Bed-wetting in teenagers and adults
Wetting the bed at night (the medical term is enuresis) is more common in adults than you might think. It affects about one person in every hundred, mainly men. More than 100 000 teenagers in the UK wet the bed some only occasionally, while others may never have experienced a dry night. Many feel so embarrassed that they hide it from their families and can find it a barrier to forming close relationships. It can be especially difficult when staying away from home. If you also have difficulty holding your urine during the day, look at the section on urinary incontinence.
Written by: Dr Margaret Stearn
Edited by: Dr Margaret Stearn
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Friday, February 26th 2010
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Posted by Optional on 24/07/2010 at 11:03:52 pm
after a few beers and yhen i go 2 bed 9 times out of 10 i will wet the bed why is dis
Posted by Sadie on 21/07/2010 at 01:02:54 pm
WTB has been my prob like ...f o r e v e r ...thank you abena and tena for help keeping my bed dry what a diffrence these have made helping me to live a life more normal.
Posted by Anonymous on 19/07/2010 at 09:50:10 am
I used to wet the bed when i was a kid but stopped around the normal age at like five. Im sixteen now and have just started wetting the bed again. I dont know whats wrong. I've never had any trouble since i was young. what can i do ?
Posted by Optional on 13/07/2010 at 06:10:15 pm
im 16years old and i wet the bed,my mum buy's me these diaper things, and wants me to wear them when i stay at my mates and that, im scared to because i might get picked on, i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell him incase he finishes it with me because of it,. x
Posted by Now known as Tiddles. on 12/07/2010 at 03:55:24 pm
I am 49 and I still wet the bed 3 or 4 times out of 7, I used to do the same as a child and I probably always will. Wearing a Diaper/Nappy with plastic or rubber pants is not as embarrasing as having to apologise for wetting someone elses bed. My parents were supporitve and the doctor tried all sorts of meds and the alarm but without success, I did reduce the bed wetting a bit after the alarm but I had better success with hiding the accidents by not telling mum, I often went to bed in a wet bed and told her when the bed had run out of dry places to sleep in. I now wear a Diaper/Nappy when I sleep, even if that means doing the same when I sleep at a friends house. Most of my friends are open minded and are okay with my little problem. They would rather I pee in my Nappy than soak their bed. One friend calls me tiddles, I have a feline side too. A problem like this seems to be only a problem if I make it a problem. Most people seem to be happy with me and my nappy if I tell them the truth first.
Posted by Optional on 11/07/2010 at 07:08:24 pm
I have been wetting my bed since teenage. I don't remember I wetted bed often when I was a child. Now I am 30. The problem seems come and go then back again for no reason (ay least that I am aware of), sometimes I drink much water before sleep but able to wake up to the toilet or simply manage to hold it til morning. Yet I would wet the bed sometimes even tho I drink no water whole day and go to toilet before going to bed. Sometimes it happens more often sometimes it seems disappear until one night its all over again. I learned to live with it and st times it happens frequently I try to take more precautious measures even knowing it might not work. My mum know about it (at least until up to when I left home 9 years ago I guess. She once told me when I wad still a teen that my father also wet the bed til 30s...) and I am surprised to see the myber of comments to this problem here.
Posted by Steven on 11/07/2010 at 07:44:33 am
I find that about once every 1-2 years (never more than once in a year) I'll have an episode where I'm dreaming of using the restroom, I'll wake up and find my bed is wet. Sometimes the dream makes no sense and I question my sanity for how I didn't realize it was a dream and wake up (like if just before using the restroom I was battling ghosts with Little Red Riding hood in Dracula's summer beach house). I've been looking around and it seems to be fairly natural so long as it doesn't happen 3+ times per six months. Also, I stayed up all night last time it happened and had two glasses of water before bed, and it happened 3 hours after I fell asleep so I wasn't exactly prepared to wake up yet.
Posted by Debbie on 10/07/2010 at 06:29:32 am
I have always had a bedwetting problem. Up until I was about 16 or so, I did it every night. Since then it has been very erratic; sometimes it will not happen for weeks or even months, other times I might wet every night for a period of time. Mostly, it's maybe one or two times a week. No doctor, consultant, specialist has ever been able to diagnose the reason for it, much less come up with a cure. I am now so used to it that I long ago gave up worrying about it. I fully understand that most bedwetters are terrified about other people finding out; I was like that myself at one time. But as I've got older, and been less concerned about others knowing about my "problem", I have found that in fact, most people don't, and would never think of, laugh at me. Since I came to terms with my bedwetting, if someone wants to sleep with me, or I want to sleep with someone, I always warn them about what might happen, and offer to wear a nappy if they would prefer. And I have to say that I find that most people are not too bothered about it. You might think so, but I promise you, if you don't worry about it, then most other people won't either.
Posted by Optional on 07/07/2010 at 10:19:14 am
Interesting, im 18 and still wet the bed.
Posted by Danielle on 28/06/2010 at 09:57:10 pm
I have to say with the internet it makes it easier for people who wet the bed to contact and talk about it without embarassment or fear of predujce nad it is pleasing to see for me at least as this is the first time i have ever talk about this to anyone other than family closest friend specialists or gp's. as i have said to my doctor on many occasions it is not the type of conversation you can bring up at dinner is it? it depends on the situation you are brought up in if you are taught that it is something to hide and be embarressed by then you will grow up doing so, if you are taught that it is something that needs to be dealt with openly honestly and with compassion then that is what you will do you still won't like it but you will do it. on another note congratulations for all your courage in sharing your progress with us and please keep doing so as what may or may not work for you could help someone else keep smiling
Posted by Optional on 27/06/2010 at 02:39:48 pm
well i recently started wetting my bed again after a long time that it hadnt happen.i dont know if is normal, but it kind of scares me a little bit.
Posted by Optional on 22/06/2010 at 08:02:46 am
I have wet the bed most of my life, as a child I was not very motivated by treatments so they didn't work very well, and I found it hard to maintain good hygiene as I nearly always did my best to hide the problem from others. Now I think it is a bit late for me to start using buzzer treatments. I also have a dream where I think I am going to the toilet and when I wake up I have peed the bed. Seems to be a common pattern in bedwetting.
Posted by Optional on 19/06/2010 at 10:23:01 pm
its really annoying and i always keep extra clothes at school because leakage is a promblem
Posted by Optional on 18/06/2010 at 03:35:41 am
Please i need a solution, luckily for me it doesnt happen when I share a bed with someone else or sleepover somewhere else but im always extra careful and pretend to be sleeping the whole night, it happens frequently when I get used to a particular bed. Its so annoying and frustrating. Again even when I dont, I get up numberless times to ease myself and during the day I cant hold urine... As a child my parents have always thought that I will out grow it but im now 20, they dont know about now cus ive been living away from home for 3yrs now, its so hurting with all the Good manners, beauty and glamour as a young lady...Please how can i stop this permanently and have a normal life.
Posted by tristan on 17/06/2010 at 10:35:39 pm
I have been wetting my bed for over 10 years now.too embarrassed to talk about it with my GP, friends or family.now live on my own. buy nappies Cloth at home (cheaper in the long term), and disposable one when travelling and plastic pants over the internet.
Posted by Optional on 17/06/2010 at 03:13:46 am
Am 25, please help out to come out of this problem. I tried with medicines but it did not worked out.
Posted by Optional on 16/06/2010 at 06:22:11 am
Hey there, bedwetting is annoying, embarrassing, frustrating and all the rest. The things I have found that have helped are: - Not drinking much 3 hours before bed - Going to the toilet before bed - Drinking less caffeine and no alcohol
Posted by Optional on 13/06/2010 at 04:29:34 pm
i used to wet the bed most nights until i started drinking cranberry juice.i was told this by a family member and didnt believe it at the time but it works!try it!
Posted by marlyss on 13/06/2010 at 08:40:38 am
i am 22 and wear diapers because i wet some of the time.it started 7 years ago when i was 15 and my parents had me baptized.they bought me a fancy white dress,tights and shoes to wear.they made me wear a diaper and plastic pants under the tights so in case i had an accident i wouldnt ruin the fancy dress.after that istarted having accidents and wore the diaper and plastic pants frequently.
Posted by Optional on 12/06/2010 at 12:41:43 am
But it is not that.I simply can't help it.It is not a 'holding' issue.I sleep and I let go.Not even dreams are to blame.I used to be able to control it;now I can't stop it.
Posted by Optional on 10/06/2010 at 01:13:24 am
I am in my 40's and have always wet the bed. It is just something I live with and can't say it has ever really bothered me.
Posted by Optional on 09/06/2010 at 08:09:03 pm
i wet my bed most every nite i just think that its not such a big deal i even sleep better when i wet isay dont let it stop you from doing what you want to do! real friends will still be your friends regardless. and any one wnat to go camping for a week i dont mind if you wet every nite as i probably will also.
Posted by Optional on 08/06/2010 at 02:19:38 am
bed weting at night for 2 times i have conerned many doctors and no mediine does not work and taken many precautions
Posted by Optional on 06/06/2010 at 01:16:09 pm
ive wetted the bed ever since i was a baby im 12 now and im at the age where all my friends have sleepovers and its really hard for me. i slept at my friends house and i pissed on the sofa. but it wasnt tht bad it didnt smell and i was only abit wet but then i slept at my best friends house and we went to sleep at 3:00am and i was so sure i wont wet the bed but i did and it stunk of wee and i was soaked i was crying but quietly so my friend didnt wake up and i jst sprayed the sheet to make it look like i spilt deodrant on it i dnt know if it worked but im never making tht mistake again. i went on holiday 2 weeks ago with my grandma it was the first time abroad i was there for 4 nights but only took 2 nappies the firsy night i didnt wet the bed but i did the second night it didnt smell tht bad but my grandma washed my pyjama bottems for me i was so embarresed i never new she washed them and i had a spair pair aswell im such an idiot but she didnt say anything so it made me feel abit better but i was so scared. id jst like to say reading everyone elses comments made me feel sad and it was really heart-warming i had tears come to my eyes its jst so amazing and it makes u feel better knowing tht ur not the only one with this problem i hope i will stop soon though x
Posted by Paul on 02/06/2010 at 07:21:25 am
I am 45 and still wet the bed occassionaly, I find it easier to wear a nappy and plastic pants than to wake up to a wet bed, my wife just accepts that I wear a nappy
Posted by Anonymous on 01/06/2010 at 08:03:17 am
I used to wet my bed frequently when i was a teenager. Always have a reoccurring dream that I'm always struggling to pee in the dream but i cant for a few mins at least. after awhile i will feel like I'm easing it out and the next thing i know i would have wet my bed. over the years I've realized that, the dream is actually my mind trying to tell me i need to pee. Its like a nightmare, cuz i know if i don't wake up i will end up wetting my bed. I've only realized it after a few times. So nowadays wen I'm having such a dream i literally snap out of my sleep and jump off my bed. i know its funny in a freaky way but it works all the time. i will always stop just before i ease myself. And... I've also realized peeing before sleeping reduces that dream and thus keeps me dry thru the night. THE NIGHT MY MIND FAILS TO RECOGNIZE THE DREAM I WOULD WAKE UP IN A PUDDLE
Posted by Optional bill d. on 28/05/2010 at 01:30:55 am
i have wet the bed all my life so i use adult cloth diapers and plastic pants for overnight protection. no big deal, you wake up in a dry comfortable bed, you can have an normal morning routine, make your bed, have a coffie, ect.before i used diapers, the panic in the morning was stripping the bed sheets,removing wet p j`s and getting them in the washer. with diapers i don`t have to remove them until l`am ready to shower.
Posted by Kouyate on 27/05/2010 at 09:59:59 pm
I've recently started bedwetting again after stopping aged 8 and nothing seems to help. I've tried getting up in the middle of the night, but I often find it difficult to then get back to sleep. I've tried an alarm but with a hearing problem, I often don't wake up. I'm now resorting to wearing a cloth diaper and plastic pants because I'm getting so frustrated. I honestly don't know WHY I'm doing it either. Help?
Posted by Optional on 25/05/2010 at 08:34:51 am
im 20 and i have wet the bed for as long as i can remember pretty much every night id say 80% of the time. i have so many dreams that are all crushed because of this problem. I want to be able to climb mountains, sail across seas, hike the kokoda trail and other hiking trails around the world, kayak the biggest rivers int he world, go on month long camping trips. I can only do these things to nights at a time coz i have to stay awake at night and thats not the easiest thing to do when ive been hiking/kayaking/climbing all day and its also not much worth spending two nights on a trail that can last weeks. Also i really want to join the army and from there get into the sasr australian special forces but that is totally out of the question with this problem which really gets me down because there is nothing else that i really want to do so i dont even have control over what i want to do with my life its taken away my choices i believe that if you dont love what your doing in life there is no point in doing it and i long for adventure at least in this point in my life while i have the strength endurance determination and desire to do it. It pisses me off that i have choices taken from me and see ppl the dnt have any setbacks wasting the choices they have. I swear the day i fix this problem il pack my gear and spend a month in the mountains just hope its soon. Srry if people feel like im whinging but came across this site and just needed to talk i guess
Posted by Optional on 24/05/2010 at 03:03:31 pm
Heya ! umm i use to wet the bed allot when i was young and stopped about 12... when i turned 19 it seemed to start again... anyone know why? its so frustrating and most of all embarissing ! ..ive been doctors and the gave me some tablets, but it doesnt seem to work , please help
Posted by Danielle on 24/05/2010 at 04:18:12 am
i am 24 and have wet the bed all my life with no reason, for years my parents took me to speciasts to find out why and i was put on different medications when i was 16 i had had enough and decided to try again so we went through the tests but there was no change when i was 19 i finally moved out of home and it was then that i realised that i would never be able to live in a normal flatting situation, so now i live alone very boring i suffer bouts of depression and anxiety caused by the bedwetting but now thanks to this website and all your comments i think there might be a chance it might not be the most convinient one but i think that if botox injections will work and the only downfall is that i have to go back for top up injections then its a small price to pay for staying dry, and to be honest if they havent found the reason for me bedwetting after all these years and all the tests then either their not going to or their doing something wrong, i'll keep you updated hang in there everyone cheers Danielle
Posted by Optional on 21/05/2010 at 10:30:07 pm
I am 14 years old and i have been wetting the bed since i was a baby. They have pills that you can take before you go to bed that will make you not wet the bed. Also i took those pills for 3 years and then stopped taking them after that for one year i hadn't wet the bed. but one day after that year i did wet my bed and now i rarely wet the bed.
Posted by pink on 19/05/2010 at 06:37:27 am
i have also wet the bed my whole life, i have bad times where i will everynight and better times when i will once a week, it is so anoying!
Posted by O on 13/05/2010 at 07:02:06 pm
i wake up after wetting my self
Posted by James on 13/05/2010 at 11:29:03 am
I've found that if you smoke cigarettes that you should not have any at least 2 to 3 hours before you go to sleep it makes a difference as i've discovered that nicotine is released through the bladder. It's helping me to control the unfortunate effect of wetting the bed as it is so soul destroying. I hope this helps :)
Posted by Optional on 11/05/2010 at 02:59:18 am
for me it only happens when i drink and forget to go pee b4 bed that seems to work the best u just try to always go pee b4 bed no matter what
Posted by John on 10/05/2010 at 01:40:15 am
I pee the bed always after I have been drinking. I usually wake up to find myself in full flow or absolutely soaked already. I don't ever stay at friends places because of it and last week I was charged for pissing a hotel bed after a session.I was so ashamed of myself. I have decided to stop drinking once and for all. It is disgusting and more grown Men have this problem afer drinking than ever let on about it. I should have faced it years ago and sorted it out then. I feel so much better about it now I have fced up to it.
Posted by edward on 08/05/2010 at 01:42:38 pm
i suffer with this and yes it is embarassing especailly when you have a g/f and she finds out that i still wear diapers
Posted by Optional on 07/05/2010 at 02:09:49 pm
i had this problem wetting bed until i was 11 yrs . my mum has tried every thing and just going to the gb most of the tyi
Posted by Miss Sunshine on 06/05/2010 at 12:15:34 am
Hello I'm a woman age 24 and still a virgin, never been harrassed sexually whatsoever or never touched/inserted anything down there. I've a problem, I still wet my bed, last night 05/05/2010 I wet my bed, i've been wetting it eversince I cant remember and its soooooooo embarrassing. I worry a lot when I've to sleep over a friends house and on average night I wake up like 5 times to go the loo but still wet my bed. What the hell is wrong with me????!!!
Posted by Drakey on 05/05/2010 at 03:37:18 pm
This comment is addresed to the 18 year old that posted a comment on the 08/06/2009 at 10 18pm saying that only his mum knows about the wetting and his mate wants to get a flat with him but he cant becasue he wets the bed. well i think he could share a flat i mean if he is amate and you have known him for years then you should tell him if he is a true mate he will understand and if you get a two bedrrom place shouldnt be a problem. this is another message to a girl who posted a comment on 13/07/2009 05 40 am saying has anyone discused bed wetting with a partner well the answer is yes i have i discussed my bed wetting and day wettig with my Partner and it went fine all though it is embrassing you should talk about it at least they will know and you shouldnt hide it they will find out in the end most likely by the smell and im sure we have all cried about it but like i said before we will stop one day and if dont then a frends and family will have to put up with it and hopfully suport us hope this was some help to you
Posted by Optional on 03/05/2010 at 11:16:57 am
Hi i am a 24 year old male that has wet the bed since i can remember. i even wet during the day. i with a partner wh total understands about. But i total understand when people who have say they are embassed because i feel the same. i have slept at mates and familiys homes and wet the bed some where ok and some were not one point i was hit with a belt for doing it. But all you people that wet the bed cheer up one day we will stop and if dont then are freinds and family will have to put up with it. And hopfully suport us
Posted by Optional on 23/04/2010 at 05:23:14 am
I'm 29 and have always had problems with wetting the bed. For me the mental scars and feeling of self loathing and hopelessness is far worse than the actual bedwetting. At 29 I have still not been in a serious relationship and worry that I may never fall in love or get married or have children. Even when I read these types of articles and see people a lot older than me saying they still have problems bed wetting fills me with even more fear that I will never stop fully. I have tried all the pills and the sprays, can't remember what the pills were called but it was given to me after I was referred to the hospital but as soon as you stop taking them, they stopped working. A few years ago I was offered the BOTOX treatment at Guys Hospital (I was told I had overactive bladder) the bladder is injected with botox to stop it contracting and bedwetting. This has been the most successful treatment I have had and the effects usually lasts between 9 and 12 months but the results is different for different people and has been the main thing that has worked for me. At the end of those periods I usually start to notice that I'm going to the toilet again more frequently so I call the hospital to book an appointment. They would firstly get me to complete a voiding diary for a few days which shows how often I went to the toliet and measured how much I peed. As this has only been 85 percent successful for me I have also started to do Pelvic floor excersises. These are a MUST and I believe that everyone who does this will notice a difference in being able to control thier bladder, especially when if you're like me and find it difficult to control your bladder when you need the toilet. Read up on this on the net and results are almost instant, you just need to remember to do it everyday, 10 times per day. Because of doing this I have not yet returned to the hospital for further Botox injections.I just want to stop completely, I don't want to take pills, have plastic on my matres or have to wash my sheets everyday. I hope this is a bit useful for people reading it. It's also nice to feel that you're not the only person on the planet witht he same problem.
Posted by Optional on 22/04/2010 at 09:36:03 am
when ever i get extremely sleepy i pee the bed it is the worst im a grown ass man what is wrong with me
Posted by graham on 16/04/2010 at 12:14:44 am
i was a bedwetter as a young boy and into my teens. this did stop evenually only to start agen about 6 years ago.i dont know y it started after all this time.strange what goes on in the old brain box.when it started i didnt use any protection. i couldnt get a good nights sleep and woke up wet and cold. i started wearing nappies and rubber pants.embarassing but i do get a better sleep and no wet sheets
Posted by Optional on 09/04/2010 at 10:24:20 am
PEE THE BED EVERY OTHER NIGHT HAVE BAD LEGS AND ANXIETY DISORDER
Posted by Josephine on 08/04/2010 at 01:54:21 pm
Well my problem has been big and its been going on sincle i was a little baby i alaways think there's nothing to stop me but then i soon found out that my aunty had stopped wetting the bed at 15 i was still scared becuase i would not be able to go on sleepovers school trips far away. I even missed my first year six trip to a place far away i am so scared and dont know what to do only my family know. Know i ma even scarder becuase i am going to usa soon and i may have to sneak in some pampers from myself. my parents make me feel so ashamed and i just dont understand why i dont do it on purpose i really want to stop but i dont now how i ve tried to wake up but i am always in deep sleep but sometimes when i go to my aunties house i do not wet her bed becuase i am always scared and my brain keeps saying dont wet her bed or you are in trouble
Posted by Optional on 07/04/2010 at 01:32:05 pm
im 17 years old and i have been wetting the bed my whole life. i told all my close close friends and all my family members know about it , and of course they understand and dont really care, they still treat me the same so.. but everytime i go to sleepovers i get so scared that i might wet the bed, on other peoples sheets and blankets, and its so so so embarassing!!!! i feel like a little baby and its just embarassing. i never drink anything before i go to bed, no matter how dehydrated i am. i wont even take a little sip of water, and before i go to bed i try to forget that i even wet the bed or sometimes i tell myself "Please dont wet the bed tonight PLEASE" and sometims i actually dont when i do those things. but whenver i think about me wetting the bed before i sleep , i actually end up wettting the bed. wierd. and sometimes i have those dreams where im going pee in the washroom in my dream but thn when i wake up, i realize i really did pee, all over. Many of my friends sleepover next to me , they kno i wet the bed but they dont care at all. One time my bestfriend who is like a sister to me slept over, and she slept beside me, next thing u kno , she woke up with her fingertips downwards with MY URINE dripping from her hand! . WOW, HOW EMBARASSING. but we sat there laughing our butts off, of course i appologized but it was pretty funny the look on her face. She still sleeps beside me , which is good because i know she understands and knows that its no big deal. but when i have a boyfriend , im so scared to have him sleepover because what if i wet the bed and have my urine dripping from his hand or soak up his clothes! im scared he might dont want to sleep next to me anymore which will be so upsetting. i need help ! its so depresssing!
Posted by PWG on 06/04/2010 at 02:39:24 pm
I am dreaming, but I am dreaming that I am awake and going to the bathroom. In my dreams, I am debating am I awake, or am I dreaming. When/if my mind finally accepts that I am awake and am really on the pot (which I am not), I wet the bed. It is so frustrating that I even dream am I awake or not. Sometimes when I get up in the night, I am debating, am I awake or am I dreaming.
Posted by mr x on 05/04/2010 at 08:16:42 am
i dont know why i did it ., but stayed at a mates and piss on his sofa, i had one pint
Posted by danielle james on 04/04/2010 at 03:41:33 pm
why do i wet my bed at night my mum tells me i will grow out of it but i don,t belive my mum i think this will happen for the rest of my life how can i stop it from happen
Posted by garry enright on 28/03/2010 at 12:24:49 pm
last night i fell asleep on the chair and when i woke up a few hours later i had wet myself!!it as never happened before what could of caused this?
Posted by Optional on 22/03/2010 at 02:18:39 am
I'm an adult woman, still i peed on bed. But, it was happened after i moved to a new house that actually i have felt uneasy to live. It was really embarrassing as i live with my spouse here. I think my bed-wetting was caused by caffeine or sleep-apnea.
Posted by Optional on 16/03/2010 at 09:18:49 pm
When i take some sleeping pills esp when am tired, fatigued or to cure some cold, its likely that i wet my bed when i subject my body to alot of drinks-tea and water. Yesterday night is a practical experience to encounter. I think the soln is to drink less esp when tired. Am lucky my wife understands this!
Posted by Billy on 15/03/2010 at 08:58:41 am
Wow im 84 and still wet the bed. Im so embarassed, please help me! Do I need diapers?
Posted by tasha smith on 14/03/2010 at 02:07:10 pm
i have tryed lots of stuff but nuthink works i realy need help my mates ask me to sleep round but i carnt i realy need help im stuck and nuthink helps i have been to the doctors and they carnt do nuthink but they need to send me to the hospital im going soon so they might help but im stuck and hating my life
Posted by Optional on 09/03/2010 at 11:19:13 pm
i use to wet the bed atleast once in 4 months... The amin thing is that i couldnt control my urine if occurs. i need to move to rest room in the next 10 minutes if not i will wet there itself because of this i am using diappers if so i go for long journey plz provide me y this happens.
Posted by Optional on 06/03/2010 at 03:12:58 am
I understand that this is an embarassing situation (I am also a bedwetter), but if you are an adult who has suddenly developed this problem with no obvious causes (ie excessive alcohol intake etc), PLEASE see a doctor, as bedwetting can be caused by many things, not least of which is diabetes (the cause of my problem). The problem can always be managed but your health may be at real risk if there is an untreated underlying cause.
Posted by Optional on 05/03/2010 at 01:52:32 am
I've never wet the bed since the age of about 5 but this morning I woke up whilst urinating and am so embarrassed.
Posted by Optional on 04/03/2010 at 02:05:26 pm
heyy, welll i wet my bed I'm 15 and yeah maybe i get embarressed about it sometimes. but I'm so used to it that i dont ever care anymore. i told my boyfriend and all my friends know. i trust them all, and their all nice enough to understand. it's not my fault. I have to wear depends and yeah sometimes i wish i didnt have to but this is "normal" for me. there has been times where i wet through my depend while i was at a sleepover. really embarrassing by the way. because most of my friends parents dont know. well i know this won't help, i just wanted to share my story. but i hope one day it will stop, my brother stopped and hopefully i will soon.
Posted by Optional on 04/03/2010 at 01:52:59 pm
im 15 and wet my bed. this did not help me, i neeed to stop.
Posted by Colleen on 01/03/2010 at 02:12:30 pm
My 19 year old boyfriend and I live together and he still wets the bed occasionally. He will try to hide it, he will become depressed about it and he will hate himself because of it. But honestly I still love him. i'll get up, take the wet sheets off and then go to him and give him a kiss. I dont care that he has a few accidents because we are not perfect and we cant always control what our bodies do. So dont be afraid to tell your loved ones that you are going through this because more then likely they are hiding something too and will be understanding.
Posted by anon on 27/02/2010 at 11:18:28 am
Im 14 and i have wet the bed three nights in a row should i consider getting nappy or those dry nights pyjama pants things i have not told my parents yet i really need help plz plz plz
Posted by anon on 27/02/2010 at 11:01:29 am
Im 14 and have only just started wetting the bed haven't told any one because Im really embarrassed
Posted by emy on 24/02/2010 at 08:22:09 am
i wet my bed when i was yong.but now im 22 years old but stil have this problem pls help me im so worried!THANKS
Posted by secret on 23/02/2010 at 02:30:23 pm
I suffered from this problem up untill about 3 months ago. I noticed that when i work out, got more organized, and stopped drinking after certain hours i stopped wetting the bed. It still happens opccasionally but i tihnk after i lose some weight then it wont happen much anymore.
Posted by Optional on 22/02/2010 at 02:32:14 am
i have wet the bed all my life, it has been hell like most comments i fined it hard to stay at friend, holidays, only last night it happened twice it seem tobe getting worse the older i get, i have had year where i havn't wet the bed but you think your ok then you stay in a hotel then it happens
Posted by John on 21/02/2010 at 06:01:54 pm
I have been suffering from betwetting all my life aswell as most of these other people. Fistly I am actually so glad that i am not the only one suffering from this problem. Fortunately its not such a big problem now than it has been in my past. It has never stopped me from staying at a friends house / partners house. etc and fortunately nothing has ever happened. However I still get upset when i do it, and the worry is always in my head when i stay overnight elsewhere. Medication is POINTLESS! Yes it works but for how long? as soon as you stop taking it your back to square one. I have read articles on the internet that suggest that its caused by an inherited deep sleep disorder, where a person can sleep so soundly, manages to sleep through someone vaccuuming in the same room as them. It also said that because of this deep sleep the brain ignores the signals from the bladder telling the brain that its full, thus the bedwetting ocurs. In my own experience with bedwetting i think this is probably the most accurate diagnosis ever! I can sleep through a person vaccuuming, most people would wake up instantly, but i have done on many occasions in the past where my mum has been cleaning and i have woken up just as she's finnishing. I think more investment is needed on the treatment of the sleeping disorder and as for the bedwetting, i think its merly a symptom.
Posted by jordan hall on 19/02/2010 at 09:10:12 am
i stayed a night over my friend house and i wet the bed he's going to tell every one what should i do? please help
Posted by Optional on 18/02/2010 at 04:57:18 am
I've wet the bed all my life I'm 47 now and still wet just as often as I did when I was a child. I wear terry nappies and plastic pants at night and my bed has a thick plastic cover over the matteras. I have had dry periods but they never last long . It is something I just live with and accept is part of who I am. I can think of far worse things.
Posted by Optional on 18/02/2010 at 04:46:05 am
my daughter who is 15 years still wets the bed. We have been using rubbersheets to prevent bed wetting, We had to purchasae few metres and keep it ready. Is oit advisable to use rubbersheets. Please advice.
Posted by RJD on 07/02/2010 at 04:58:00 am
As a child, I wet my bed every night until I was about 5 years old. Then the nightly bedwetting gradually stopped. Since then, years will pass by with no problem, but for all of my life, as a pre-teen, a teenager and an adult, once every few years there will be a "Relapse" and I involuntarily wet my bed again. Somehow, I think that this may be related to stress. Usually, when this happens, I am dreaming that I am urinating in the toilet and then to my horror awaken to find that I am actually urinating in my bed. "Just in case," the mattress on my bed is encased in a plastic cover and if I sleep away from home, I always wear an adult diaper (attend e.g.)They are readily available in the stores these days and sleeping in a moisture absorbing diaper with an outside plastic cover makes me feel safe lest I have an unexpected accident during the night. I see no need for anyone to apologize for wearing adult diapers either by day or by night if they have an incontinence problem.
Posted by deapends boy on 06/02/2010 at 08:47:00 am
i still wee my pants throw the night and throw the day i have to wear depends to school and at sleep ovbers what should i do
Posted by dreamangel on 06/02/2010 at 07:26:00 am
"Good Mornings" and "Bad Mornings" is basically what they were...I can remember the days as if they were yesterday. I can also remember clearly how upsetting and emotionally and mentally withdrawling bedwetting can be! However You must be in control with respect, discipline, consistency and structure! Without even one of the above "ingredients" you will not succeed! You must lay the foundation and follow through with them on a signed contract.(A game it works to him in his age frame).. " A big Girl or Boy contract that is signed by the one in full charge and by the bedwetter! Okay Parents,...here it is,I want you, to "read" this out loud, and NOT just hear what your saying but really LISTEN to what is being said....Ready? Here we go, ..!1st and Foremost you must have a talk with the child face to face and very seriously tell the child that the bedwetting must stop.As a team though and that you understand that it's not at first all his fault but then can be if he does not work with his rules! Firm but a tough love kind of attitude, Do not allow the child to speak at this point. Directly looking into their eyes and very firmly but with love,..with an attitude as if you were going to do this together and benefit together with "The Reward or the consequences, tell them this is where they are in charge. This is where they want to be involved because you will write down the rules they think they are making but if they want that responsibility to "getting bigger..." they must not break the rules!!!! And you have to not break your end of the deal! Rules are no drinking after 6pm and that is dinner drink only at 8 ounces only! Your rule is to see to it that one 8 ounce drink is given and taken only! and they must go to the bathroom when they are immediately done that drink in full! you watch no drinks!!!!! Reminding the child of that constantly but not nagging! "You didn't forget our rules did ya? I did not either...Also share with everyone that he needs a littlt sto
Posted by Anonymous on 01/02/2010 at 10:47:00 pm
Me and my boyfriend are both 18 and he is a bed wetter, i live with him half the week and with my parents half the week. He's never been wet during the night when i sleep with him, its almost like his conciance keeps him slightly awake. But Hes often wet the other 3-4 nights that im not there. I got him to descuss the problem with me, and its made him more confident around me with the problem incase it ever happens when im there (which it probably will at some point).. I dont find it a bad thing at all, it would be embarrassing for everyone, but i would support my boyfriend if it happened when i was there. Hes also tried many different treatments and all have only worked temporarily.
Posted by Anonymous on 31/01/2010 at 08:09:00 pm
I am 25m. Used to be a frequent bed wetter up until 17 years of age. Went through the guilt, embarrassment, etc. Used all possible 'tricks' to get rid of it! My parents had to wake up every day in the middle of the night to wake me up to go wash room. Still i would end up wetting my bed sometimes. However, at 17 I left my home to do my undergraduate studies and since then haven't faced the problem 1 single day. I realised probably the issue was psychological. But from reading the comments, it seems like there are many adults who face the problem as well. I hope that all of you would find 'your' way to recover from the problem. I know how miserable and irritated you feel when u get up at some point in the night and check your bed to find it wet!
Posted by Regina on 13/01/2010 at 05:09:00 am
If u wet the bed don't feel lonley because i recently found out that more than half of my friends wet the bed or recently stopped wetting The bed...so dont get put ur self down about it..it will stop...I'm 14 and I've tried every single thing I could to help me stop..once I stoped trying I thought there was no hope but somehow I just gradually stoped and haven't wetthe bed in 6months and if u wet the bed don't let that hold u back from a sleepover or a vacation..I used pullups my whole life and honestly I don't think one of my friends has noticed that I did wear them so don't be depressed about it all...if there's a will there's a way
Posted by Danno on 12/01/2010 at 02:37:00 am
Hey all, ive wet the bed up and till about a year and half ago, i still do it ocasionally! there are many contributing factors to this problem, stress, lack of sleep...ect! ive tryed alsorts over the years, as a child i had hypnosis (no help) liquid sensative alarm (annoying...and again no help) i went to my doctors and explain this was causing me to lose alot of sleep most nights, and he put me on a medication called dezzmo spray (sorry im not sure what the correct medical name is) its a nostril spray and its one up each nose (but its not for long term use as it can cause complications! i used this to stay at friends houses with and used the excuse "it helps me breath and stops me snoring!" ... thats the embarrasing bit for the younger ones of you! now onto adulthood! ermmm stress ir probably the main cause of my problem, dont get me wrong i havent wet the bed in a long time, but im sure my day will come when it will happen again... ive done it with girlfriends there as well and both where unaware i had this problem i remember laying there for what seemed like hours thinking "hmmm this is going to be difficult to explain" but both understood and told me they loved me, gave me a kiss and then > I < brought the subject up the next day as i wanted to tackle it head on! I know its difficult and its embarrasing but its far more easier to tell someone before the event than during or after... at the end of the day this is a medical problem! Coffee can also set it off, if you drink alot of coffee the caffeine can cause a wet night!... now i tried this and it worked for me... when your going to sleep at night have your eyes close and repeat (in your head) "i will wake up..." over and over... alternativly lay on your stomach and create a fist place your fist inbetween your belly button and your private parts... this causes a pressure on the same sensor/muscle that lets us know (as humans) when the toilet is needed... (it is uncomfortable to sleep like that but it is possi
Posted by embarassed on 05/01/2010 at 03:19:00 pm
I'm 23, i married in 2008 and since then i've been wetting the bed on and off. It's so embarrassing trying to hide the wet spot from my husband till he leaves for work in the morning :( i don't know what to do, i'm too embarrassed to tell him cause he thinks i'm the perfect woman and so smart and i'm scared he'll start thinking i'm dirty and get grossed out with me. I let it out last night and once in the past 2 weeks. It could be exam stress maybe i dunno but i make sure i go to the toilet right before bed and it still happens. Good luck the rest of you, i'm so depressed but im gonna have to tell him sometime
Posted by (8 on 29/12/2009 at 05:58:00 am
i am completely incontinent and i have to wear diapers 24/7 and all my friends know and everyone are accepting, well i used to wear underwear just to fit in and i would not even know i was wetting but then my mom got me diapers for it and honestly i think diapers are more comfortable than regular underwear
Posted by Anonymous on 19/12/2009 at 11:46:00 am
I still wet the bed more often than not and have always done so I'm in my 40's now. I just accept it now as being part of who I am and sleep in nappies and plastic pants and have a plastic sheet on my bed in case of leaks. There are far worse things than bedwetting.
Posted by Anonymous on 17/12/2009 at 07:17:00 am
i'm 16 years old and i wet the bed almost every night its so hard for me to handle mostly because my mom is tired of it i myself am also tired of it but i don't noe what to do... i dont want it to come to the point were i am unable to spent nights at friends or even with boys. i need help with this and fast.
Posted by Anonymous on 12/12/2009 at 07:05:00 pm
me and my boyfriend have recently mooved in together and he wets the bed. i only found this out when i woke up in urine soked underwear. he dosen't do it often but when he dose he always manegers to cover me, and this leaves him feeling really bad. i need to find a way to help him so he dosen't go to bed every night scared that it will happen again.
Posted by Anonymous on 09/12/2009 at 03:06:00 pm
my son wet the bed first time in ages probably two years i only worry that as he gets older and stays over and when he starts drinking that it could happen again and he would be embarrased. He use to wet the bed when younger and on the odd occassions since five.
Posted by :( on 04/12/2009 at 07:27:00 pm
i still wet the bed most nights and have had accidents in the day as weell
Posted by Name on 01/12/2009 at 08:34:00 am
frustrated, your parents need to know that humiliating you not only adds to the problem (from guilt), it also leaves you with mental scars. Tell them tactfully to research the problem on the internet and see the adverse affects that their punishments will cause. You don't like your problem and aren't lazy and would no doubt stop if you knew how. Respectfully tell that to your parents. Also let them know that you are able to control the problem during the day and have no need of 'precautions'. Let them know you can be trusted (not just in controlling your problem during the day, but in other areas as well). There isn't any need for you to be humiliated because again, it only adds to the problem by making you feel worse (and possibly the occurring of the problem more often). And again again, talk to your parents respectfully and tactfully because yelling at them or angrily telling them won't help much if at all. (Imagine if you were in their place /you being the parent and they yelled at you).
Posted by frustrated on 21/11/2009 at 12:52:00 am
i have been a bedwetter for almost a year now and wear a thick cloth diaper and plastic pants to bed every night.it was my parents choice for me.i dont like wearing them as they make feel like a baby.i have told my parents how i feel,but they said this is how i have to deal with it.they wont buy me goodnites or disposables.i havent been to any slumber parties and am afraid to have friends sleepover.the worst part is my parents make me wear a diaper and plastic pants under my dresses for special occasions snd to church once in a while even tho i dont need them during the day.i was diapered last easter and again in may for my confirmation.i was so embarrassed!what can i do?
Posted by debbie on 14/11/2009 at 04:58:00 am
Used to wet the bed when I was little, stopped around 10? Then started again this past year. I am 50 now. I dont drink alcohol.I usually sleep in flannel PJ bottoms and that absorbs most of it, but evidently it has gotten into the mattress. I am wondering if anyone knows of anything I can do to get the terrible smell out of the mattress, its almost new and smells to me. thanks!
Posted by Anonymous on 11/11/2009 at 12:29:00 am
I hear you all, 21 and still wet often,it's gotten better but still a problem, there are no real medical solutions for this, there are drugs and alarms but they don't work for everyone. For those of you that want to do sleepovers... here's what I did. I'd take some pull ups but hide it, once everyone is in bed, I'd put it on under the sleeping bag, thank God it worked for all those years
Posted by embaressed on 02/11/2009 at 04:09:00 am
i havee been bedwetting all my life. im 13 turning 14 ,and i feel soo left because all my friends go to sleepoverss together ,and im the only one that cant because of this promblem .my brother has the same problem , hes 10 years old . the only people that know is my brother ,my mom and my dad . i really want to stop but i have no clue on what to do.. HELP ME !
Posted by lfc-rules on 31/10/2009 at 10:18:00 pm
i am 16 and i wet the bed most nights it doesnt matter how many times i go to the toilet - i still do it my parents keep saying it will clear itself up but i have doubts about that!
Posted by never on 29/10/2009 at 10:56:00 am
ok, so ive never wet the bed and it happened las tnight, i wasnt dreaming about urinating, and i went to the toiet efore going to bed, whats gonig on!? should i be worried?
Posted by ashamed1 on 26/10/2009 at 04:23:00 am
I'm 22 years old and I have been wetting the bed all of my life. I've tried so many things to stop it but it just won't stop. Some nights I'm dry but I wet the bed very frequently. Its so embarrassing because I have wet the bed while I sleep with my boyfriend and it gets on him. I'm so asahmed. So often he wakes me up to tell me to change my sheets because I wet the bed. I just feel like running away and hiding, or walking around with a paper bag over my face to hide the embarrassment. Its not like I do it on purpose. Why would I want to pee on my boyfriend and embarrass myself? And Im so afraid to travel anywhere because what if I wet the bed there? This problem is ruining my life. This is not normal! Im running out of excuses! Please help me.
Posted by martin on 22/10/2009 at 02:15:00 pm
i have been wetting the bed for over 6 years now i did have the problem when i was 4 to 6 years old but medication worked then,now not it is important to seek advice always,after trying months of differant ways to try to stop it still happens so i stop stressing and just were adult nappies (diapers)dissposable,the fact i could now go to sleep knowing that i wont wet the bed was such a great feeling i sleep so well now,i still wake up while i am wetting but fall back to sleep real quick,i do have a partner to i try to hide it but was not going to well and give me more stress i told my partner who was totaly understanding and told me not to worry any more.
Posted by Anonymous on 21/10/2009 at 09:56:00 am
I wet the bed last night. I can't believe it i'm a 33 year old female. I have heard that it can be stress related, is this true? I'm so worried I will do it again.
Posted by Steve on 05/10/2009 at 08:50:00 am
I am 47 and still wet my bed most nights I have always been a bed wetter and although I have had dry periods they never last long and I am back to nightly wetting again naow and wear terry nappies and plastic pants to keep the bed dry.
Posted by Anonymous on 11/09/2009 at 10:53:00 am
my 22 year old son in law has started to bed wet but only since he had a operation on his ankle, whereas another friend used to bed wet but since he had a operation on his back he has not done it since. has any one else experienced similar after operations
Posted by Stephen O'Brien on 06/09/2009 at 10:09:00 pm
I have just started wetting the bed for the first time in 7 years. I try not to think anything of it. If bedwetting bothers you then I suggest adult diapers. It is embarrassing buying them but it will save the inconvenience of changing sheets every night
Posted by our secrite on 04/09/2009 at 03:09:00 am
I've been bedwetting since i was 6 years old, I don't bedwet during the days only night sleep. the only reason why i am awake writing this is because i have just did it again, i feel so dirty and ashamed that this is still happening to me at my age. so far i have been lucky because I have not bedwet someone elses bed sine i was younger. it really chews me up on the inside...no one but certain family members know. it really distresses me
Posted by Phil Littell on 18/08/2009 at 10:39:00 pm
I'm just happy to know I'm not the only one. My bedwetting problem has made it so hard to live a normal life. Thankfully, my partner is very understanding, but, it affected my single life so terribly. I'd be so embarassed and ashamed. Sometimes I'd go a whole week without wetting the bed, and I'd be convinced I was cured. Then, I'd wake up the next day, and there'd be another accident.
Posted by Tina Louise Spiers on 16/08/2009 at 10:21:00 pm
I still haven't grone out of wetting the bed. I have tried a few different types of mediction but none have worked, I have also been given an alarm that sounds an alarm when I am starting to wee, but the problem is by the time I wake i'm already wet. I'm now 35 weeks preganant and really don't want this added stress of bed wetting when I have a new born. Someone PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by someone on 06/08/2009 at 02:58:00 pm
i'm f, 18years old, i'm a bedwetter since i was 8 years old. it's killing me.. in a week, this BAD HABBIT could happen 5times. it's frustating me. and the worst is, i can't hold to get a pee for about 5 minutes. if i hold to go to the toilet more than 5 minutes, my pants will be so wet because of my urine. i was so pathetic. i'm frustating.
Posted by RChesney on 05/08/2009 at 11:46:00 pm
People have problems and it can never be sorted out . It's always best to talk to someone who you trust or you love . Wether it's your parents or even a close friend teacher . Having that feeling of gulit or embrassment is like having your heart broken . Alwayas best to let it out .
Posted by Bedwetter on 03/08/2009 at 06:15:00 pm
i found out that most people wet their bed is a female? is that true?
Posted by phil on 02/08/2009 at 03:50:00 pm
when i was a child i wet the bed every night as i grew up it then stopped, betwwen the age of 37 and 38 it has started again every so often and it is quite embarassing for an adult to still be doing this
Posted by jennefer austin on 26/07/2009 at 12:43:00 am
I wet the bed since 10 year s old
Posted by Embarased on 13/07/2009 at 05:40:00 am
I am so embarrassed. I never wet the bed as a child and lately it has been happening alot but only if i drink lots of alcohol. Prior to this year it has only happened about three times. This year though it has happened about four times. When i wake up i am so ashamed. The last two times it has happened i have been in bed with my boyfriend, once on a double bed and i could hide it. The most recent time was on a single bed and i am pretty sure he noticed and i am so embarrased. i dont think it is something that i can discuss openly, it is so humiliating. I also see that it is more common in males than females, has anyone noticed this? has anyone gone to the doctor about it? has anyone discussed it with a partner? if yes how did it go? i am so worried that he did notice and will break it off due to this.
Posted by rani on 01/07/2009 at 07:55:00 am
causes 4 bedwetting, wat can u do n wat a doctor can do, useful contacts
Posted by Anonymous on 08/06/2009 at 10:18:00 pm
Hi, I'm 18 and I still wet the bed, It Really gets me down as ive never been able to stay over at a friends house, most of my family don't know, Only my mum knows and I honestly don't know that I have done it until I wake up in the morning, Ive Tried All Sorts Of Things Like An Alarm And Prescribed Tablets But Nothing Has Ever Worked, My Friend Really Wants Us To Get A Flat Together But I Know We Can't, Does Anybody Know About Anything That Might Help Me? Please, I Really Don't Want This Going On Forever, Thanks x
Posted by Paddy P on 05/06/2009 at 05:14:00 pm
As an MS sufferer bed wetting has been a way life for 15 years. I get over it by wearing adult napies sounds OTT but it does give you a good nights sleep and stops the wife complaining about washing sheets. Paddy P.
Posted by someperson on 05/06/2009 at 02:48:00 am
I am 22 years old. I am also 8 weeks pregnant. I have not wet thte bed since I was a child and in January I woke up to find myself urinating on myself. At the time I chalked it up to a UTI...Then recently I was in bed with my husband and I was dreaming that I was using the bathroom and woke up to find myself urinating again. My husband said it was just because I was pregnant. Does this happen while your pregnant?
Posted by Anonymous on 30/04/2009 at 11:17:00 pm
I haven't wet the bed in atleast 10 yrs and last night i was sleeping at my boyfriends and wet the bed..he didn't notice and it wasn't that much urine but i was mortified...i'm so scared it will happen again
Posted by james on 22/04/2009 at 09:13:00 am
iam 37 and just lately i started wetting myself when i sleep mostly i wake up when my under wear gets wet
Posted by billy on 14/04/2009 at 10:35:00 pm
i wet the bed every time i have a drink .its become so embaassing that im afraid to meet someone that i like
Posted by Anonymous on 07/04/2009 at 04:02:00 pm
I have a brother who is 19 yrs old and he still wets the bed I would like to help solve this problem can you please tell me what can i do
Posted by Jack on 07/04/2009 at 02:10:00 pm
Ive wet my bed every night for as long as i can remember, i have to wear protection 24/7 as i occasionally day wet
Posted by Anonymous on 02/04/2009 at 05:17:00 pm
I am 21 and I have not wet the bed since I was a little kid. Over Christmas we stayed with my husband and I stayed with my parents. On night I ended up wetting the bed. Of course I had to tell my mom about it. That was embarrassing! She said I was just stressed because the day before we had gotten into a huge fight with my grand mother-in-law. On that occasion there was no dream. I just woke up wet. Since then I have had problems. there have been many nights that I wake up peeing. I usually stop myself before it's enough to get on the bet though. Two night ago I had a dream I was using the toilet and that time I lost it all. I feel so bad. what do I do?
Posted by Robert on 18/02/2009 at 09:51:00 am
I am 46 and still wet my bed most nights
Posted by Anonymous on 16/02/2009 at 12:40:00 pm
I haven't wet the bed for years but then a couple of nights ago I did, luckily I managed to hide it from my husband. I thought that it was extremely weird and just a one off but then I woke up this morning to find that I'd done it again! I am going to be so nervous about going to sleep tonight! I really hope it doesn't continue, I feel so low today.
Posted by UK on 05/02/2009 at 03:32:00 pm
I am 46 and still wet my bed most nights I have always been a bedwetter. These days or should I say nights I wear terry nappies and plastic pants. I will probably always wet the bed but I can think of far worse things.
Posted by w on 03/01/2009 at 08:51:00 pm
i have urinary problem like drops after i pass urine every time, please tell me the right medicine for it
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