Urination during sex

A doctor did a survey of women attending his urogynaecology clinic (many of whom of course already had an incontinence problem) and found that 24% had incontinence during intercourse (British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology 1988;95:377–81). Most had felt too embarrassed to mention it to their doctor.

The reason is not understood, but it is likely to be partly due to an irritable bladder or a weakness at the neck of the bladder. About 1 in 5 women have difficulty holding urine during the day also experience leakage during intercourse. Leakage of urine at orgasm (but not at penetration) is particularly linked with having an irritable bladder, whereas leakage at penetration may signal a weakness at the neck of the bladder (European Urology 2007).

 

Some women have leakage of urine during intercourse, but not at any other time. Could it be female ejaculation?

 

In 1950, a Dr Grafenberg described what he called “female ejaculation...the expulsion of large quantities of clear transparent fluid at the height of orgasm”. Some sex manuals still talk about this ‘female ejaculation’ as if it were some kind of discharge of sexual glands. They claim it comes from Skene’s glands, which are supposed to be similar to the prostate gland in men.

 

People who believe in ‘female ejaculation’ say that analysis of this fluid reveals high levels of an enzyme called acid phosphatase that is made by prostate-type gland tissue. In fact:

The facts have been reviewed in an American medical journal (American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology 2001;185:359–62), and it now seems clear that this fluid is just urine.

Written by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Edited by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Last updated: Friday, February 26th 2010

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Posted by trish on 09/03/2010 at 01:03:53 am

i wud like to congratuate u for ur information

Posted by Jon on 01/03/2010 at 02:48:19 am

Dr. Margaret Stearn is doing a terrible disservice to many women visiting this website. Some of these "facts" in this article are her opinions and don't reflect the stance of the overall medical community; specifically the statement "it now seems clear that this fluid is just urine" is a FLAT-OUT LIE. What you're experiencing might not be urine. Female ejaculation is real. Visit any other website or talk to your doctor and you'll see that female ejaculation occurs in many woman and is quite normal. Some guys actually see it as a huge turn-on. Please don't let the lies in this article make you feel ashamed about yourself. Embrace your body!

Posted by michelle on 12/02/2010 at 09:43:00 am

Hi ive just started a recent relationship been together for a while but its the 1st time ive had sex in a about 6 months. I was left with a weak bladder and stress incontinance after giving birth to my son. Ive found that i have been urinating during sex and really embarrassed now i cant enjoy the sex because i am scared that it will happen everytime. I dont know how to talk to him about it because i dont no how he will take it and weather he will want to have sex with me again.

Posted by lisa on 11/02/2010 at 01:06:00 am

I get up 3 to 4 times a night to urinate.When i have sex i have the urge to pee when he pulls my legs up.Then when he takes his penis out its gone.I was wandering if there was something wrong with my bladder.Doesnt hurt when i pee

Posted by Anonymous on 06/02/2010 at 07:08:00 am

Hi, my boyfriend & i are ready to have sex-he's only done it once before, but im a virgin. any tips on things i should know? iv'e heard that when the heymen breaks blood may occur. and what is all this stuff about pain...does it hurt the first time?

Posted by Anonymous on 22/01/2010 at 10:04:00 am

There are some men, myself included, who are, in fact, quite turned on by this rather common woman's problem. During sex, receiving and swallowing the woman's urine is quite enjoyable...small changes in the woman's diet will produce a urine with a very pleasant taste. True, there are many who find this repulsive; but my feeling is this: "...if you truly are in love with the woman, why would you NOT do this for her" Urine is a sterile liquid and I have never had any adverse reactions to drinking it.

Posted by Katie on 21/01/2010 at 03:25:00 am

Okay, so here's the deal, I have ejaculated every time I've ever had an orgasm except for the first time I had one. My first orgasm, I had no clue of what it was and I had a severe urge to urinate during it. It was not during intercourse, to be perfectly honest my boyfriend at the time was fingering me and didnt stop. I think that's why I felt the need. I was horrified that I might pee on his hand! After that every other orgasm I had was from my next boyfriend. I was with him for 9 years and we had a child together. I would always ejaculate a thick whitish liquid which is normal ejaculate for a woman. I've never had a history of incontinence, until this past weekend. I was having sex with my current boyfriend, and it was really rough sex. To the person who said they heard it was from immense pressure I believe this to be true. I've never had rough sex before and this one time we had really good really rough sex, we both got off without a hitch but were in a different position from the beginning of the sex (which was rougher in the beginning) and at the end he noticed a wet spot on the bed. I nearly had a heart attack because I realized it must have come from me, but that not only did I not feel it, but that it was a large amount of something. We sat there for a couple minutes not wanting to decide that it was urine, but that's exactly what it was. Luckily he doesnt find me completely repulsive after that. Ive been obsessively peeing every hour or so to make sure I dont have anything in my bladder if we do decide to have sex, which in the past 24 hours we've had 3 times. And all three times I did not urinate. There were a couple of factors that stand out to me here. 1. That day I had taken a Xanax which is an anti anxiety medication. It releases endorphins into your system that relax your body. 2. It was really rough sex that was also from behind. That puts a lot of pressure on everything, including your bladder. 3. I did not urinate before having sex, so I

Posted by tama on 07/01/2010 at 05:25:00 am

hi, i just wanna ask about something, i lost my virginity when i was 17, sex was fine and i never had any infections until before 4 years just when i met my last boyfriend, we have a lot of fun in sex and i do have a female ejaculation when we have a sexual intercourse, it doesn't have any smell or color, but after that while we are not done yet, i start passing urine and it has a bad smell and burns my vagina and swells it and i cant urinate for the next 3 days becoz it hurts. all i wanna know, why would i urinate? why does sex hurts although it never did with any of my ex-s? what can i do to prevent this kind of thing ( i tried what u stated previously but nothing worked), is there any home remedies? and does wearing condoms help or make it worse? i need ur help please.. thanks..

Posted by Anonymous on 27/12/2009 at 10:06:00 pm

during sex when it comes to the climax i feel as though i am going to cum...but never due! Its very frustrating for me as during clitoral stimualtion i get a climax feel also but its more of a pressure sensation and i get a gush of fluid from my vagina....sometimes its wee? i dont know why this happens...is it just me?

Posted by Anon on 10/12/2009 at 03:53:00 am

Wow. I feel a little better after reading this. About a year ago, I was masturbating, and I thought I had some kind of incredible orgasm. Unfortunately, I completely soiled the bed with urine. Ever since then, I've been incredibly terrified of peeing or even pooping during sex and it made me really nervous because I would be so embarrassed and humiliated that I know I would need therapy just to have sex again. Sometimes, I feel like I have the urge to pee during sex. That feeling was there long before the incident, but I never thought anything of it. Now, I get completely dry just worrying about peeing during sex. Even when we start getting intimate, my fiance has to stop and ask me if I want to go to the bathroom first because I recently informed him that I was paranoid (but didn't tell him that I had peed during an orgasm). I thought it would gross him out if I told him about the orgasm incident that happened in the past so I probably still wont tell him. However, I'm very glad to see that this is a normal thing. I do have a history of UTI dating back to my early childhood so that probably explains why it happened in the first place. I'll just have to pay attention to how much I'm drinking and just go to the bathroom before ever getting into the bed. I feel so relieved. Thanks so much for posting here everyone. Good luck to all of you too!

Posted by Matt on 19/11/2009 at 02:11:00 am

My girlfriend does this, and I enjoy it a great deal.

Posted by :) carlie on 31/10/2009 at 02:01:00 am

I for years have experienced a mass leakage during sex and it happens almost every time! I thought it was jst a fluid, it wasnt jst a little, it was alot and i went to the doctor and they didnt get what i sed bt that was a few yrs ago! My recent partner and i had sex n the next day he told me that i had urinated during sex as he saw it on his bed sheets, so that must have been wot the fluid leak was al the other times i had sex. Nw reading this i realise im nt the only woman with this problem and after yrs of embarresment and suffing, i cn go to docs and get it sorted.

Posted by Anonymous on 29/10/2009 at 10:33:00 pm

In my 50s now, but have had this problem since my 20s. It doesn't matter whether masturbating or having intercourse with partner, I"ll pee during good orgasms (and if try to restrain it, orgasm is lost). It seemed pretty cool, or at least OK, when I thought it was female ejaculation - boyfriend didn't care too much and we used towels. In recent years, became convinced it's really urine, and now feel ashamed. No partner now - can't date either men or women, because the only person I'm not embarrassed to have sex with is myself! Not the healthiest, I guess, but certainly the easiest - unsure what else to do at the moment. Good luck to the rest of y'all, and don't give up. I wish none had this problem, but it's a relief to find others talking about it and dealing with it - makes me feel less freaky. Thank you!

Posted by Theda on 13/10/2009 at 02:24:00 pm

Ladies your stories of your shame and fear of your own ejaculate and sex is heartbreaking. I myself first ejaculated only 5 years ago during sex. Unfortunately the guy I was with was utterly shocked and disgusted. This didn't help my confidence. Strangely, since then, I have only ever been with men who find it an immense turn on and actually work towards making this happen during sex. It is NOT a medical problem to be treated with medication or psychosexual counselling. Its a sign your body is happy relaxed healthy and enjoying itself and your g-spot is being stimluated. It generally only happens when you're relaxed enough to let it happen - how horrible it must be to be so happy and relaxed and then feel so ashamed of having been so. If you're comfortable with doing so - smell it, feel it, taste it and you'll see it's not urine and if it is (in the odd case of incontinence) - it's just urine - no big deal. If you feel happy doing so, you will find lots and lots of online pornography celebrating the 'squirt', books telling you how to do it, and people sharing hints and tips, men who want to help their partners do it...the list goes on. Please ignore the above article. This fearmongering and ignorance of our own bodies needs to end NOW! Enjoy it! embrace it! Do it again! Bring a towel! Dive in!

Posted by Maria Blackwell on 09/10/2009 at 02:54:00 pm

Since time began women have celebrated their sexuality. Then came the Victorians and everything changed. Women became sexually repressed and female bodily fluids became an embarrassment. Here we have an article that not only puts women back into that Victorian era but puts aside all other research done on what female ejaculation is. Female ejaculation should not only be embraced but it should and must be celebrated. Of course there are incontinent women but so what? its a bit of pee and it harms nobody. To those women... just get a towel and enjoy! For those of us that do truly ejaculate and take huge pleasure from ejaculating, I think you owe us an article on the female body and all its sexual fluids because sexual repression is such a repressed thing to do.

Posted by Slide on 08/10/2009 at 09:43:00 pm

I am upset that female ejaculation is dismissed as a "myth" in this article. This is merely the opinion of the doctor who wrote it. It is by no means the opinion of the medical profession as a whole, and is certainly not a scientifically proven fact. It seems irresponsible to me that a website that presents itself as an authority on medical issues could fail to present any of the mountain of evidence in favour of female ejaculation in what is an ongoing debate, not a foregone conclusion. For the sake of balance, I'd recommend that anyone who has read this page also google "Milan Zaviacic", the recent "New Scientist" articles, and the "Anna Span vs the BBFC" case. If I'd come to THIS site in my teens when I first experienced female ejaculation, I probably wouldn't ever have dared have sex again, let alone cum! Ladies, don't despair. It's not pee, and it is normal. Ms Slide x

Posted by kizzy on 23/09/2009 at 07:35:00 pm

Usually when i feel the need to pee during intercourse i can hold it till after but a couple of weeks ago i was leaking urine it tickled at first and then it turned into a sharp pain. This went on eeverytime i peed for two weeks. Then out of no where it stops. And then the other day my boyfriend and i were having intercourse and i think i was climaxing but out of no where a substantial amount of wet liquad is dripping out of me. I thought it was just my juoces but when i smelt it, it smelt like urine. Did i climax or is that not normal or what??

Posted by Nicole on 02/09/2009 at 06:59:00 am

I have had urinary incontinence during sex and it is very embarrassing. It does not happen all the time and I do not feel an urge to pee when it happens - it just comes out. I have noticed it happen more when we are standing. My boyfriend thinks this is female ejaculation and thinks it is perfectly normal. I do not want to tell him that I think it is actually pee. I also do kegels like crazy daily and they do not help. I have had one child.

Posted by obino vincent on 31/08/2009 at 01:14:00 pm

I have read before that urinating during sex is due to immense pleasure on the woman, how true is this?

Posted by Valerie on 14/08/2009 at 09:42:00 pm

I was looking for answers that are nonpharmacological. I have had three children and terrible incontinence during pregnancy. I have never had a problem during intercourse and have had problemd during climax; or orgasm and it is embarressing. I have not talked with my MD because I think it would be akward. Will look for other solutions first. And Kegals do not help.

Posted by Anonymous on 10/08/2009 at 12:58:00 pm

I have always had the feeling of urination during sex, but it always passed. Lately I have been urinating during sex uncontrolably, but this happens @ no other time. Could it be that I am urinating during sex now because I am pregnant?

Posted by eden on 03/08/2009 at 07:20:00 am

when we start having sex at the time i feel like to go toilet for urine ....i have one baby....i cant understand whats going on with me...i can tell to my husband only and thanx to u that i can share my feeling to u and hop to get some solution from ur side...please help...

Posted by ktj on 23/07/2009 at 09:16:00 am

I also have this problem, and it is making sex slightly uncomfortable. Fortunately, my boyfriend doesn't realize what's really happening...Anyhow, more often than not I can stop from totally soaking him and the bed however, at almost the full cost of the orgasm that has built up. Sometimes though, I don't even feel like I need to pee and it comes as a complete surprise. I am very happy to have read this article and feel much more comfortable talking to my doctor.

Posted by Anonymous on 13/07/2009 at 12:14:00 am

Yesterday, my partner and I were having the best sex in our life. He was doing me from behind when I had the sudden urge to urinate. I told him about what I was feeling, however, he continued to thrust his member. A few more strokes and I exploded on him. He immediately gave me oral sex. I did not know what to think or do, I was very embarrassed. I don't think I will ever have sex again. :(

Posted by grateful on 10/07/2009 at 03:43:00 am

OK so as a child I pee'd the bed til about 12 0r 13, i know, how embarrasing right. Well I got put on sone sort of medicine that helped with that, and never wet the bed again...(except that one time when i was really drunk lol jk) Well SO i thought all my problems were gone, I was having sex at 17 maybe and just exploded all over my partner, and since I had never before had an orgasm...I thought that was wat it was that had flooded the bed like niagra falls...until i discovered that I had peed all over him...while he thought he was just doing a bang up job, and i let him. I never told him otherwise. I had my first and only child at 22 tho i had several pregnancies before her (7) she was my first and did a number to my body to say the least, I can't cough sneeze, or even laugh hard with out peeing my pants, and we're not just talking about leakage here...I mean seriously peeing my pants. and it sucks...but I don't know what to do...WEll there have been a few partners that have brought me to orgasm and those partners and the ones who get pissed on...lmao i know it sounds crazy, but If they can get me to orgasm that's like their consolation prize and they don't know ne different...or atleast i think. The problem I'm having right now is that my current love interest and I are making love every night several times a night, and when the flood comes he just gets this kind of smirk on his face and is sooo proud of himself, and when we're all done with that round he'll look at me and and say "grateful" what the hell!"...but he thinks it's incredible. I suspect that he knows there is an issue, but i don't know what to do...it's crazy...it happens at penetration some times but mostly at the heighth of my climax....CONFUSED

Posted by Boo on 24/06/2009 at 10:01:00 am

I am thankful to have found that it is a most common problem as I have the same sort of problem as many others but thought it may be just a personal problem of mine and uncommon, just a little pee coming out when I orgasm. Thank you to all that have shared their experiences as it has eased the embarrassment a little!

Posted by Anonymous on 21/06/2009 at 05:01:00 am

I am 17 and i have a neurogenic bladder caused my a spine tumor. i lost my virginity at age 16 and was sooo embarassed by the wet sheets that i didnt have sex again for almost a year (until this morning). and once again it happened. i was so put off by this that i made him stop. he didnt say anything but should i? he is way more experienced than i am. should i explain it to him or wait until he says something? HELP PLZ!

Posted by anxious again on 10/06/2009 at 03:12:00 am

I have the same problem.I orgasm and pee every time. In the beging I was so stressed out I was either refusing to have sex or avoiding orgasm. Fortunately my partener at the time was not put off by it. Sex was enjoyable again... Now that relatonship has ended and once again I am stressed out and avoiding sex again. I have a new partener whom wants to please me as much as I please him. But I am terrified to expain my problem to him. I am tempted to end this relationship before it goes any further. Do I stay or Do I bail... Anxious Again...

Posted by loopylolly on 03/06/2009 at 08:58:00 am

I have the same problem, I am only 20years old and in a very happy but still fairly new relationship (4 months). I had noticed a few times in the past that when I experienced an orgasm that i seemed to flood....obviously this didnt seem normal. I was so embaressed as this happened a few times that I went off sex. Now though my sex life is booming again and the problem has re-started. It started every now and then but now it seems to be nearly everytime I orgasm that I seem to urinate. Obviously the bed gets soaked and is highly embarresing. My boyfriend luckily seems to think he is doing a great job and that it is normal but I have this awful feeling when it happens and it puts a dampener on the whole experience for me. I am worried that it will start to put me off sex again and have no idea what to do. I visited my GP who made me feel the size of an ant and swaid there was nothing he could do despite my explaining that I had done a vast amount of research and there were several medications that you can try to help. So now I have no idea what to do.....and my washing machine cant keep up with all the sheets (I dread to think what the neighbours must think!!). I am only young and am worried that the problem can only get worse as i get better. I have tried all the obvious....urinating before sex, I have read elsewhere that certain foods and drinks can help or hinder so tried eating the good ones and cutting out the bad and have even tried not drinking anything from lunchtime onwards so as my bladder would be pretty empty (or so I would of thought) But still the problem continues. I now have no idea what to do.

Posted by Anonymous on 31/05/2009 at 11:44:00 am

I have a very similar problem to alot of other comments, peeing during orgasm. The only problem for me is that my boyfriend hates it, he thinks its totally disgusting and because of this we have not had sex for the past 5 months. This is causing huge problems in our relationship and he has acctually admitted to me that he would prefer that we never have sex if the problem continues, i know you're probably wondering why i am still with him, but it is because everything else in our relationship is great. its just this problem. Also, i have sudden urges to pee during the day and small leakages when i sneeze or laugh. This causes my vagina to smell and is another reason my boyfriend is put off. I just want us to get back to normal and have the great sex life we used to have, i know i'm only 17 but the fact is we've been going out 2 years now and since we started having sex and then stopped again, this is the part that upsets me so much. I just wish i was 'normal'. I know hes finding his kicks somewhere else with girls on webcam and porn. This also upsets me greatly because even though i will still pleasure him he says he doesn't want it because he feels bad that he won't give me anything back. I'm going to go to the doctor and try and get this problem sorted once and for all, but to be honest i think it's a hopeless cause and i will never 'get better'. :(

Posted by banburs on 19/04/2009 at 01:59:00 am

whilst receiving a blowjob i felt a weird sensation that i would usualy connect with ejaculating..........but this feeling was like nothing before, i quickly released my penis from her mouth out of fear and ran into the bathroom.......to my suprise urine exploded out of my erect penis. this has never happend b4 during a blowjob is this normal?! its ok tho i went bak and gta handjob to finish me off :D. x

Posted by Anonymous on 18/04/2009 at 04:01:00 am

Im 19, and had nevr orgasmd until i met my current amazing bf. this first tim i got to orgasm tho i pee'd on him, now i always female ejaculate at least 3 times during foreplay and sex but everynow and then i urinate on maybe the 3rd or 4th orgasm, i also have leakage problems when sneezing and suden gushes of needing to pee. my bf doesnt mind as hes just happy that we have such good sex but it has caused me to have many urine infections over the last few months.

Posted by kati on 16/04/2009 at 09:50:00 pm

alright so this is what happen; my boyfriend and I were having sex, we had just changed position from doggy style to missionary but with my legs way back, when all of a sudden out of nowhere i urinated all over everything. it felt real embarrassing, i had burst all over him, my question to anyone that may know is why? i pee before we have sex and after. and i dont have a bladder problem.

Posted by lost on 07/04/2009 at 09:42:00 pm

for me, it started a few times after my now husband and I did it. We were fresh out of HS and horny, lol! I got the shot for birth control and that was the start. I have 2 kids now, i can hold my pee in all day, I pee before AND after sex. When we are having sex, I can come 3, 4, or even 10 times and no matter how many times it is, i PEE when i orgasm. and this happens only with penetration. I've experienced the "ejaculation" thing at all times but i pee also. and not just a little, it feels like gallons. He loves it and isn't bottered but i am so ashamed and the only doctor i ever talked to about it told me to be glad??? I want to orgasm and not have to clean my pee of the floor! Please Help!

Posted by Anonymous on 03/04/2009 at 11:34:00 am

I recently had a new sex partner, I had the most amazing orgasm of my life. I didn't even notice that i created so much liquid. I was so imbarressed that I peed on him. it had a light sent of urin but different consistency. after we were done I peed and it was totally different color and stronger smell. i am so imbarressed I dont know what to do.

Posted by snowhyte on 02/04/2009 at 11:30:00 pm

im 23 and have just been diagnosed with genital herpes about 3 months ago. though i think that i have had g.h. for years before i was diagnosed, it took a blood test to finally confim the truth. though i would have the same blisters now that they would swab, and they always came back negative for the herpes virus!! be carefullll!!! oh my gosh, any ways ive been suffering from vaginal dryness lately, and its never ever ever been like that for me, i think im just as devistated at my lack of juice as i am with the virus. anyways, make a long story short, i was having sex with my boyfriend the other night, and i got good and wet. i had an orgasm a reaally good one, and then he got ontop. boom, i got dry, so he changed the condom, because we had no lube that was easily accesable. anyways, after he changed the condom, he put my back ontop, and it was feeling like i was gonna have another orgasm, and then i started feeling this moisture, running down my leg. it wasnt until we were all finished, that we noticed the sheets were so wet underneath of him that it was like i peed on him. it is so weird, but to tell you the truth, he almost seemed impressed like he did a good job or something, life is crazy.

Posted by ..... on 01/04/2009 at 03:38:00 pm

When i ejaculate, it does not smell of anything but it kind of has the colour of urine! what is this?...

Posted by Lily on 29/03/2009 at 12:18:00 am

I had my first "episode " a few months back with a new sexual partner. I thought I had pee'd as well. In fact, the first gush did have the slight aroma as urine, but not as strong. After that, it was a clear liquid that had no odor or taste. I am still in awe about it and did come to this site to see if I was peeing on him. I do believe in female ejaculation, and after reading, it seems more women than I thought have experienced this.

Posted by annonomous on 22/03/2009 at 09:45:00 pm

i had this problem after i had my first child but however whren i had my second child it has become a lot worse,i uranate everytime he goes down on me (oral) and i hate it im not sure he why it happens and dont think he knows im doin it (thinks) ive ejaculated and often says its alot of fluid but he gets too turned on to notice.I am really embarrased by this and have even pushed him away when i feel it about to happen,i have even tried goin the loo jus before bed but it dosent help what can i do?

Posted by Michael on 19/03/2009 at 06:24:00 pm

It is important I think to distinguish the difference between urination and ejaculation. it is very unlikely if not impossible that the two can happen at the same time and there is an obvious way to find out which of the two it is - smell it! it is possible for women to urinate during sex due to the pressure put on the bladder and i understand this is more common in women who are older and/or have had children as the bladder tends to get weaker. so if you do release a fluid and it looks and smells like urine then that is what it is. ejaculation is only likely to occur at orgasm and will be colourless, odourless and probably slightly thicker in texture and more gel-like. because of when this occurs, i think you would know about it when it does happen, as it will be accompanied by a feeling of intense pleasure and will probably have required some stimulation aswell. i know its a lot of information but as far as im concered it is 100% true and seems to make sense. hope it helps!

Posted by misty on 08/03/2009 at 09:03:00 pm

I have experienced an odorless fluid during orgasm, and also after the first "gush" fluid that smells somewhat like pee. The same feeling occurs with both, although after my partner and I notice the difference- one is definitely different then wetting the bed with urine.

Posted by rose on 07/03/2009 at 04:32:00 am

since i gave birth to my 4 son. my orgasm started to smell like pee i wasn't sure i had shower him with pee it smell like pee. i wonder what i should do to stop pee smell

Posted by Anonymous on 06/03/2009 at 01:58:00 pm

One of the reasons I came onto your site today was to try and find an explanation as to why I urinated during sex - at the point of orgasm a few weeks ago. I was interested to read what was written about the 'myth' of female ejaculation and how it is , in fact, according to the article, urine . I would be interested in an explanation as to why , on many occasions I have ejaculated copious amounts of clear liquid which does not have any smell at all, during orgasm, and why on the one occasion mentioned above, it was unmistakably urine which came out, with a strong smell. In the case of the former example, I would not identify this as being a 'problem' as it usually comes at the point of a really fantastic orgasm for a woman, and can be part of a really great sex life and a sign of a partner being able to give his/her lover intense pleasure. Please let's not create a medical 'problem' out of one of sex's finest mysteries - female ejaculation !

Posted by TQ on 25/02/2009 at 10:28:00 pm

I had to confirm that I was not going crazy. That situation has happened to me twice, and I thought something was really wrong with me.

Posted by too_shy on 25/02/2009 at 08:20:00 am

I am a 33 year old male and have for some time suffered from nocturnal enurisis, and over the past few months noticed that during foreplay I appear to urinate without warning. This is obviously embarrassing, but can anyone advise as to whether this is normal? Many thanks.

Posted by Anonymous on 25/02/2009 at 05:21:00 am

My girlfriend and I had one of those spur of the moment trips to the bedroom after a few drinks and she wet the sheets during our game. At first I was surprised by this, but as we went on we have both learned to enjoy it and just let what happens happen. I (and she) have learned to just except it and embrace it, to be truly happy with your sex life, you should do the same and dont let it bother you... after all urine IS THE CLEANEST AND MOST STERILE body fluid you produce. at least unless it sits for a while and bacteria can get to it.

Posted by Anonymous on 24/02/2009 at 05:50:00 am

I have the problem with ejaculating clear liquid during orgasm. It does not have a urine scent. But it can be mixed with something else, who knows. If we urinate before sex, and do bladder strengthening exersizes, like tighten the pelvic muscle for a few seconds, then release, it may help. And for the men, thoroughly empty your bladder before sex.

Posted by determined on 13/02/2009 at 04:37:00 am

I keep performing oral sex on my partner trying to get him to release sperm instead I continue to get a mouth full of urine. I keep swallowing it so that it doesn't get the bed all wet. I am not understanding how he can release sperm when we have sexual intercourse, but no with oral. Please give me some tips on how to fix this.

Posted by Anonymous on 03/02/2009 at 11:13:00 pm

I personally don't regard this as a problem, but to be some one who has a highly sexual drive and enjoys her body and having sex with her partner. This ejaculation happens to me when I have a vaginal orgasm...my partner finds this as a turn on...the only "problem" is having to wash the sheets more often! Science might say this is urine...but I have my doubts. It does not smell like urine.

Posted by yolla on 02/02/2009 at 05:06:00 am

hi i got a problem when i have sex with my girlfriend i havt to put tow three towl on the bed to dont get wet and even some time smell uring i dont know what to do so every wher get wet please help if anybody can

Posted by xyz on 27/01/2009 at 10:11:00 am

Hi, I am 21 Male, I do hand pump weakly two times, while doing it the spam is comming out immediatly after the spam urine is coming out about 15ML. it is happend 3 times in 2 months. kindly advoice me what to do. other wise i am ok.

Posted by Anonymous on 25/01/2009 at 12:58:00 am

How do tell the woman that this just a turn off? How do you say, that this is the reason for not being turned on? Who wants to be urinated on? Plus, oral is out of the question.

Posted by Anonymous on 18/01/2009 at 11:20:00 pm

I recently (within last 8 months) started urinating during an orgasm. I can not control it and the smell is of urine. We just shower and continue to enjoy good sex.

Posted by witty4fun60 on 17/01/2009 at 11:41:00 pm

I have the experience that women, who have given birth to one or more children, have this problem more often. Or it is, that it happens more often the older they get. Of course, my sample is not representative :-)

Posted by Midyette on 09/01/2009 at 04:28:00 pm

My partner is a 65 year old male. Lately, during oral sex with him, he begins urinating uncontrollably. He says he cannot help it, that I'm "pumping out" his pee! What is causing this? And, how do I help him control it? Please do not say "No more fellatio"!!

Posted by Mary on 07/01/2009 at 09:56:00 am

Female ejaculation does happen. I sometimes ejaculate during sex and at first thought it was urine but it has no real scent and a different consistency. It is slighty thicker and gel-like.