Condom responses
If your partner says: What's that?
You can say: A condom, sweetheart.
If your partner says: What for?
You can say: To use when we're making love.
If your partner says: I don't like using them.
You can say: Why not?
If your partner says: It doesn't feel as good.
You can say: I'll feel more relaxed, and if I'm more relaxed, I can make it feel better for you.
If your partner says: But we've never used a condom before.
You can say: I don't want to take any more risks.
If your partner says: Rubbers are gross.
You can say: Being pregnant when I don't want to be is more gross. Getting AIDS is totally gross.
If your partner says: Don't you trust me?
You can say: Trust isn't the point. People carry sexually transmitted infections without knowing it.
If your partner says: I'll pull out in time.
You can say: Women can get pregnant before a man orgasms. You can get sexually transmitted infections, too.
If your partner says: I thought you said using condoms made you feel cheap.
You can say: I decided to face facts. I like having sex and I want to stay healthy and happy.
If your partner says: Rubbers aren't romantic
You can say: What's more romantic than making love and protecting each other's health at the same time.
If your partner says: Let's face it. Making love with a rubber on is like taking a shower with a raincoat on.
You can say: You face it. Doing it without a rubber isn't making love - it's playing Russian roulette.
If your partner says: It just isn't as sensitive.
You can say: Maybe that way you'll last even longer and that will make up for it.
If your partner says: I don't stay hard when I put on a condom.
You can say: I can do something about that.
If your partner says: Putting it on interrupts everything.
You can say: Not if I help put it on.
If your partner says: I'll try, but it might not work.
You can say: Practice makes perfect.
Written by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Edited by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Last updated:
Thursday, May 20th 2010
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Fascinating facts
Early condoms were made of linen or pig or sheep's gut, tied at the end with ribbon. After sex, they were rinsed out and reused!
An 18th-century illustrated condom, featuring three naughty nuns, was sold at a Christie's auction for £3,300
There is no truth in the story that condoms were invented by a Dr Condom, physician to Charles II
Although it has been suggested that condoms were used by the Ancient Egyptians, the earliest actual report of a condom was by the Italian anatomist, Fallapio in 1564. He claimed to have invented a linen sheath, made to fit the penis, as protection against syphilis
In England, condoms are known as 'French Letters'. In Italy, they used to be called 'English Overcoats'
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