymous on 18/11/2009 at 12:43

over the year i have had vaginal dryness.but also my vaginal lips have gone pale [to me they look ,when hot water is poured on a piece raw meat]

Posted by Blake smith on 05/11/2009 at 05:27

I have a big hole in my nut sack an it is very painfull!! I NEED HELP!!!

Posted by Anonymous on 29/10/2009 at 04:33

The inner lips of my vagina started taking a purplish tint during puberty, and now they're a shade of brown along the edges and outer layers. It disturbs me because it's almost like it's rotting between my legs. Are brown lips normal? Am I okay?

Posted by Annonymous on 19/08/2009 at 02:57

It says in the article - "these operations remove sexually-sensitive tissue and could lessen your sexual pleasure" It's not about the appearance giirls, it's about the pleasure :) love who you are and just go for it x

Posted by Anonymous on 14/08/2009 at 02:18

Is it normal at all for the inner lips to suddenly shrink to nearly nothing or to seem to disapear all together. Could it be because of the change. I also haven't had sex for a number of years, could that cause it. I am extremely worried. Please help if you can, thank you for your time.

Posted by Anonymous on 03/08/2009 at 10:59

My inner lips have always been larger ever since I was a little girl. It always bothered me and then I read that it was normal. I tried to ignore them when I was with a guy and I thought if I didn't let them bother me then they wouldn't even pay attention. I have only had sex with two guys and the first one never said anything. The second guy is my boyfriend I am dating now. I told him how they bothered me but he says they don't bother him and he loves me just how I am (and he was one of those guys in highschool that was very shallow). So I learned that if the guy really cares for you he won't mind and if it does bother him then he isn't good enough for you. Just recently I have noticed they are getting bigger and I feel like I look like I have a grandma vigina when I am only 19 so I have been wondering about surgery. And my boyfriend's roommate found an old playboy picture and the woman had larger vigina lips and he wouldn't quit saying how gross it was and how he would never have sex with a girl like that. It made me feal even worse about me problem even though my boyfriend still tells me they don't bother him.

Posted by Amy on 30/07/2009 at 09:38

I have this problem and I am only 16. I have only exposed myself to one boy and I am seriously worried about later in life - I don't want anyone to see but to still be able to have sex. I'm already considering surgery

Posted by problemprobe on 13/07/2009 at 06:44

mine are huge. im considering cosmetic surgery.

Posted by Anonymous on 02/07/2009 at 12:50

i have the same problem! my inner lips are larger than the other ones and its like a purplish color. im so afraid of having sex. like i dont want the guy to laugh at me or anything. like i think im wierd! :( anything i can do?

Posted by annonymous on 31/05/2009 at 05:31

alright, well im young and though ive had sex more than my fair share of times, the boy i had sex with was a virgin and so was i... i've had only one PREVIOUS boyfriend, and i am now madly in love with a man who is much more experienced than my ex... and i would love to take our relationship to the next level but i am so insecure about my vagina. I havent seen other girl's vaginas close up and therefor dont have a very good idea of the vaginal structure... and i need to know if mine is normal.. on my vaginal lips there is this sort of ... fuzz... its not hair or anything, its like a bumpy surface of skin ... but i think it is dead skin,it feels sort of like a tongue.. if it is scraped against something... it will come off onto whatever scraped it... sort of like dead skin.. is that fuzzy...stuff... normal? does everyone have it?? please help :(

Posted by Imene on 08/05/2009 at 07:49

yes I have this problem and am so ashamed of it I think that my vagina is so ugly cauz my inner lips are lrger plus its purple tell me what to do about it

Posted by Chelsea on 06/05/2009 at 09:39

My inner lips seem to hang low and are larger than the outer lips and web pages like this have said that this is completely normal but i still struggle with the problem and find it extremly embarrising and i think that boye will laugh at me. But I Realli Do not want surgery when i am older because of the prices.

Posted by Ovafifty on 15/04/2009 at 06:50

I have developed skin tags on my outer vulva lips and at the base of my anus, can these be surgically removed ? Where should I go for such a procedure.I am not in any discomfort, but , as i am still sexually active think they look unsightly

Posted by concerned patient on 10/04/2009 at 06:57

when women squirt or ejaculate yellow fluid does that mean the vagina is physically drained


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