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Urination during sex

Passing urine during intercourse, and being unable to control it, happens to many women. No one seems to talk about this, so a sufferer thinks she is the only one with the problem.

Is urination during sex common?

A doctor did a survey of women attending his urogynaecology clinic (many of whom of course already had an incontinence problem) and found that 24% had incontinence during intercourse (British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology 1988;95:377–81). Most had felt too embarrassed to mention it to their doctor.
  • In about two-thirds, the leakage occurs when the penis enters the vagina (penetration).
  • In about one-third, the leakage occurs only at orgasm.

What causes urination during sex?

The reason is not understood, but it is likely to be partly due to an irritable bladder or a weakness at the neck of the bladder. About 1 in 5 women who have difficulty holding urine during the day also experience leakage during intercourse. Leakage of urine at orgasm (but not at penetration) is particularly linked with having an irritable bladder (European Urology 2008;54:911–5), whereas leakage at penetration may signal a weakness at the neck of the bladder .
 
Some women have leakage of urine during intercourse, but not at any other time. Could it be female ejaculation?
 
In 1950, a Dr Grafenberg described what he called “female ejaculation...the expulsion of large quantities of clear transparent fluid at the height of orgasm”. Some sex manuals still talk about this ‘female ejaculation’ as if it were some kind of discharge of sexual glands. They claim it comes from Skene’s glands, which are supposed to be similar to the prostate gland in men.
 
People who believe in ‘female ejaculation’ say that analysis of this fluid reveals high levels of an enzyme called acid phosphatase that is made by prostate-type gland tissue. In fact:
  • a study in six women showed that their ‘female ejaculate’ fluid contained the same amount of acid phosphatase as their urine
  • a study of just one woman did find high levels of acid phosphatase in the fluid she released at orgasm, but the method used to analyse it was unreliable.
The facts have been reviewed in an American medical journal (American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology 2001;185:359–62), and it now seems clear that this fluid is just urine. There is a lot of confusion about this topic, because of course many women produce copious amounts of lubrication fluid during sexual foreplay and intercourse. Here, we are talking about something different – the sudden leakage of liquid which is actually urine.

What can be done about urination during sex

  • Empty your bladder before sex.
  • Cut down on caffeine-containing drinks and alcohol.
  • Do not drink excessive amounts of fluid – not more than 1.5 litres (2.5 pints) over 24 hours.
  • Discuss the problem with your doctor, especially if you have leakage at other times.
  • Your doctor may prescribe oxybutynin or a similar drug for you. Medication may be particularly helpful if you experience leakage at orgasm, rather than during penetration (European Urology 2007). You should take this about 1 hour before sex (if you can plan that well ahead!).
  • Alternatively, your doctor can prescribe imipramine, to be taken in the evening. This is normally given as an antidepressant, but it also has effects on the bladder (which is why a similar drug is used to treat bed-wetting in children). If your doctor suggests it, it is because of its bladder effects, not because he or she thinks you are depressed. The dose will be lower than given for depression.
  • If none of these deals with the problem, or if you experience leakage mainly during penetration, you may have a weakness of the bladder neck. Therefore it would be worth asking for a referral to a gynaecologist, preferably one who specializes in urogynaecology. An operation to strengthen the bladder neck might be appropriate. Unfortunately this operation is successful in controlling leakage during intercourse in only two-thirds of people.
  • In the end, you and your partner may simply have to come to terms with the problem, and enjoy your sex life in spite of it. If it is causing a real problem in your relationship, or affecting your feelings about yourself, a few sessions with a psychosexual counsellor can be very helpful.
  • You can also contact a number of organizations for help and advice.

Dr Phil Hammond looks at the frustrations of bed-wetting, with a little help from ‘Henry’, in his informative and entertaining video guide on bed-wetting.

Written by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Edited by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Last updated: Friday, October 1st 2010

 


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Posted by Optional on 23/02/2014 at 08:41

I tend to get angry with my body sometimes. I am still a virgin but my boyfriend and i engage in quite a bit of foreplay. My body tends to react, causing vaginal farts. Other times, i feel a leakage, i think i am just moist, but when i go to the bathroom for a break, it smells like urine. I dont have problems with my bladder so i dont seem to know the problem.

Posted by Optional on 06/02/2014 at 08:09

Thank you so much . Im speechless I don't know what to say thank you for the information it really helped .

Posted by nat on 03/12/2013 at 12:25

The last 4 time i had sex with my boyfrie, i was on top. and all the 4 times i peed on him. It just recently started happening, and i don't know why. In the pass I've been on top of him, and i have no idea why is this happening. It's something wrong with me?

Posted by Optional on 11/11/2013 at 06:00

Can anyone tell me why it stings my bf's face and neck when I squirt on him? Maybe it's just pee or because he just shaved prior, or both? I just feel bad because he has to run to the bathroom and wash it off quickly. Hope someone has had this happen or similar and posts a response. Thanks for any ideas on this matter!

Posted by OptionalMaree on 10/11/2013 at 12:42

Hi I'm a 53yo woman that enjoys sex, the problem is I don't seem to be able to cum, since having my 4 kids. What could the problem be?

Posted by Mandy on 04/11/2013 at 06:17

Before reading this I seriously thought something was terribly wrong with my body. Thank you all for posting comments. My fiancée and I have been with each other for 12 years and he was more than ok with it. I on the otherhand was so embarrassed that I tried avoiding it. We have talked about it and he stumbled upon this article for me. Feeling so much better. Also, I'm happy to have such an understanding and mature guy to have stuck by me. He constantly says it is simply proof I let myself go and truly orgasmed. Again, thank you to all the brave women and understanding men for posting and commenting.

Posted by Optional on 03/11/2013 at 12:21

I was born with a neuropathic bladder, i have used a catheter my entire life and I have always had a problem with urinating during sex. It is amazing how many people are experiencing a similar problem. I have taken many medications to control it however none of them have really tackled the problem. Seeing a urologist is something I would suggest to anyone with a similar problem!! I was under a urologist at great ormond street hospital for 18 years and they carry out all sorts of tests to work out the absolute precise strength of your bladder....all adult hospitals will also do these tests. Get referred by your GP. Make sure you are with a partner who accepts the 'problem' even though it is very embarrassing for you.

Posted by Happy Married Male on 04/10/2013 at 06:04

One day my wife told me of her leaking problem and I finally managed to convince her to simply let it go as I love everething that comes from her. During sex I started to talk about this and I confessed her, that the feeling of her fluid is absolutely arrousing and even the smell is turning me extremely on. Meanwhile she occasionly urinates during intercourse - for me it's a mindblowing sensation feeling she's got the confindence to simply let it go...

Posted by Embarassed female on 06/08/2013 at 07:15

I have only had this problem the last 12 months my partner has not noticed really he thinks it female ejaculation and is well impressed with himself as he feels he has improved in the bed area. As for me I'm struggling I have plucked up the courage to go to the gp I asked for a female hp and I've been prescribed medication only on my first day so I'm at the beginning of the road to recovery and I'm confident Il crack it its great to see so many women suffer I thought I was the only one too, don't feel embarrassed make that appointment

Posted by Optional on 10/07/2013 at 02:43

I don't think girls should be worried about this happening. There are may guys that just enjoy it. We don't need to analyze whether it's pee or squirt. We just love it. I love going down on a girl during it. It's very sexy, natural and hot.

Posted by Optional on 07/07/2013 at 09:03

I have a neurogenic bladder from a car accident and have to use a catheter to urinate. When I have sex even after emptying my bladder I urinate a large amount. This was part of the reason my husband did not want to have sex and eventually left me for another woman after 25 years of marriage. A couple years later I started dating eventually we had sex and the same thing happens. At first he was ok with it except I wrecked my bed not remembering I do this. Then after a few times he stopped having sex with me because it would not be spontaneous with having to make sure there were towels or some barrier under us. I became so self-conscious about this I could not enjoy such and it only caused me anxiety. Needless to say he broke up with me after 2 years. I have a healthy sexual desire and want a relationship but am too paranoid and suffer very poor self-esteem because of this problem. I cannot take oxybutynin or imipramine per my doctor's say so. I am very distressed over this problem and am very lonely and have become a introverted recluse because of it.

Posted by Optional on 26/06/2013 at 11:17

I’m a girl at age 18 and I urinate during sex. The leakage happens when the penis enters the vagina and the leakage also occurs at orgasm; According to a/this article you can’t do both. I don’t drink lots of ‘drinks’ and I use the bathroom before sex - that doesn’t seem to work for me. Trust me I know what a female ejaculation is (I’ve have gotten some before). I neater do have any signs of some kind of bladder infection. I don’t urinate when I sneeze, cuff or laugh, only during sex. I really don’t mind if a little of urinate comes out during sex, but even if I think I have emptied my bladder plenty of urinate comes out anyway. As a child I had problems urinating in my bed and I used diapers at night until I was about 7 years old. I think I might have a weakness at the neck of the bladder... But why do I only urinate during sex then? I don’t think I need kegel exercises for strengthening my pelvic floor muscles. I’m so young and have never had a child... Any ideas?

Posted by Optional on 04/05/2013 at 12:50

Although this could be urine, most likely it is female ejaculate. It apparently occurs with all orgasms but most of the time the fluid produced gets absorbed into the bladder - as I understand it, this is from chemical analyses of the female ejaculate. Urine is tested before/after climax. Women who do not ejaculate externally have the ejaculate compounds in their bladder after orgasm; ergo the conclusion that all women ejaculate. Men need to get over their squeamish, juvenile attitudes over women's body and fluids (including blood - but that's a different subject altogether :). Personally, I consider a woman ejaculating the same as many women do about men ejaculating - the ejaculation is telling the partner they're doing a good job!

Posted by Optional on 31/03/2013 at 04:00

When reaching an orgasm, I tend to feel the need to urinate, and in some cases I have. This feeling also occurs when penetration is taking place but I have not yet leaked. This is an extremely embarrassing problem for me. I am too scared to have any intercourse with my partner because of this. Does this only happen if there is a weakness at the neck of the bladder?

Posted by Optional on 23/03/2013 at 01:34

This was very helpfull to me

Posted by paula on 19/03/2013 at 11:17

not a good sex lif because of my problem

Posted by Optional on 27/02/2013 at 06:07

My girlfriend has to pee most of the time during intercourse, I don't think she's having an orgasm cause usually she stops after it or tells me she gets turn off but that's not it I believe. I do everything right, please help me help her reach a mind blowing orgasm.

Posted by MAN'S OPINION on 15/02/2013 at 09:54

I recently started dating a woman that for the 1st time in my life I came across a squirting incident. She had an intense orgasm with very intense squirting. It took me off guard for the moment but it was something new and a bit exciting. However, I think if it were any other guy who isn't open to or experienced in intimacy, he would be intimidated, confused or disgusted. I know you ladies want to be spontaneous when it's that time but give the guy a heads up. Show him this website, etc so both of you won't have bad feelings.

Posted by Keepingitsimple on 25/01/2013 at 06:02

Today when I masturbated I peed before starting and when I began to climax liquid starting coming out before I was done I got an empty old cup and held it close to my vagina to collect some of the liquid when I was done I decided to look at it to see what color it was and it looked like a light yellow and kinda smelled like pee. So I wanna know was a peeing ? Even though I already had pee before I climaxed ?

Posted by Optional on 24/01/2013 at 07:21

Me and my boyfriend love it surely stimulates our sessions

Posted by Jenn on 21/12/2012 at 10:02

this was very helpful. So many things i searched just kept saying it was female orgasm but I knew from the smell and the color i was peeing when I was also getting off. I, when I masturbate, have to make sure I'm not in a bed, or if I am, have a towel ready because I'm the only one that can get me off that good. I have a hard time reaching climax with most bed. I need too much stimulation and most guys move too fast. But when I do it myself I do notice that I get off, but I can tell urine is along with it cuz an excessive amount comes out. this helps me by giving me tips. I hope it works. thank you!

Posted by Optional on 08/12/2012 at 12:39

This site was very helpful for me, it answered all of the questions I had.

Posted by TIRO on 14/10/2012 at 08:24

I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM WHEN MY PARTNER URINATES WHEN REACHING ORGASM, INSTEAD SHE FEELS ON TOP OF THE WORLD AND WANTS MORE OF ME. I ENJOY THAT A LOT BECAUSE SHE TURNS ME MORE ON AND MAKES ME NEED MORE OF HER. SHE DOES NOT FEEL EMBARRASED AS IT'S THE FIRST TIME SHE REACHES ORGASM. I LOVE IT WHEN SHE URINATES BEFORE REACHING AN ORGASIM. IT'S SUCH A WONDERFUL FEELING.

Posted by Optional on 14/10/2012 at 03:21

Am Nicky, lately every second during sex i stop and want to pee. Is that normal?

Posted by Optional on 03/10/2012 at 05:40

This has happened to my wife, and we just had a great laugh about it! Just put down some towels and you're okay. Remember, pee is sterile, so it's cleaner than many think. Plus, it's the person you love :-) :-) :-)

Posted by Optional on 30/09/2012 at 04:15

how can i take to my boy friend regards him wetting his pants when we get together and kiss and touch each other

Posted by Optional on 20/09/2012 at 06:26

My name is Alex and i'm having problem with my urine.I had to stop and stand up and would go to latrine three to four times every time i made love with my girl friend though she had no complaint about it.After coming back from latrine i would cuddle her and made love again.My problem never cease and i need help.

Posted by Liz on 09/09/2012 at 08:52

Thank you this really helped.

Posted by Optional on 26/08/2012 at 01:29

when me and my boyfriend have sex , when he rubs me i think its called foreplay its like i adventually get this feeling and i release alot of fluid like alot i dont no if its pee or not i dont no why this happens the fluid i think is clear , but its alot and it happens everytime we have sex ?

Posted by Optional on 15/08/2012 at 08:01

I've had 3 c-sections ... And I leak lightly though the day but with sex i have souch fluid it's not at first when his penis enters but during sex but way before the orgasum the sheets get soaked and do we .... If I stand up some times it runs down my legs only feet.. Its a wet mess... Could it be pee really ? I always pee before and sometimes during I excuse myself to the bathroom!! Help plz!!

Posted by Optional on 01/08/2012 at 09:57

This has occurred to me a couple of times, & I am positive is because I have a (1) full bladder & (2) because my husband puts my legs over his shoulders, pushing against my bladder!! It's a total turn off for him... :(

Posted by Optional on 27/07/2012 at 07:11

omg !! soo stupid if yhu guys realyyy wna know go ask your freakin OMGYN i was seriouslyy laughin to myself when i read this then was soo madd like how dmb can yhu guys be its called squirting you cant 'PEE' during sexual intercource

Posted by taster on 23/07/2012 at 04:29

Almost every guy I know thinks squirt (female ejaculation) is hot...and quite a few of us, including me are really into pee as well..so any incontinent female should be able to find a partner that would really love them....(:(:(:

Posted by Optional on 20/07/2012 at 08:43

Me and my boyfriend were a little concered but now everything is fine.. We went to my gyno and he said its normal to feel as if you need to pee because the baldder is right there

Posted by Optional on 13/07/2012 at 04:12

I have a problem every time i go to the toilet i have to sit there a while before any urine comes out and sometimes i have to straddle my legs so it opens more down below.I also have a prolapse from the vagina i just wondered if that had anything to do with it.Could give me any clues in why this is happening.thanks

Posted by Emily on 12/07/2012 at 08:13

This article is BOGUS. There has been one, I repeat, ONE single time in my entire sexual experience when I have actually urinated during orgasm (the suspicion of which I confirmed by scent). Every other time that I've released a relevant amount of fluid during orgasm (<25 times) has been absolutely, without a doubt, a fluid entirely different from urine (as observed by scent as well as the VASTLY different and more intense sensation during orgasm). This article does nothing to further female sexual education, and is hugely backward and an unnecessary hindrance to women trying to understand their bodies. Shame on this website. Ladies, to experience female ejaculation - or, what I have found to be the highest and most satisfying level of climax attainable - you HAVE to be completely comfortable and relaxed, with no inhibitions whatsoever. Oh, and of course - empty your bladder just before your "session." Take time alone, in a very private, very safe place, to explore yourself.... And happy coming!! :)

Posted by Optional B. J. on 24/06/2012 at 06:36

So what is the problem? If it happens, lucky You!

Posted by Endurance on 18/06/2012 at 11:16

very missleading, girls dont trust it. Female ejaculation, also squirting, is known and accepted truth. It happens during best orgasms, not only during penetration but is strongest during penetration. It can be watery and see through, but sometimes when it's more concentrated it looks and feels like cream. nothing on earth better than that. Just don't be shy and look for some porn with female squirting. very few of videos are fake but lot of them speak for everything.. Anyway, If your liquid looks and smells like pee then this is (partialy) not that squirting case. My gf had some vaginal infection some time ago. And it caused her to release pee during penetration. Problem was contraceptive pills that caused too much estrogen and she got some mycosis. normaly vaginal infection can mess up with the blader. Sure she was embarrassed but what you girs should understand is that for us men it's really no big deal. I didnt like it much coz it was smelly but after she went to bathroom we could continue. NO BIG DEAL. I understand I would have trouble containing myself to if I was being penetrated. It's not like you are silly when you happen to do smth that wasn't expected during some good ride. It's not like you are lil girls. It's that you are being penetrated and lose control. unpractical but sort of hot. hope I helped, try more googling.

Posted by Optional on 03/06/2012 at 08:39

How about just enjoying the sensuality of it.

Posted by Optional on 29/05/2012 at 08:06

when this happens to me I dont feel like Im peeing, I cant stop it, and I just get a sudden warm wet feeling and then the bed is soaked. My husband asks me if I peed or what I tell him I dont know only cuz I dont! I got embarassed the first time and sometimes I still do but my husband likes it (from what he says) so I guess if it happens it happens...

Posted by Optional on 11/05/2012 at 08:27

Seriously you guys that are freaking out and crying and being embarrassed, STOP. The first few times this happened to me, my boyfriend and I thought it was "female ejaculation" and I was actually encouraged to do it. Later on I figured it was actually me just being pushed so far to climax that I was urinating. Before sex we just put a towel down, my boyfriend actually enjoys when I urinate while orgasm because it shows that I'm enjoying the orgasm so much that I can't control my body. Watch ANY kind of porn and every time the girl will "squirt" or "female ejaculate". Heads up, they're just urinating because they're so stimulated. Seriously stop being embarrassed it's ridiculous. If your partner thinks it's gross, tell them to chill the hell out. You don't get grossed out and sick by guys ejaculating do you? No! Don't stop da orgasm.

Posted by Optional on 02/05/2012 at 02:49

my boyfriend and I are a bit spontaneous when we get frisky, so I forget to go to the bathroom before hand... Anyway, whenever I am on top and I go a little faster or harder, I seem to lose control of my bladder:and I urinate ON him. I get so embarrassed, I end up in tears. Although he is very supportive and forgiving, it doesn't turn either of us on. What I want to know is how does it only happen when I am on top? I don't experience this in any other position&he's the only person this has eveer happened with. And I KNOW it's urine, I know what mine smells like. Any ideas or suggestions?

Posted by Optional on 20/02/2012 at 11:01

yes my girlfriend is just turned 47 and she has 3 girls all grown they were not overly large babys 7-8lbs. and she has this problem where as if she sneezes she will pee on herself what do you recommend and it happens doing sex.

Posted by Optional on 07/02/2012 at 02:45

Ok so heres my problem... Im not even entirely sure how it all started.. Just one day all this gushing liquid came out of me during clitoral stimulation about 2 years ago, now it wont stop.. Ive become so freaked out about it that Im constantly clenching during sex with my new boyfriend. If Im alone and do a bit of self stimulation it comes gushing out, and I mean ALOT, like the MESS that happens.. Its so bad that I need to sit on a towel on the FLOOR!! And to make matters worse, it doesnt even feel that great, like theres hardly any feeling at all which in turn makes me wonder if its even any form of orgasm.. I really think theres something wrong with me and its getting me exceptionally down. I cant enjoy sex with the constant fear that its going to happen.. help..

Posted by DOUG on 01/02/2012 at 05:59

every time i get hard my stomach starts to hurt and when i juzz urine comes outbright after. any sujestions?

Posted by Optional on 28/01/2012 at 10:10

I noticed that I was urinating alot. One night I was with my boyfriend and we had sex I urinated in his bed but I couldnt control it and was so embarrassed so he stopped talking to me. I told my Dr. what was going on and he prescibed oxybuytin 5mg. Im still going to the bathroom so I may have to just deal with the problem but it was embarrassing now I wander if I will ever get a boyfriend.

Posted by Optional on 28/01/2012 at 08:03

With my Girl sometimes it is pee. no doubt with smell and color and taste. other times it is the ejaculent described. Either way we love it!

Posted by Optional on 14/01/2012 at 01:50

Thanks helpful, sensible

Posted by Brandon on 06/01/2012 at 06:15

When my woman does this, it excites me too the max. This in turn climaxes her even more. Its an awesome feeling of lubrication as its coming out. We love it.

Posted by Rose on 19/12/2011 at 02:05

Urinating during sex, in our culture implies the woman is sexually active with high sexual libido and our men like it so much!

Posted by Optional on 11/12/2011 at 08:37

It obviously that,majority of women are complianing of peeing went the have sex with their partner and its seem to be embarrasing to them.consequently, my appeal is' doctors should go on research so as to find solution to this problem' that is facing the mass.N/B-having sex is the act of agreement,that will result in enjoyment'not to pee and missed up ur boyfriend.by ukeme Ituen

Posted by Optional on 03/12/2011 at 05:01

Trying to tackle the issue without loosing the sensation. I enjoy having orgams like these types. The smell is what is bothersome for me. I gross myself and get turned off sexually. I wish I had a way to change the strong smell.

Posted by annoyed on 01/12/2011 at 10:47

misleading, dumbass and WRONG answer for a perfectly natural female ejaculation or squirt. i am a highly sexed woman and projectile squirter.....and i love it! best orgasms you can have.

Posted by Optional on 29/11/2011 at 11:45

I dnt thnk i andastand...last nyt i was havin sex with my partner am 7mönths 3wiks pregnant jas wen i thought i was coming i urinated n am so embarasd i cried half ov da nite

Posted by Optional on 21/11/2011 at 02:59

I don't know why girls would even worry about this. You can find many guys that enjoy it. I love when a girl pees during sex. It's so hot.

Posted by Someone.. on 17/11/2011 at 11:51

Ok so heres my problem... Im not even entirely sure how it all started.. Just one day all this gushing liquid came out of me during clitoral stimulation about 2 years ago, now it wont stop.. Ive become so freaked out about it that Im constantly clenching during sex with my new boyfriend. If Im alone and do a bit of self stimulation it comes gushing out, and I mean ALOT, like the MESS that happens.. Its so bad that I need to sit on a towel on the FLOOR!! And to make matters worse, it doesnt even feel that great, like theres hardly any feeling at all which in turn makes me wonder if its even any form of orgasm.. I really think theres something wrong with me and its getting me exceptionally down. I cant enjoy sex with the constant fear that its going to happen.. help..

Posted by Elly on 13/11/2011 at 07:54

You are so helpful may our gud lord bless you

Posted by Mr Optional on 05/11/2011 at 03:55

Why does it matter? When my girl friend pees I get turned on anyway!

Posted by Optional on 01/11/2011 at 03:00

I'm young, I have never had sexual intercourse with a boyfriend, and although have been masturbating most of my life, only with the last 4 years or less put my fingers inside the vagina (I used to do clitoral stimulation.) I've found that only when I do a combination of inside the vagina and the clitoris does this happen. My urine is usually dark in color, as I do not drink enough water. This fluid is always clear, if it isn't bloody. It's much thicker than urine, so I wonder if maybe it is the combination of urine and female lubricant, or simply a large amount of lubricant. I'm not sure, but Ive talked to my boyfriend of two years about it so we are both prepared. He was very reassuring. I really don't think I've known of any guys who minded. I mean really, it's a warm, somewhat sticky liquid during sex. It's pretty suitable. Oral might be awkward, but prepare him ahead of time. If he's not okay with you and your body-- reconsider how okay you are with him. Love yourself.

Posted by Optional on 25/10/2011 at 06:49

peeimg during orgasm can also technically be caused by a urinary tract infection or vaginal infection like bv. Talk to your doctor and make sure there isn't an infection. Some people just squirt, though. Your muscles are contracting, of course its going to affect your bladder lol.

Posted by Optional on 14/10/2011 at 10:09

Hello i a having a problem with this thing of peeing while having sex

Posted by Optional on 11/10/2011 at 04:59

Have found by complete accident that my partner can also ejaculat quite an amount of fluid during sex, but even more so when fingers are used in the right places.Does not bother me one bit and she says she has a better orgasam when this happens and boy i can tell. We have both looked into it and the place that she likes is approx 2" inside on the front wall of her vagina and she goes wild, does not take long at all for her to produce at least half a cup of ( clear fluid ) and yes i have checked who knows if this is urine but it does not smell like it and i would say not. Anyway for the fem's out ther dont worrie most men love it so go for it !

Posted by Michael on 08/10/2011 at 06:43

My wife does this. I love it. She loves it. She wallows in it! Enjoy it. No alternative!

Posted by Xposed on 25/08/2011 at 11:35

My girlfriend does but not often as well. I took my time checking if it was urine,its really not & only happens during organism. She bursts her organism and I enjoy it when that happens. Its female ejaculation and its common than we think only that peope feel embarrass to talk about it. Its not a problem.

Posted by Optional on 06/08/2011 at 06:29

Well I have a weird question this girl urinated on her sleep after we had intercoarse what would cause it ?

Posted by dark on 31/07/2011 at 09:35

this helped a lot...thanks

Posted by help on 26/07/2011 at 12:24

i did urinate during intercourse ,will the uterrus or baby in making will have any problem,pls clear my doubt

Posted by Optional on 25/07/2011 at 07:12

I can't believe how many women have the same problem. When i have sex with my partner i urinate loads, its defiently wee as its smells like it and is yellow. It squirts everywhere during sex and the bed is soaked. I do find it embarassing as it is very large amounts and the bed has to be changed and mattress dried, annoying when having sex before sleep! Im only 29 so i am finding it very frustrating as dont want to be like this for the rest of my life! It doesnt matter how many times i go to the toilet before sex i still wee large amounts during sex.

Posted by Anonymous on 23/07/2011 at 11:44

I don't know why most girls would be embarrassed. I find it extremely hot when a girl squirts or pees during sex. You just need to find a guy who enjoys it. There are many of us who do.

Posted by Optional on 22/07/2011 at 05:34

After climax, when relaxed, I often feel pee flowing from me. I can't stop it and I am too relaxed to be able to stop it, so it just flows out. It is not female ejaculation because it often soaks the mattress and leaves yellow stains on it and also on the sheets if I do not change them and reuse them after drying. I now use a PVC undersheet covered by an old towel under my normal bedsheet. This absorbs most of the pee. Also I wear my panties under my pyjamas and these are unmistakably pee stained when they dry out. This can happen when my partner has sex with me or when I masturbate.

Posted by Optional on 17/07/2011 at 02:50

I barely started having this problem. i am so embarrassed because my husband will ask me why was i so wet and i had no idea how to tell him that it was pee. i always go to the restroom before we are going to have sex but it will still happen and i get real embarrassed on what to do and make my partner not think I'm like just peeing out of no where.

Posted by Sallyl on 14/07/2011 at 06:23

I'm not sure anyone knows anything about the topic of large amounts of fluid leaving the female vagina during intercourse. I have experienced this often. The clear liquid is not warm like urine, there is no smell like urine and after sex I empty a full bladder after soaking the bed. I have to change the sheets. Sometimes I climax and sometimes I don't there is not too much control over it.

Posted by Optional on 25/06/2011 at 02:09

Well I have never had a problem reaching climax. I also do not have a bladder problem. But reacently I have noticed a large amount of fluid during sex. I'm posative it is pee. I could feel tha I was urinating in gushes right before a powerful orgasum. I was very ashamed at first. When my man started to notice it, he was excited that he could make me have such a powerful orgasum that I would pee. I also go potty first before sex. No help. One night while he was giving me oral, I peed in his mouth. I didn't even know I did it till he told me the next day. I felt aweful...for a minute. Now its a inside joke for us. We laugh & have fun wth it. I think for me this ha started because I am head over heels in love & he turns me on like I have never been before. I feel very relaxed & safe with him. So enjoy each other...who cares. Life is short...keep a towel on hand.

Posted by Optional on 17/06/2011 at 05:18

I often find myself peeing during sex,even if I have used the toilet right b4 having sexual intercourse. I've had a weak bladder wen I was younger dat led me 2wet the bed. I just feel embarrassed that right through that has been happening. I've even cut dwn on alcohol, I most times drink a lot of milk. Can anyone help me? Does taking a clean out cause dat also?

Posted by n need of help on 15/06/2011 at 08:58

I hv a similar problem i cant tell the diffrence if im peeing or squirting theres no odor , it feels like im peeing , it comes out clear but the next morn theres a yellow ring but the inside of the cirlce is clear im so confused especially because i normally dont pee alot but when i have sex i let go of something at least 3x's in 1session Also it doesnt happen all the time ,or with my diffrent partners any clue any1?

Posted by Optional on 09/06/2011 at 04:27

I decided to search the web because I began urinating only during masturbation. I haven't mentioned it to my doctor, but now that I know that it's more common than I thought, I certainly will at my next physical.

Posted by Optional on 07/06/2011 at 01:54

Since I have been with my new boyfriend I have been peeing while on top!! It freaks me out it goes everywhere!! It always happens just before I feel like I'm going to orgasm. It just comes out I don't even reAlise im peeing until I look down and its super wet with pee!! my boyfriend does not seem to care but it makes me feel gross. Do I have a bladder problem?? Or does my man have a great shape penis that hits my Gspot?? sometimes I fear I'm not tight anymore or something :(

Posted by Optional on 05/06/2011 at 05:17

I have been expericing fluid leakage during sex and it is so embarrassing. I can not discuss this with my partner. I did not have this in the past. I had a gynecological surgery in 2002 and believe my problems happened after this surgery. Any help? Thank you

Posted by Men too on 01/06/2011 at 11:43

I loked at this hoping to spot another male who had the same problem. I have had bladdr control problems but when we were first married thay were not severe or very often. Several times during "foreplay" I found I was not strongly sexually stimulated or "hard" but suddenly started to wee. We coped with htis as best we could and I was careful to take a pee before getting into bed. Later I could get through quite protracted intercourse without a problem, only to find I was peeing without realising it during the calming down period. It didn't do my manly ego any good to have my partner use the words"I'm changing the sheets tomorrow" as a coded invitation to sex!

Posted by Optional on 31/05/2011 at 05:06

when i have sex and feel the need to orgasm i get a sudden urge to pee. But when i do pee after sex it feels alot better than the actual orgasm. Is something wrong with me.

Posted by Optional on 30/05/2011 at 01:27

At my early age I had sex with may girlfriend in the bush then my girlfriend released something which I don't think was urine but lot of sperms so I think sometimes its not urine just sperms because she was not having sex for a long time

Posted by new to bed wetting during sex on 23/05/2011 at 10:04

First time it happened I was on top and a burning started very intense and wham....to my surprise a squirt happened and it was definately a golden shower. Next time I felt a possible urge I was once again on top a few months later and I tilted my hips and no problem. This last time, I was face down, buns way up high and getting busy when I felt the warm fluid running down my legs and all over his parts. I had no warning. Please let me know what I can do...I am very embarrased. Any ideas for what is happening and how to fix it? I am a woman that has had some problems with peeing when I sneeze at times etc.

Posted by K on 22/05/2011 at 10:25

I dont actually have a problem in this department. As strange as it may sound my parter and i willing do this for the pleasure it brings us both... But in saying that, what im wondering is am i able to fall pregnant from him doing this to me. We did this one night and instead of "cumming" he only urinated in me. And since that night ive been having a few pregnany symptoms. But have had a negative pregnancy test. Is it possible that i might be pregnant and that it has happened from he's urine? Because ive been told that urine contains "pre cum".

Posted by Optional on 19/05/2011 at 08:14

I have been confused as to whether this "fluid" is pee, or is actually female ejaculate. And it isn't just leaking, more like squirting! it has happened 3 times, the first two it was clear like it says on the internet, but this time, it was actual pee, So could this always be pee and i was just a bit dehydrated? I mean come on, i'm 17, i don't want to have to go to a doctor and be told i need to do pelvic floor exercises! Every website tells me different some say it should be milky and smelly, some say clear and no smell at all. Its confusing, how can i trust the facts?

Posted by Optional on 17/05/2011 at 12:02

this has happen to me during sex, it dont happen every time i have sex but its embarassing my husband said it ok.. but i think it just nasty i want find out how can we fix this problem. it doesnt feel like im urinating until i feel the gush right at the end before i have and orgasim.

Posted by Optional on 09/05/2011 at 11:48

happens to me dont know how to stop it

Posted by Optional on 25/04/2011 at 04:27

hi im a female and im trying to get pregnant , but when i have sex with my boyfriend when he ejaculate i pass urine, can i get pregant cause of this ? cause i thing with the urine sperms flush down . please help , thanks .

Posted by Optional on 21/04/2011 at 11:42

i fully agree with th post made by optional on 31/01/2011!! Some women MAY be urinating, but if its from gspot stimulation than its not urine. I didnt start squirting til a few years ago. My husband and i at first wondered but didnt think it was pee because i always empty my bladder b4 sex. The fluid was clear, and nearly half a gallon of it gushed out all at once, And thats not the way a person urinates. We BOTH smelled and tasted, and we know from experamenting other times, that this was not pee at all. Since then he learned to make it happen whenever we want with my gspot. We just lay down a towel first lol.. Anyway, like the other woman said, ignore this idiotic article that was written by experts from the stone ages, dont be ashamed. Find a man with talented hands that loves to get soaked (most men love it!) and let it go!

Posted by Optional on 19/04/2011 at 03:53

Some of you arent really getting the point of this article. There are people who urinate during sex. you can tell. This article isnt stating that female ejaculation is embarrassing. this article is for those who in fact do urinate during sex. I myself have been experiencing this. and I know the difference between urine and female ejaculation.

Posted by Optional on 03/04/2011 at 03:07

I hadn't had sex for 2 years due to a divorce. My ex had an average size penis and sex with him was fine. I didnt have any problems.Now I am dating the sexiest man ever but he so has a much larger penis and everytime we have sex I pee a little - sometimes a lot. He is so sexy and wonderful and I am mortified and so embarrassed. He doesn't realize it's pee but I do! It makes me not want to see him because he wants to explore my body and I am petrified I will leak!!

Posted by Optional on 23/03/2011 at 05:49

I have been with a couple girls that pee during sex, thats what made me curious about this. It doesnt bother me much but I would like to be clean about it somehow and not offend her, it seems to really go crazy when you work the G spot.

Posted by Optional on 16/03/2011 at 01:33

I believe your research to be not entirely true. I have never ejaculated before in my life before the partner I have now for 3 years. It is not completely urine, and I gush. I always have an empty bladder before sex, cuts down on infections. This female ejaculation is more common then you think. Most women won't talk about it. Fear of being embarrassed, feeling like a freak, or by reading articles like this and thinking there is something wrong with them. It is very natural, and very intense-but you will never forget the experience and you will want it every time.

Posted by Optional on 07/03/2011 at 02:50

i seem to be urinating when i am about to reach climax, whether its from clit stimulation or vaginal its still the same, this is really embarrassing and this would probably be a big turn-off during sex. so any suggestions on how i could decrease this from happening???

Posted by Optional on 22/02/2011 at 02:51

i am a 29 years old female, actually i am feeling that i might have problems while cumming, am not cumming when i am with my partner. i always feel there is urine inside me. While i am alone i can simply do it when i sleep on my stomach. is that normal????

Posted by Optional on 22/02/2011 at 05:51

i had my first baby at age 16 and the second at age 19 during my last pregnancy i urinate after sex all the time my baby is already 7 months and i'm still urinating after sex is that normal ?

Posted by Never had an an orgasm.... on 18/02/2011 at 01:03

Is it possible I just don't have the fluids to cum? I feel like I am going to, but then it just goes away completely.

Posted by Optional on 17/02/2011 at 07:01

i do the same thing

Posted by Optional on 16/02/2011 at 03:23

My wife (49) has been urinating in small bursts or leaks during sex for about 2 years now and we have come to embrace it as part of the experience. It really has heightened the experience and we both enjoy it, even when I am giving her oral sex, she will leak and squirt a bit. Although I completely understand this is certainly not for everyone, sometimes a problem can be just the next level in experiencing each other.

Posted by B1988 on 11/02/2011 at 12:12

After i have sez or i masterbate, i go to wee then after a moment or two i have a burning sensation in the end of my penis thwn i cant stop going to wee in small intervals for about an hour after if i try to hold it in it burns so much it is unbearable please help

Posted by Optional on 02/02/2011 at 03:40

This is a completely natural thing. Do not be ashamed of your body or your sexuality. I can tell you that some (usually less experienced men) may find it discusting, but the majority of men are turned on by it. Whether it's pee or something else really does not matter. If you are a squirter, concidder your self lucky! It's natural. Go with the flow!

Posted by Optional on 31/01/2011 at 10:10

Ladies your stories of your shame and fear of your own ejaculate and sex is heartbreaking. I myself first ejaculated only 5 years ago during sex. Unfortunately the guy I was with was utterly shocked and disgusted. This didn't help my confidence. Strangely, since then, I have only ever been with men who find it an immense turn on and actually work towards making this happen during sex. It is NOT a medical problem to be treated with medication or psychosexual counselling. Its a sign your body is happy relaxed healthy and enjoying itself and your g-spot is being stimluated. It generally only happens when you're relaxed enough to let it happen - how horrible it must be to be so happy and relaxed and then feel so ashamed of having been so. If you're comfortable with doing so - smell it, feel it, taste it and you'll see it's not urine and if it is (in the odd case of incontinence) - it's just urine - no big deal. If you feel happy doing so, you will find lots and lots of online pornography celebrating the 'squirt', books telling you how to do it, and people sharing hints and tips, men who want to help their partners do it...the list goes on. Please ignore the above article. This fearmongering and ignorance of our own bodies needs to end NOW! Enjoy it! embrace it! Do it again! Bring a towel and Dive in!

Posted by Optional on 28/01/2011 at 08:51

ive noticed that from my first couple of orgasims where they were clear fluid and could carry on gushing for up to 10 mins afterwards now its been smelling a little like urine my husband loves it but now also i feel like i cant control my bottom and twice now during rough hard sex ive pooed a lil bit when having a orgasim please help if you know the answer i dont feel like having sex anymore because of it.also when we have too much rough sex i bleed on his balls i know this musnt be healthy and my tummy aches as well so answers would be greatfully accepted

Posted by sexaddict on 19/01/2011 at 04:15

i've done this once! Soooo embarassing! don't fret about it though, tottaly natural:) x

Posted by Optional on 17/01/2011 at 11:19

I had prostate surgery about one year ago and im still having uranating/sexual problems. I'm afraid I will uranate in my wife's vagina. If I do will this cause her problems?

Posted by Optional on 13/01/2011 at 04:01

it is very embarrassing when it happens. but i can't seem to have any control over it. i haven't seen my BF in the last six months and now that we are finally going to be together, i am scared like hell. i can't even say if he likes it as he was a little disappointed when he realized this happening. it is destroying my confidence and our relationship. please tell me how can i control it.

Posted by Optional on 09/01/2011 at 12:37

I thought it was only me! But that doesn't help how embarrassing it is. It makes me feel gross and it doesn't feel sexy to me at all, even if my guy likes it. Exactly how STRONG of a urination do you women usually feels? Because mine is annoying, it's not just a trickle. If I'm underneath, it will squirt out into the air steadily for a couple of seconds before I realize to STOP IT. And it is OBVIOUSLY urine; I had no doubt about that. Compared to "squirters", this is DEFINITELY NOT THE SAME. Is there anyone else like this??

Posted by gorgeousbabe on 05/01/2011 at 11:12

This happens to me also but the day after my boyfriend has an irritation any answers would be helpful. I have been tested and have no std so its kind of weird. :/

Posted by Optional on 03/01/2011 at 07:41

Really concerned that when i orgasm i wee and I’m really not sure what to do :( I’m too scared to go to the doctor about it so I’m asking on this, please help me. What do you think I should do?

Posted by Optional on 03/01/2011 at 01:10

I just recently started experiencing a gushing sensation during sex that happens only with penetration. It occurs in multiple positions whether I'm on top or he's on top or from behind. The fluid has been clear, odorless and does not leave a stain when dry. Last night, my boyfriend was more vigorous than usual and the gushing happened numerous times, to the point where towels were soaked and I did smell a faint urine smell. I was mortified! But, when I stripped the bed, there were no stains or strong odor anywhere. I do notice when it's happening, it feels very pleasureable, but not quite to the point of orgasm, which BTW, when I do have an orgasm, I don't gush! My BF doesn't seem bothered by it. Rather, it seems like he's trying extra hard to make it happen. Still, it's embarrassing to me...

Posted by Optional on 31/12/2010 at 03:00

my girlfriend is adamant that this is female ejaculation... having spent some time in that reigon, during foreplay etc, i was able to see exactly what was happening- but now feel unable to talk about it as fear what this may to to her self esteem... however, If i'm honest, i dont enjoy this side of things and feel it may ultimatley cause issues :/ i have read the other comments and found it re-assuring to see that a lot of people have been 'open' about this subject, which i acknowledge can be fun for some couples... tips on broaching this subject with a girlfriend who doesnt 'need to talk about it' as its not urine?

Posted by happy squirter on 30/12/2010 at 01:22

i've leaked and squirted some kind of fluid at orgasm for several years...and my husband loves it! he said he doesn't care if it is pee or female ejaculate...he just thinks it's hot. if you're doing this, learn to enjoy it, it can be super sexy and fun!

Posted by Optional on 29/12/2010 at 07:53

My fiance and I have been together for a year and ahalf. Just recently he did something where i climaxed all this fluid came out almost every second kinda like a gush gush sound. Then i felt this fluid come bursting out. of course he enjoys it and i love it its the most amazing feeling ever. When i smeeled the fliud on our sheets it smelled a little like urine, there was also a tint of yellow. Im planing to ask my doctor about it soon. But i really think that if you both enjoy it then dont worry about as long as its all good! and plus i had no idea about clearing out my bladder, so im going to start doing that. good luck to all Peace N Love

Posted by Optional on 21/12/2010 at 03:18

I have a coupe of questions, as I don't quite understand what is going on. Because my "symptoms", don't match up. I can hold my bladder quite well. Even all day, if I have to. So I know that it's not a weak bladder neck. When we are about to have sex, I know for a fact, that I do not have to use the bathroom. And Sometimes, I have even used it already, a while earlier before we started having it. It only seems to happen when I am on top though. It seems to happen pretty quickly, after we start, when I am on top. Maybe a couple of minutes into it. And it doesn't happen all of the time. I remember reading of this issue, a couple of years ago. And it came to mind when it happened. But it can't be ejaculation fluid, as it smells strongly of urine. And the last time i did it, it left a stain on the matress. I read the ways to prevent this from happening. But I do not fall under any of those, as I do not soda (caffeine), and I do not drink alcohol. I do empty my bladder before sex, and I don't drink excessive amounts of fluid during the day. if I do happen to drink a lot, i use the bathroom. Please help me with this issue. It's very embarrassing

Posted by Jack and Jill on 19/12/2010 at 08:06

We recently had sex and stopped because jack felt a watery fluid trickle down his 'gouche'(part between the penis and bum). We looked at the sheet and there was a clear watery patch their and was odourless. What could this be because it's never happened before? Jill didn't climax either?

Posted by Optional on 19/12/2010 at 01:11

I really wet my partner during sex i really don't like it cause is too wet but he enjoys it cause he knows he is doing his job well done

Posted by Optional on 07/12/2010 at 09:34

I always urinate when me and my husband have intercourse. He enjoys it and why should you urinate, thats what towels are for!

Posted by Wifey on 06/12/2010 at 10:08

Interesting stories of everyone to say the least! I encountered an unusual feeling of pressure to my bladder tonight(which has never really happened)I have been urinating all night because of this. So I call myself looking online to find a medical condition, but instead I actually had found a similarity with this article(damn google). It hasnt been long since I realized myself that I have the urge to pee while Getting it on with the hubster. Im not sure if it's due to my bladder or any medical condition, but lately when my husband puts it all inside of me I feel desperately to pee all over his penis. I actually have brought this topic of conversation up to him,and he responded by asking me "why dont you!" Like that is the clever thing for me to do smh. I just say no and shake my head. I enjoy reviewing the comments,at least I know Im not alone with this situation! o_0

Posted by Optional on 16/11/2010 at 01:53

i have never done this before, but last night i urinated on the guy i was having sex with, and we have only just started dating. i dont think he was too impressed, and im really embarrassed...will that keep happening?

Posted by Optional on 15/11/2010 at 08:15

very helpful did not try to sell anything and have booked an appointment to see the GP.

Posted by Optional on 13/11/2010 at 06:56

I have a neurogenic bladder and it causes me to urinate uncontrolably during sex. It generally happens at the moment before ejaculation and it is terrible! My girlfriend doesn't mind and will let me urinate inside her without any problem. It is my own mental state that is being effected. I've tried time and time again to empty my bladder before hand but it doesnt seem to help. I wish there was something I could do about it but its a problem I was born with and I dont see any change in the future

Posted by Optional on 07/11/2010 at 01:38

I just recently discovered that I urinate while having an orgasm I dont empty my bladder completely, and it doesnt hapoen everytime but I like it...its a different feeling.

Posted by Optional on 05/11/2010 at 12:28

I have Interstitial Cystitis, I have had it since I was about 20 , I have had many catheters and atleast 70 procedures, urethral & Bladder Distention,stretching,distillations, RMSO - DMSO - Lazer treatment on the bladder wall . To many to remember , I deal with this and don't allow myself to focus or get down about it , there are worse illnesses , my problem is leakage prior and during orgasm weather I have emptied my bladder or not . I also don't achieve orgasm often because I am worried it will happen . I have painful intercourse but this problem is more embarrassing I had urodynamics done and other bladder function tests just recently to be reevaluated for my I.T problem the specialist that I see has stated that my kegel muscles are strong.I've not had children & have had a hysterectomy when I turned 30 years old, it was done abdominally because I was I was small inside the surgery couldn't be done vaginally . So I don't know why or what causes this it's gotten worse in the past 2 years. Before that I didn't have the problem maybe on the rare occation .Thank you for listening :))

Posted by JR1275 on 30/10/2010 at 08:00

This has just recently happened to me. It happend a few years ago but never during actual intercourse. The 2 times it's happened has been with my vibrator and it feels sooooo good. I had to research it alot since I was convinced I had been pee'ing. But now I am excited to know that I'm a squirter!!! hahahaha

Posted by Optional on 26/10/2010 at 02:03

My wife has urinated on me during sex. To be sure it was really urine, I had her place a cup to collect when she thought she had to go. It was not an orgasm fluid. It was most definitely urine. I can also urinate inside of her when we have intercourse. Gross, but some times you have to go. Feels almost as good to release, as it does to get off.

Posted by Optional on 25/10/2010 at 06:42

Lately for about the past 6 times I had intercourse I urinated uncontrollably and I don't know how to stop it. So embarrassing!

Posted by WePduringSex on 23/10/2010 at 04:35

It is NOT impossible to urinate during sex. I personally have experienced such. I thought I was experiencing FEMALE EJACULATION, but what came out during sex, onto my WHITE sheets was in fact pee. Was yellow. Had the same smell. Female cum is supposed to be clear fluid, not yellow like pee...so why some of you think that it is impossible is crazy. ALSO... just to clear something else up, it IS possible for a MAN to urinate inside of a woman while having sex. I let my husband do it to me, to bust the myth. This was prior to an orgasm for him as well.

Posted by Missy on 22/10/2010 at 03:27

I didnt previously,but just all of a sudden started urinating while reaching climax...thing is i dont think it has anything to do with weak bladders,because it doesnt happen everytime me and my boyfriend have sex...its at that moment when u feel you are reaching orgasm that you feel it coming...like its so nice that you just let go of everything.My boyfriend loves it,i was a bit shy before but he eased my mind and i love that he loves it

Posted by Suprise on 21/10/2010 at 06:09

Today i had sex wit my booyfriend,after 4 months of abstainance,what confused me was that i had a gush of fluid/excessive flow of fluid(not urine),this is the first time this happens,would it be because i had drank coke first?what would be the problem? PLS HELP

Posted by Optional on 12/10/2010 at 03:31

I have been dealing with this issue for many years now and have never really looked up or talked to anyone about it.. I have been acccused of urinating while riding and pushed off, because they didn't like it, but on the other hand, I am with someone now who is amazed by it,and at the same time would like to not have the mattress ruined. At first it was hard to hear some of the comments from this person, but knowing that they truly don't mind and it doesn't ruin the hot sexy tantric moments we have, I am okay!! Mind you, we did invest in a waterproof meduim sized matt for the bed, cost only 13 dollar, not so bad if yah ask me, and during those other times, mehhh who cares, lets get it on baby!!!LOL

Posted by Optional on 10/10/2010 at 11:05

well after reading this article i was still unsure if i was coming or going excuse the pun ! but after seeing all the comments ......thank you - but i think i now know that i was coming, i was laying on my back the first time and it felt like i was ejaculating and never happened since till i met this boyf and he likes it very fast so whilst on my front i found i did it again and in this position it was more noticeable as the bed was wet - of corse he was proud and i was a little worried that it was urine but it happens every time we are in the doggy but more flat position - it doesnt bother me and im not embarresed but i thought id look it up now i know just to have a towel to hand or dont do that position - but some of the comments are right dont worry girls as the men seem to love it, and i now relise that just because i dont get that all over warm feeling like an orgasm dosent mean im not ejaculating

Posted by Optional on 10/10/2010 at 04:37

i have a problem urinating when i sneeze cought and also have sex it is so embarrising have been to my gp but he said nothing is wrong, even at worki find myself leaking and ending up wet which leaves me trying to hide it iam very very embarresed can you please help me thanks

Posted by Optional on 07/10/2010 at 04:11

Why do woman experince urinanting when sexing with there partner after one round?

Posted by Objective on 06/10/2010 at 08:45

I wasn't looking for info that viewed this as a "problem" that needs solving. I wanted to understand. Also, my girl urinates in certain positions, but not others, and the more intense she is aroused, the more urine is produced. It is not a problem for me, and I am getting her accustomed to her reaction. At first she was embarrassed, but I think it's natural.

Posted by Optional on 04/10/2010 at 10:39

Your "research" regarding female ejaculation is WRONG. There IS confirmed evidence of this. It does happen. Many women think they can't do it because they feel like they are going to "pee" during intercourse. But in fact, they may have the ability to ejaculate. It is IMPOSSIBLE to urinate during intercourse...just as it is impossible for men to urinate during sex.

Posted by optional on 02/10/2010 at 03:08

Is it abnormal for my girlfriend to urinate as im stimualating the clit? Shes a virgin and we havn't had sex. 20yrs old.

Posted by Optional on 21/09/2010 at 01:31

Hello, I am 19 years old but I've been releasing very large amounts of what can not be urine. It has no odor and it is clear. I don't have a urination problems through out the day. And when I urinate it is never as large of a quantity as is during sex. I've even tried urinating right before insertion to see if it makes a different. It doesn't. I've been releasing this "fluid" since age 16 but most of the research I've done says that peeing doesn't happen until at least age 21. By contracting the muscles of my vagina and taking really deep breaths I can cause it to happen at will. I can also orgasm without releasing the fluid if I don't want to. If I want it to continue throughout the entire time of intercourse i can but because of me being young and embarrassed about it I've always just held it. But now my partner enjoys the way it feels so I release as he demands. When I pee after sex its not because i have the urge to but because i read that it was healthy to do so. Ive asked multiple friends of mine and neither of them can but my sister also has this "ability". Is it hereditary? Even after all of the research I've done on this topic I still haven't gotten an exact answer, so I plan to just embrace this sexual mystery and maybe there'll be an answer in years to come. =]

Posted by Optional on 18/09/2010 at 08:54

i have only just started noticeing that i am very wet dueing sex,just as i am about to orgasm.this is very off putting,and putting me off sex.have not been to the doctors,and putting it down to the change.

Posted by Optional Leak on 14/09/2010 at 12:19

Ladies why are you so worried. Afterall guys love it when you leak. This makes them believe that they are satisfying you sexually. So be proud of it, and don't empty your tank before sex. It is fun.

Posted by Kirstin on 03/09/2010 at 01:07

Well I am 19 years of age. I don't know if I am peeing or not. I listen to "Love Line" all the time (It's a radio station that answers question about sex. I haven't heard anything on this topic, but I do know that vibrators give unrealist results. I don't know if it's the guys I'm with or what. I have never peed during actual sex, but I believe I have during my personal play time. I'm still not sure whether or not I am peeing or orgasming because it typically doesn't happen until 21 years of age. I'm not much for foreplay, a few kisses and I'm ready to go. Dr. Drew said this is a sigh or a woman capable of mulituple orgasms. Still not clear if it's pee or an orgasm

Posted by Optional on 03/09/2010 at 06:21

I am conserned that I never have an ejacultaion episode during sex with my current partner. My ex and I use to have sex and I use to always wet the bed as if I peed. So I use to pee befor having sex.. but still always wet the bed from ejaulation as I now know.. I'm with my current boyfriend and for some reason I don't have those episodes whatso ever and I so miss that feeling! . And its sooo disapointing.. he's great at going down on my but I never wet the bed like with my first partner is that wrong or what!!?? We both argue about me not really getting off. I cum but not total wet sqirting episodes. Does anyone have any advise?!

Posted by Optional on 02/09/2010 at 10:15

I'm 24, and up until now had had a huge complex about myself because I leak during sex! I had no idea that others experience it. It doesn't seem to happen all the time, but it can happen even if I've emptied my bladder right before... You know, getting on with things. The first time I realised it had happened I was horrified and couldn't believe it - I don't have incontinence problems during my non-sex life. I couldn't believe it. When I was about 20, I finally gathered up the courage to talk to my GP about it. She said it wasn't something that she had EVER heard of, and seemed at a bit of a loss for what to suggest. Grrrrrrr. I felt even more mortified that I was some kind of medical anomoly! I did some internet searches, but never found anything online, so decided I'd just have to live with it. But, it has definitely knocked my confidence - although I'm not celibate, I have gone through phases of avoiding sex, and when I've been in relationships I often don't drink any fluids for days, which is NOT good! I've never discussed it with any of my partners. It's bloody annoying lying there thinking 'am I peeing right now?!' because when it's happened, I haven't had the sensation of it happening. Also, it doesn't seem to smell of pee, but leaves a definite wet-patch. I for one am going to embrace the female ejaculation theory from now on - and I definitely feel a lot better about it!

Posted by Optional on 01/09/2010 at 12:00

Once I have an orgasam, if my partner once me to have another within 5 minutes of the first, when he starts playing with clitoris again, I leak some urine. No urine during sex... no urine after an orgasam.... if my partner trys to give me multiple orgasams... after the first... i have a light stream of urine that washes away all the vaginal sexual secretions. Is this normal. Is there an article that I can show my partner..... husband.

Posted by Brand New Partner on 30/08/2010 at 07:45

First off, this article is aweful! I agree with everyone who commented that this appears to be one doctors opinion, that there is medical evidence of female ejaculation out there, that this is still being researched, and I love the comment about this being a modern example of Victorian repression. Secondly-at thirty years old, I am now convinced I just had my first real orgasm. I thought I'd had orgasms before, but two nights ago I had an encounter with a man I've had strong feelings for for a long time but we were both otherwise involved and had never acted on these emotions. Well, we finally did and I have never been with such a giving partner. We both got the goods, but I have never felt so enjoyed by a partner. He seemed to know how to stimulate my anatamy better than I do, and I'm no stranger. And he was totally involved and enthusiastic about getting me to a second orgasm after I already thought I'd had one. When it happened I thought my body would fly apart and I was lost for a moment. When I returned to earth (lol) I felt wetness underneath me and I started to sit up saying 'I think I peed!' He didn't skip a beat, just said that happens sometimes and went on caressing me. I relaxed immediately agian, obviously everything was fine, but I did say, 'well that's never happened to me' and his reply was a chuckle and he said, 'well then no one's ever done you right' He was thoroughly proud of himself, I was thoroughly satisfied and we never investigated the fluid. I just googled this on a lark to see if I had peed or not. The first thing I found was a much more possitive article that explained the anatomy of the g-spot and it's likeness to the male prostate and how with proper stimulation it does create and then excrete a fluid similar to prostatatic fluid plus a little glucose and trace amounts of urine because it comes out through the urethra and picks up whatever is hanging out in there. Perfectly normal, not the same as incontinence, and the only other word I have to say is 'HALLELUJAH!'

Posted by Optional on 26/08/2010 at 05:55

i always urinate when i'm having an orgasm. However, i always empty my bladder before intercourse.

Posted by jenny from the block on 25/08/2010 at 09:18

it's okay, ive learned to live with it. my husband is german and when he goes down on me he feels great! he thinks im just a squiter.. shhh.. i wont tell if u dont! :P

Posted by Amanda on 03/08/2010 at 01:42

Hi folks! I'm one of those unfortunates who urinates during an orgasm (which can totally ruin it if you are worried about it like I am 3/4ths of the time.) My husband and I have figured out some precautions that work fairly well at minimizing the flow and making me more at ease. 1)I go right before we start fooling around. 2) My husband positions a folded up towel beneath me to catch any leaks so they don't end up on the bed. Since he is a gentleman and makes sure the lady goes first, he can tell when it is going to start happening and makes sure the towel hasn't shifted. He is very sweet about it (even though I think it's totally gross.) Guys, the best thing you can do for your girl is make her feel loved and comfortable with her body. Special thanks to my husband for being the best guy in the world.

Posted by Optional on 01/08/2010 at 10:28

Ah, horray for the "experts" who are telling us that women cannot experience female ejaculation (and many still do not believe in the G-spot)and so therefore, it must be urine. To them I say-- I'm sorry that, if you are female you have never had this experience. And if you are male, you have not had the pleasure of your female partner experiencing this experience. And if you haven't found your G-spot because you believe these so-called experts, then, well, I'm so sorry....

Posted by boyfreind on 17/07/2010 at 11:22

is there any way to openly talk bout it or stop it from my point of veiw i dont wana be rude but there was alot of urine and i had to get a new mattress weve had sex 3 times and shes only did it twice. It really smells and bugs me i just dont know how to bring it up in a converastion

Posted by Optional on 03/07/2010 at 08:41

I peed right before I masterbated&orgasmed;, and i think i still peed. I don't have trouble holding pee, EVER. I don't know what to do.

Posted by Optional on 01/07/2010 at 07:01

Wow! Thank you! no matter who I asked about this. I never got a clear answer.

Posted by Missy on 30/06/2010 at 12:56

Hi, I allways feel the urge to pee while I am having sex....Is this normal?

Posted by Optional on 19/06/2010 at 03:01

i ejaculate nearly every time im with my man, sometimes i urinate a tiny bit, not all the time its not a problem, but the real question is whether or not i've had a proper orgasm, its amazing when i ejaculate but does it get any better then this?

Posted by Optional on 17/06/2010 at 08:15

Hai iam married one month ago and these days i cannot control my urination.Iam urinating frequently than before.Once iam feeling it i couldn't control.Please suggest me a solution as iam facing it even in public places.

Posted by Optional on 13/06/2010 at 12:05

pain while uranation also 4 times a night hard to flow etc.

Posted by Optional on 08/06/2010 at 06:57

I looked at this site because the last time my husband,( yes husband, we waited until we were married, something I highly recommend,) and I had sex I urinated during a great orgasm. I was concerned. He loves me unconditionally so I was not afraid to talk to him about it, only a little embarrassed. Mostly because it felt erotic and because I could have tried to run to the toilet but just let it flow. I guess I’m not the only one this happens too. Come on though how about no sex before marriage, no masturbation and no artificial birth control. No abortion either while we are on the subject.

Posted by boyfriend on 31/05/2010 at 03:52

I have a girlfriend who's 20yrs .every time when we having sex she wet the bed this thing has happens everytime ,my question is this something i need to be concern about?

Posted by Optional on 30/05/2010 at 05:58

I don't care what the studies say, there is a difference between urine and female ejaculate. I've done both, there is a large difference. Ask a man if he can tell the difference between peeing and ejaculating, it's the same with women.

Posted by Mr. EDAFE on 25/05/2010 at 09:08

my friend talks of wanting to pee at orgasm but she can hold it. i found the information useful becausd i haven't had sex with anyone else expect her, thanks

Posted by phew! on 24/05/2010 at 01:48

was a bit scared to what it was exactly even tho i enjoy the feeling of when it happens to me during sexual intercourse! my partner is very happy and likes it when i urinate during sex, happy this is more normal than i thought! :)

Posted by Optional on 19/05/2010 at 04:53

I am fairly new to the aspect of sex and still am unable to have sex comfortably (every time feels like the first time). However I have a weak bladder (not only during sex)and during foreplay I have an immense tendancy to want to pee...Sometimes I get so wet I feel that I have peed but I'm not sure. I am mortified of the fact that I may be peeing on my S/O's hand but lately this almost always occurs. I sometimes stop right in between and go to the washroom but a lot of the time nothing comes out but i still feel the need to pee. This is really frustrating for me. I have come to associate sexual acts with the feeling of needing to urinate, when I am aroused I almost always need to pee. Is this what arousal feels like and when you climax does it feel as if you are peeing? someone help.

Posted by Optional on 16/05/2010 at 07:59

every time i have sex doggy style i always pass urine.

Posted by Mrs. S on 13/05/2010 at 06:25

Also the best thing for a incontinence would be exercise. Trust me when I say I had a friend and she suffered with incontinence and didn't want any prescribed medication. So she thought what else could she do and she began exercising and saw that as the solution for her problem. Now she no longer suffers with incontinence and is extremely confident about herself.

Posted by Bwree on 09/05/2010 at 10:02

Well I still don't know whether it's some special fluid or urine I produce, I'd prefer it to at least have a slight difference to urine, makes me feel less of an old woman! During sex with my old parner I used to get feelings for the toilet but just went off and had a pee. Now I love this urination, it feels like a full-on orgasm, and I don't feel that way during sex any other way. It does feel like ejaculation and is the highlight of my masturbation, it really feels wonderful if you learn to embrace it not hold it in. Now to see what my new boyfriend will feel when the time comes, I'm sure I'll be comfortable enough to show him... Just embrace it girls :)

Posted by Aliyah on 08/05/2010 at 05:02

I also have the same problem but it only happens at orgams

Posted by Optional on 07/05/2010 at 05:47

both myself and partner enjoy urination during intercourse,cn infections be passed on? Marie

Posted by Optional on 29/04/2010 at 04:16

i feel enbarrassed sometimes when it happends. it feels good when i urinate with sex it feels like a multiple orgasm.

Posted by Optional on 24/04/2010 at 10:57

i have leaking fluid problem it has past1 year.

Posted by curious25 on 22/04/2010 at 03:41

My fiance and I have had this problems since the beginning, i was her first sexual partner, so I put it down to nerves at first but a year later the problem perssists at orgasm. This hasn't caused a problem in our relationship, as we continue to have a very healthy sex life. the information on the page was very helpful, but in my case only served to educate, as we do not plan on medication or operations for something which although i find strange doesn't pose a health issue or prevent normal interactions.

Posted by HerHubby on 20/04/2010 at 01:25

It is beyond belief to me that this would be a problem for anybody. Occasionally my wife has leaked urine during sex. If it has happened during oral sex, well, that is what my tongue is for - I lick it off of her. If it has happened during actual intercourse, no problem. That is what towels are for afterwards. I love the smell and taste of my wife's urine!

Posted by Stefano on 17/04/2010 at 04:43

I happen to be a male who is greatly turned on by women who have the capability of which we are speaking. The number of women responding here does not surprise me since this is a rather common problem....what IS difficult is meeting women who have this "problem" (I use quotation marks because, really, it is NOT a problem). Does anyone know how I can make contact with women who have this capability? The few websites available are of poor quality and tend to demean, in my opinion, the women who release fluids during orgasm. I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you very much.

Posted by Optional on 13/04/2010 at 02:30

I thought my problem of urination during intercourse was serious. My boyfriend just laughs when it happens. We put towels on the bed because 9 out of 10 times it soaks the bed. It doesn't bother us. I just googled it to find out why. Never happened before when I was younger. But after 4 children , my bladder is very weak, as is my mother's and her mother's. :) oh well. Life. and laundry....

Posted by priya on 11/04/2010 at 11:18

hello actuly i have a problem im in relationship and whenever im doing sax i have a leakage problem and its aloat and my partener always unhappy with me what should i do plz help

Posted by Optional on 05/04/2010 at 12:36

I've been trying to search my symptoms on the internet for about 2 years and FINALLY have found a website which explains! Thank you! I don't feel really alone anymore, it seems like it isn't even that much of a rare problem after all. I wish there was a cure though, the thought of surgery makes me queasy and i don't think antidepressants would cure it =/

Posted by fabiola on 28/03/2010 at 11:12

thank u so much I have been like this for some years u were very helpfull.

Posted by Optional on 25/03/2010 at 12:15

I have had this problem for many yrs and couldn't face telling my G.P thank u for this information I assummed being incontinent whilst having an orgasam wouln,t be treatable.

Posted by trish on 09/03/2010 at 01:03

i wud like to congratuate u for ur information

Posted by Jon on 01/03/2010 at 02:48

Dr. Margaret Stearn is doing a terrible disservice to many women visiting this website. Some of these "facts" in this article are her opinions and don't reflect the stance of the overall medical community; specifically the statement "it now seems clear that this fluid is just urine" is a FLAT-OUT LIE. What you're experiencing might not be urine. Female ejaculation is real. Visit any other website or talk to your doctor and you'll see that female ejaculation occurs in many woman and is quite normal. Some guys actually see it as a huge turn-on. Please don't let the lies in this article make you feel ashamed about yourself. Embrace your body!

Posted by michelle on 12/02/2010 at 09:43

Hi ive just started a recent relationship been together for a while but its the 1st time ive had sex in a about 6 months. I was left with a weak bladder and stress incontinance after giving birth to my son. Ive found that i have been urinating during sex and really embarrassed now i cant enjoy the sex because i am scared that it will happen everytime. I dont know how to talk to him about it because i dont no how he will take it and weather he will want to have sex with me again.

Posted by lisa on 11/02/2010 at 01:06

I get up 3 to 4 times a night to urinate.When i have sex i have the urge to pee when he pulls my legs up.Then when he takes his penis out its gone.I was wandering if there was something wrong with my bladder.Doesnt hurt when i pee

Posted by Anonymous on 06/02/2010 at 07:08

Hi, my boyfriend & i are ready to have sex-he's only done it once before, but im a virgin. any tips on things i should know? iv'e heard that when the heymen breaks blood may occur. and what is all this stuff about pain...does it hurt the first time?

Posted by Anonymous on 22/01/2010 at 10:04

There are some men, myself included, who are, in fact, quite turned on by this rather common woman's problem. During sex, receiving and swallowing the woman's urine is quite enjoyable...small changes in the woman's diet will produce a urine with a very pleasant taste. True, there are many who find this repulsive; but my feeling is this: "...if you truly are in love with the woman, why would you NOT do this for her" Urine is a sterile liquid and I have never had any adverse reactions to drinking it.

Posted by Katie on 21/01/2010 at 03:25

Okay, so here's the deal, I have ejaculated every time I've ever had an orgasm except for the first time I had one. My first orgasm, I had no clue of what it was and I had a severe urge to urinate during it. It was not during intercourse, to be perfectly honest my boyfriend at the time was fingering me and didnt stop. I think that's why I felt the need. I was horrified that I might pee on his hand! After that every other orgasm I had was from my next boyfriend. I was with him for 9 years and we had a child together. I would always ejaculate a thick whitish liquid which is normal ejaculate for a woman. I've never had a history of incontinence, until this past weekend. I was having sex with my current boyfriend, and it was really rough sex. To the person who said they heard it was from immense pressure I believe this to be true. I've never had rough sex before and this one time we had really good really rough sex, we both got off without a hitch but were in a different position from the beginning of the sex (which was rougher in the beginning) and at the end he noticed a wet spot on the bed. I nearly had a heart attack because I realized it must have come from me, but that not only did I not feel it, but that it was a large amount of something. We sat there for a couple minutes not wanting to decide that it was urine, but that's exactly what it was. Luckily he doesnt find me completely repulsive after that. Ive been obsessively peeing every hour or so to make sure I dont have anything in my bladder if we do decide to have sex, which in the past 24 hours we've had 3 times. And all three times I did not urinate. There were a couple of factors that stand out to me here. 1. That day I had taken a Xanax which is an anti anxiety medication. It releases endorphins into your system that relax your body. 2. It was really rough sex that was also from behind. That puts a lot of pressure on everything, including your bladder. 3. I did not urinate before having sex, so I

Posted by tama on 07/01/2010 at 05:25

hi, i just wanna ask about something, i lost my virginity when i was 17, sex was fine and i never had any infections until before 4 years just when i met my last boyfriend, we have a lot of fun in sex and i do have a female ejaculation when we have a sexual intercourse, it doesn't have any smell or color, but after that while we are not done yet, i start passing urine and it has a bad smell and burns my vagina and swells it and i cant urinate for the next 3 days becoz it hurts. all i wanna know, why would i urinate? why does sex hurts although it never did with any of my ex-s? what can i do to prevent this kind of thing ( i tried what u stated previously but nothing worked), is there any home remedies? and does wearing condoms help or make it worse? i need ur help please.. thanks..

Posted by Anonymous on 27/12/2009 at 10:06

during sex when it comes to the climax i feel as though i am going to cum...but never due! Its very frustrating for me as during clitoral stimualtion i get a climax feel also but its more of a pressure sensation and i get a gush of fluid from my vagina....sometimes its wee? i dont know why this happens...is it just me?

Posted by Anon on 10/12/2009 at 03:53

Wow. I feel a little better after reading this. About a year ago, I was masturbating, and I thought I had some kind of incredible orgasm. Unfortunately, I completely soiled the bed with urine. Ever since then, I've been incredibly terrified of peeing or even pooping during sex and it made me really nervous because I would be so embarrassed and humiliated that I know I would need therapy just to have sex again. Sometimes, I feel like I have the urge to pee during sex. That feeling was there long before the incident, but I never thought anything of it. Now, I get completely dry just worrying about peeing during sex. Even when we start getting intimate, my fiance has to stop and ask me if I want to go to the bathroom first because I recently informed him that I was paranoid (but didn't tell him that I had peed during an orgasm). I thought it would gross him out if I told him about the orgasm incident that happened in the past so I probably still wont tell him. However, I'm very glad to see that this is a normal thing. I do have a history of UTI dating back to my early childhood so that probably explains why it happened in the first place. I'll just have to pay attention to how much I'm drinking and just go to the bathroom before ever getting into the bed. I feel so relieved. Thanks so much for posting here everyone. Good luck to all of you too!

Posted by Matt on 19/11/2009 at 02:11

My girlfriend does this, and I enjoy it a great deal.

Posted by :) carlie on 31/10/2009 at 02:01

I for years have experienced a mass leakage during sex and it happens almost every time! I thought it was jst a fluid, it wasnt jst a little, it was alot and i went to the doctor and they didnt get what i sed bt that was a few yrs ago! My recent partner and i had sex n the next day he told me that i had urinated during sex as he saw it on his bed sheets, so that must have been wot the fluid leak was al the other times i had sex. Nw reading this i realise im nt the only woman with this problem and after yrs of embarresment and suffing, i cn go to docs and get it sorted.

Posted by Anonymous on 29/10/2009 at 10:33

In my 50s now, but have had this problem since my 20s. It doesn't matter whether masturbating or having intercourse with partner, I"ll pee during good orgasms (and if try to restrain it, orgasm is lost). It seemed pretty cool, or at least OK, when I thought it was female ejaculation - boyfriend didn't care too much and we used towels. In recent years, became convinced it's really urine, and now feel ashamed. No partner now - can't date either men or women, because the only person I'm not embarrassed to have sex with is myself! Not the healthiest, I guess, but certainly the easiest - unsure what else to do at the moment. Good luck to the rest of y'all, and don't give up. I wish none had this problem, but it's a relief to find others talking about it and dealing with it - makes me feel less freaky. Thank you!

Posted by Theda on 13/10/2009 at 02:24

Ladies your stories of your shame and fear of your own ejaculate and sex is heartbreaking. I myself first ejaculated only 5 years ago during sex. Unfortunately the guy I was with was utterly shocked and disgusted. This didn't help my confidence. Strangely, since then, I have only ever been with men who find it an immense turn on and actually work towards making this happen during sex. It is NOT a medical problem to be treated with medication or psychosexual counselling. Its a sign your body is happy relaxed healthy and enjoying itself and your g-spot is being stimluated. It generally only happens when you're relaxed enough to let it happen - how horrible it must be to be so happy and relaxed and then feel so ashamed of having been so. If you're comfortable with doing so - smell it, feel it, taste it and you'll see it's not urine and if it is (in the odd case of incontinence) - it's just urine - no big deal. If you feel happy doing so, you will find lots and lots of online pornography celebrating the 'squirt', books telling you how to do it, and people sharing hints and tips, men who want to help their partners do it...the list goes on. Please ignore the above article. This fearmongering and ignorance of our own bodies needs to end NOW! Enjoy it! embrace it! Do it again! Bring a towel! Dive in!

Posted by Maria Blackwell on 09/10/2009 at 02:54

Since time began women have celebrated their sexuality. Then came the Victorians and everything changed. Women became sexually repressed and female bodily fluids became an embarrassment. Here we have an article that not only puts women back into that Victorian era but puts aside all other research done on what female ejaculation is. Female ejaculation should not only be embraced but it should and must be celebrated. Of course there are incontinent women but so what? its a bit of pee and it harms nobody. To those women... just get a towel and enjoy! For those of us that do truly ejaculate and take huge pleasure from ejaculating, I think you owe us an article on the female body and all its sexual fluids because sexual repression is such a repressed thing to do.

Posted by Slide on 08/10/2009 at 09:43

I am upset that female ejaculation is dismissed as a "myth" in this article. This is merely the opinion of the doctor who wrote it. It is by no means the opinion of the medical profession as a whole, and is certainly not a scientifically proven fact. It seems irresponsible to me that a website that presents itself as an authority on medical issues could fail to present any of the mountain of evidence in favour of female ejaculation in what is an ongoing debate, not a foregone conclusion. For the sake of balance, I'd recommend that anyone who has read this page also google "Milan Zaviacic", the recent "New Scientist" articles, and the "Anna Span vs the BBFC" case. If I'd come to THIS site in my teens when I first experienced female ejaculation, I probably wouldn't ever have dared have sex again, let alone cum! Ladies, don't despair. It's not pee, and it is normal. Ms Slide x

Posted by kizzy on 23/09/2009 at 07:35

Usually when i feel the need to pee during intercourse i can hold it till after but a couple of weeks ago i was leaking urine it tickled at first and then it turned into a sharp pain. This went on eeverytime i peed for two weeks. Then out of no where it stops. And then the other day my boyfriend and i were having intercourse and i think i was climaxing but out of no where a substantial amount of wet liquad is dripping out of me. I thought it was just my juoces but when i smelt it, it smelt like urine. Did i climax or is that not normal or what??

Posted by Nicole on 02/09/2009 at 06:59

I have had urinary incontinence during sex and it is very embarrassing. It does not happen all the time and I do not feel an urge to pee when it happens - it just comes out. I have noticed it happen more when we are standing. My boyfriend thinks this is female ejaculation and thinks it is perfectly normal. I do not want to tell him that I think it is actually pee. I also do kegels like crazy daily and they do not help. I have had one child.

Posted by obino vincent on 31/08/2009 at 01:14

I have read before that urinating during sex is due to immense pleasure on the woman, how true is this?

Posted by Valerie on 14/08/2009 at 09:42

I was looking for answers that are nonpharmacological. I have had three children and terrible incontinence during pregnancy. I have never had a problem during intercourse and have had problemd during climax; or orgasm and it is embarressing. I have not talked with my MD because I think it would be akward. Will look for other solutions first. And Kegals do not help.

Posted by Anonymous on 10/08/2009 at 12:58

I have always had the feeling of urination during sex, but it always passed. Lately I have been urinating during sex uncontrolably, but this happens @ no other time. Could it be that I am urinating during sex now because I am pregnant?

Posted by eden on 03/08/2009 at 07:20

when we start having sex at the time i feel like to go toilet for urine ....i have one baby....i cant understand whats going on with me...i can tell to my husband only and thanx to u that i can share my feeling to u and hop to get some solution from ur side...please help...

Posted by ktj on 23/07/2009 at 09:16

I also have this problem, and it is making sex slightly uncomfortable. Fortunately, my boyfriend doesn't realize what's really happening...Anyhow, more often than not I can stop from totally soaking him and the bed however, at almost the full cost of the orgasm that has built up. Sometimes though, I don't even feel like I need to pee and it comes as a complete surprise. I am very happy to have read this article and feel much more comfortable talking to my doctor.

Posted by Anonymous on 13/07/2009 at 12:14

Yesterday, my partner and I were having the best sex in our life. He was doing me from behind when I had the sudden urge to urinate. I told him about what I was feeling, however, he continued to thrust his member. A few more strokes and I exploded on him. He immediately gave me oral sex. I did not know what to think or do, I was very embarrassed. I don't think I will ever have sex again. :(

Posted by grateful on 10/07/2009 at 03:43

OK so as a child I pee'd the bed til about 12 0r 13, i know, how embarrasing right. Well I got put on sone sort of medicine that helped with that, and never wet the bed again...(except that one time when i was really drunk lol jk) Well SO i thought all my problems were gone, I was having sex at 17 maybe and just exploded all over my partner, and since I had never before had an orgasm...I thought that was wat it was that had flooded the bed like niagra falls...until i discovered that I had peed all over him...while he thought he was just doing a bang up job, and i let him. I never told him otherwise. I had my first and only child at 22 tho i had several pregnancies before her (7) she was my first and did a number to my body to say the least, I can't cough sneeze, or even laugh hard with out peeing my pants, and we're not just talking about leakage here...I mean seriously peeing my pants. and it sucks...but I don't know what to do...WEll there have been a few partners that have brought me to orgasm and those partners and the ones who get pissed on...lmao i know it sounds crazy, but If they can get me to orgasm that's like their consolation prize and they don't know ne different...or atleast i think. The problem I'm having right now is that my current love interest and I are making love every night several times a night, and when the flood comes he just gets this kind of smirk on his face and is sooo proud of himself, and when we're all done with that round he'll look at me and and say "grateful" what the hell!"...but he thinks it's incredible. I suspect that he knows there is an issue, but i don't know what to do...it's crazy...it happens at penetration some times but mostly at the heighth of my climax....CONFUSED

Posted by Boo on 24/06/2009 at 10:01

I am thankful to have found that it is a most common problem as I have the same sort of problem as many others but thought it may be just a personal problem of mine and uncommon, just a little pee coming out when I orgasm. Thank you to all that have shared their experiences as it has eased the embarrassment a little!

Posted by Anonymous on 21/06/2009 at 05:01

I am 17 and i have a neurogenic bladder caused my a spine tumor. i lost my virginity at age 16 and was sooo embarassed by the wet sheets that i didnt have sex again for almost a year (until this morning). and once again it happened. i was so put off by this that i made him stop. he didnt say anything but should i? he is way more experienced than i am. should i explain it to him or wait until he says something? HELP PLZ!

Posted by anxious again on 10/06/2009 at 03:12

I have the same problem.I orgasm and pee every time. In the beging I was so stressed out I was either refusing to have sex or avoiding orgasm. Fortunately my partener at the time was not put off by it. Sex was enjoyable again... Now that relatonship has ended and once again I am stressed out and avoiding sex again. I have a new partener whom wants to please me as much as I please him. But I am terrified to expain my problem to him. I am tempted to end this relationship before it goes any further. Do I stay or Do I bail... Anxious Again...

Posted by loopylolly on 03/06/2009 at 08:58

I have the same problem, I am only 20years old and in a very happy but still fairly new relationship (4 months). I had noticed a few times in the past that when I experienced an orgasm that i seemed to flood....obviously this didnt seem normal. I was so embaressed as this happened a few times that I went off sex. Now though my sex life is booming again and the problem has re-started. It started every now and then but now it seems to be nearly everytime I orgasm that I seem to urinate. Obviously the bed gets soaked and is highly embarresing. My boyfriend luckily seems to think he is doing a great job and that it is normal but I have this awful feeling when it happens and it puts a dampener on the whole experience for me. I am worried that it will start to put me off sex again and have no idea what to do. I visited my GP who made me feel the size of an ant and swaid there was nothing he could do despite my explaining that I had done a vast amount of research and there were several medications that you can try to help. So now I have no idea what to do.....and my washing machine cant keep up with all the sheets (I dread to think what the neighbours must think!!). I am only young and am worried that the problem can only get worse as i get better. I have tried all the obvious....urinating before sex, I have read elsewhere that certain foods and drinks can help or hinder so tried eating the good ones and cutting out the bad and have even tried not drinking anything from lunchtime onwards so as my bladder would be pretty empty (or so I would of thought) But still the problem continues. I now have no idea what to do.

Posted by Anonymous on 31/05/2009 at 11:44

I have a very similar problem to alot of other comments, peeing during orgasm. The only problem for me is that my boyfriend hates it, he thinks its totally disgusting and because of this we have not had sex for the past 5 months. This is causing huge problems in our relationship and he has acctually admitted to me that he would prefer that we never have sex if the problem continues, i know you're probably wondering why i am still with him, but it is because everything else in our relationship is great. its just this problem. Also, i have sudden urges to pee during the day and small leakages when i sneeze or laugh. This causes my vagina to smell and is another reason my boyfriend is put off. I just want us to get back to normal and have the great sex life we used to have, i know i'm only 17 but the fact is we've been going out 2 years now and since we started having sex and then stopped again, this is the part that upsets me so much. I just wish i was 'normal'. I know hes finding his kicks somewhere else with girls on webcam and porn. This also upsets me greatly because even though i will still pleasure him he says he doesn't want it because he feels bad that he won't give me anything back. I'm going to go to the doctor and try and get this problem sorted once and for all, but to be honest i think it's a hopeless cause and i will never 'get better'. :(

Posted by banburs on 19/04/2009 at 01:59

whilst receiving a blowjob i felt a weird sensation that i would usualy connect with ejaculating..........but this feeling was like nothing before, i quickly released my penis from her mouth out of fear and ran into the bathroom.......to my suprise urine exploded out of my erect penis. this has never happend b4 during a blowjob is this normal?! its ok tho i went bak and gta handjob to finish me off :D. x

Posted by Anonymous on 18/04/2009 at 04:01

Im 19, and had nevr orgasmd until i met my current amazing bf. this first tim i got to orgasm tho i pee'd on him, now i always female ejaculate at least 3 times during foreplay and sex but everynow and then i urinate on maybe the 3rd or 4th orgasm, i also have leakage problems when sneezing and suden gushes of needing to pee. my bf doesnt mind as hes just happy that we have such good sex but it has caused me to have many urine infections over the last few months.

Posted by kati on 16/04/2009 at 09:50

alright so this is what happen; my boyfriend and I were having sex, we had just changed position from doggy style to missionary but with my legs way back, when all of a sudden out of nowhere i urinated all over everything. it felt real embarrassing, i had burst all over him, my question to anyone that may know is why? i pee before we have sex and after. and i dont have a bladder problem.

Posted by lost on 07/04/2009 at 09:42

for me, it started a few times after my now husband and I did it. We were fresh out of HS and horny, lol! I got the shot for birth control and that was the start. I have 2 kids now, i can hold my pee in all day, I pee before AND after sex. When we are having sex, I can come 3, 4, or even 10 times and no matter how many times it is, i PEE when i orgasm. and this happens only with penetration. I've experienced the "ejaculation" thing at all times but i pee also. and not just a little, it feels like gallons. He loves it and isn't bottered but i am so ashamed and the only doctor i ever talked to about it told me to be glad??? I want to orgasm and not have to clean my pee of the floor! Please Help!

Posted by Anonymous on 03/04/2009 at 11:34

I recently had a new sex partner, I had the most amazing orgasm of my life. I didn't even notice that i created so much liquid. I was so imbarressed that I peed on him. it had a light sent of urin but different consistency. after we were done I peed and it was totally different color and stronger smell. i am so imbarressed I dont know what to do.

Posted by snowhyte on 02/04/2009 at 11:30

im 23 and have just been diagnosed with genital herpes about 3 months ago. though i think that i have had g.h. for years before i was diagnosed, it took a blood test to finally confim the truth. though i would have the same blisters now that they would swab, and they always came back negative for the herpes virus!! be carefullll!!! oh my gosh, any ways ive been suffering from vaginal dryness lately, and its never ever ever been like that for me, i think im just as devistated at my lack of juice as i am with the virus. anyways, make a long story short, i was having sex with my boyfriend the other night, and i got good and wet. i had an orgasm a reaally good one, and then he got ontop. boom, i got dry, so he changed the condom, because we had no lube that was easily accesable. anyways, after he changed the condom, he put my back ontop, and it was feeling like i was gonna have another orgasm, and then i started feeling this moisture, running down my leg. it wasnt until we were all finished, that we noticed the sheets were so wet underneath of him that it was like i peed on him. it is so weird, but to tell you the truth, he almost seemed impressed like he did a good job or something, life is crazy.

Posted by ..... on 01/04/2009 at 03:38

When i ejaculate, it does not smell of anything but it kind of has the colour of urine! what is this?...

Posted by Lily on 29/03/2009 at 12:18

I had my first "episode " a few months back with a new sexual partner. I thought I had pee'd as well. In fact, the first gush did have the slight aroma as urine, but not as strong. After that, it was a clear liquid that had no odor or taste. I am still in awe about it and did come to this site to see if I was peeing on him. I do believe in female ejaculation, and after reading, it seems more women than I thought have experienced this.

Posted by annonomous on 22/03/2009 at 09:45

i had this problem after i had my first child but however whren i had my second child it has become a lot worse,i uranate everytime he goes down on me (oral) and i hate it im not sure he why it happens and dont think he knows im doin it (thinks) ive ejaculated and often says its alot of fluid but he gets too turned on to notice.I am really embarrased by this and have even pushed him away when i feel it about to happen,i have even tried goin the loo jus before bed but it dosent help what can i do?

Posted by Michael on 19/03/2009 at 06:24

It is important I think to distinguish the difference between urination and ejaculation. it is very unlikely if not impossible that the two can happen at the same time and there is an obvious way to find out which of the two it is - smell it! it is possible for women to urinate during sex due to the pressure put on the bladder and i understand this is more common in women who are older and/or have had children as the bladder tends to get weaker. so if you do release a fluid and it looks and smells like urine then that is what it is. ejaculation is only likely to occur at orgasm and will be colourless, odourless and probably slightly thicker in texture and more gel-like. because of when this occurs, i think you would know about it when it does happen, as it will be accompanied by a feeling of intense pleasure and will probably have required some stimulation aswell. i know its a lot of information but as far as im concered it is 100% true and seems to make sense. hope it helps!

Posted by misty on 08/03/2009 at 09:03

I have experienced an odorless fluid during orgasm, and also after the first "gush" fluid that smells somewhat like pee. The same feeling occurs with both, although after my partner and I notice the difference- one is definitely different then wetting the bed with urine.

Posted by rose on 07/03/2009 at 04:32

since i gave birth to my 4 son. my orgasm started to smell like pee i wasn't sure i had shower him with pee it smell like pee. i wonder what i should do to stop pee smell

Posted by Anonymous on 06/03/2009 at 01:58

One of the reasons I came onto your site today was to try and find an explanation as to why I urinated during sex - at the point of orgasm a few weeks ago. I was interested to read what was written about the 'myth' of female ejaculation and how it is , in fact, according to the article, urine . I would be interested in an explanation as to why , on many occasions I have ejaculated copious amounts of clear liquid which does not have any smell at all, during orgasm, and why on the one occasion mentioned above, it was unmistakably urine which came out, with a strong smell. In the case of the former example, I would not identify this as being a 'problem' as it usually comes at the point of a really fantastic orgasm for a woman, and can be part of a really great sex life and a sign of a partner being able to give his/her lover intense pleasure. Please let's not create a medical 'problem' out of one of sex's finest mysteries - female ejaculation !

Posted by TQ on 25/02/2009 at 10:28

I had to confirm that I was not going crazy. That situation has happened to me twice, and I thought something was really wrong with me.

Posted by too_shy on 25/02/2009 at 08:20

I am a 33 year old male and have for some time suffered from nocturnal enurisis, and over the past few months noticed that during foreplay I appear to urinate without warning. This is obviously embarrassing, but can anyone advise as to whether this is normal? Many thanks.

Posted by Anonymous on 25/02/2009 at 05:21

My girlfriend and I had one of those spur of the moment trips to the bedroom after a few drinks and she wet the sheets during our game. At first I was surprised by this, but as we went on we have both learned to enjoy it and just let what happens happen. I (and she) have learned to just except it and embrace it, to be truly happy with your sex life, you should do the same and dont let it bother you... after all urine IS THE CLEANEST AND MOST STERILE body fluid you produce. at least unless it sits for a while and bacteria can get to it.

Posted by Anonymous on 24/02/2009 at 05:50

I have the problem with ejaculating clear liquid during orgasm. It does not have a urine scent. But it can be mixed with something else, who knows. If we urinate before sex, and do bladder strengthening exersizes, like tighten the pelvic muscle for a few seconds, then release, it may help. And for the men, thoroughly empty your bladder before sex.

Posted by determined on 13/02/2009 at 04:37

I keep performing oral sex on my partner trying to get him to release sperm instead I continue to get a mouth full of urine. I keep swallowing it so that it doesn't get the bed all wet. I am not understanding how he can release sperm when we have sexual intercourse, but no with oral. Please give me some tips on how to fix this.

Posted by Anonymous on 03/02/2009 at 11:13

I personally don't regard this as a problem, but to be some one who has a highly sexual drive and enjoys her body and having sex with her partner. This ejaculation happens to me when I have a vaginal orgasm...my partner finds this as a turn on...the only "problem" is having to wash the sheets more often! Science might say this is urine...but I have my doubts. It does not smell like urine.

Posted by yolla on 02/02/2009 at 05:06

hi i got a problem when i have sex with my girlfriend i havt to put tow three towl on the bed to dont get wet and even some time smell uring i dont know what to do so every wher get wet please help if anybody can

Posted by xyz on 27/01/2009 at 10:11

Hi, I am 21 Male, I do hand pump weakly two times, while doing it the spam is comming out immediatly after the spam urine is coming out about 15ML. it is happend 3 times in 2 months. kindly advoice me what to do. other wise i am ok.

Posted by Anonymous on 25/01/2009 at 12:58

How do tell the woman that this just a turn off? How do you say, that this is the reason for not being turned on? Who wants to be urinated on? Plus, oral is out of the question.

Posted by Anonymous on 18/01/2009 at 11:20

I recently (within last 8 months) started urinating during an orgasm. I can not control it and the smell is of urine. We just shower and continue to enjoy good sex.

Posted by witty4fun60 on 17/01/2009 at 11:41

I have the experience that women, who have given birth to one or more children, have this problem more often. Or it is, that it happens more often the older they get. Of course, my sample is not representative :-)

Posted by Midyette on 09/01/2009 at 04:28

My partner is a 65 year old male. Lately, during oral sex with him, he begins urinating uncontrollably. He says he cannot help it, that I'm "pumping out" his pee! What is causing this? And, how do I help him control it? Please do not say "No more fellatio"!!

Posted by Mary on 07/01/2009 at 09:56

Female ejaculation does happen. I sometimes ejaculate during sex and at first thought it was urine but it has no real scent and a different consistency. It is slighty thicker and gel-like.

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